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Originally Posted by DubaiSis
I didn't either.
The benefit of being on an anonymous site is you can lay it all out there for better or worse. However, you have to be willing to 1-really tell the whole story and 2-accept the answer you're given. And I can accept that an 18/19 year old may not be the best at telling the whole unvarnished story (assuming we understand parts of the story without actually saying it, for example), but contradicting yourself is not the same as not fully explaining.
It was years for me, for example, before I realized my role in recruitment and that several chapters cut me for very justifiable reasons. But then I never went around asking anyone for analysis or help. Or blaming anyone else for my outcome.
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Just deleted my earlier reply to you- misunderstood the intent based on the sequence of posts.
Above you say something that I think every new poster should think about when coming here to get help- as long as you keep your anonymity, why not just lay it all out there? Sure- you are still getting just one side of the story, but it amazes me how often key details do not get posted until later and very often for the obvious reason someone is coming here for comfort/reassurance and not an honest answer.
This is bad for many PNMs who may read what looks like a horror story about rush, when in fact the horror story was the person who started the thread. Rush is a crazy enough time without people making it sound harder.
Not stating all the facts matters too- like leaving out one is an upperclassman or has been through rush at a given school before. Obviously these are important details that affect the quality of the advice given, and yet so often they have to be found by watchful posters who remember who said what last year or do searches.
All this ever does is get the person posting some kind of cheerleading section that is supposed to magically compensate for what is really going on. It does no good for other advice seekers who read the threads, and it wastes the time of regular posters (though the entertainment value can often far outshine that.)
Ok- rant off, I will behave again for a while.
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