Age Difference

[IowaStatePhiPsi]

youngest I've dated has been 4 years younger (me 19, he 15 and now another at me 21 he 17)

oldest I've dated has been 12 years older (me 20 he 32)

General age range for me right now (me being 21) is 18 to 25- so about 4 years either way.

[AlphaFrog]

My fiance is exactly 1 1/2 Months younger then me...although when we first started dating, he told me his birthday was in December, which would make him a month older then me (he thought I wouldn't go out with him if I knew he was younger then him ) He's a great combo of youth/maturity. When it comes to work, paying bills, "real world stuff" he's really mature and responsible...but he also totally has fun going to the park and playing on the playground equipment and blowing soap bubbles.

[sugar and spice]

My babydaddy Rob is 23 and I'm 21. I think that's a good range. Plus I like the older boys.

My fiancee Kiki is 11 days older than me!

[4RunnerStar]

Originally posted by xo_kathy
So true. Heck, anyone's spouse could get hit by a bus tomorrow and they'd be widowed long before they intended. I mean, sure, I might be younger than average when I lose mine, but it's a price I'm willing to pay!

soooooooooo true. i'm tellin you there's nothing like a city official knocking on your door at 2:30 in the morning telling you to get ready because he's there to take you to the hospital because your boyfriend/husband has been hurt in a fire. or being at a fire he's fighting and not knowing where he's at...is he on the other side of the house changing his air tank or is he still in there...because the last two minutes since you've seen him safe seem like an hour has passed. i can deal with these things more than i could if i were called while he was supposed to be working at the police department. that really scares me. there are some bad people out there. he doesnt talk about fights or shootings much. i guess he doesnt want to scare me.

these things keep you up at night. it doesnt cross your mind during the day because you have things to distract you and everything seems safer during the day. at night it is more dangerous and things run through your head like...what would i do if he didnt come home in the morning...

it also teaches you to never take a moment for granted and if you do...you feel really bad for it.

[PennyCarter]

I agree that there are no set rules. But I also think its about where the two people are in life. Someone who's 18 dating someone who's 23 can be weird because the 23 year old has experienced so much. You grow and change so much while you are in college. But at times love happens and no one can explain it or argue with it. My boyfiend is 5.5 years older than me. It has never been an issue for us, but we also started dating my senior year of college. We both agreed that it wouldn't have worked even a year earlier. He would have felt out of place at all my sorority events and my college stuff would have seem less significant to him. Not that he doesn't understand the importance of those things to me, but he had already experienced it and moved past college.

[Shima-Mizu]

Originally posted by PennyCarter
I agree that there are no set rules. But I also think its about where the two people are in life. Someone who's 18 dating someone who's 23 can be weird because the 23 year old has experienced so much. You grow and change so much while you are in college. But at times love happens and no one can explain it or argue with it. My boyfiend is 5.5 years older than me. It has never been an issue for us, but we also started dating my senior year of college. We both agreed that it wouldn't have worked even a year earlier. He would have felt out of place at all my sorority events and my college stuff would have seem less significant to him. Not that he doesn't understand the importance of those things to me, but he had already experienced it and moved past college.

My boyfriend is 4 1/2 years older than me. When we started dating I was 18 and he was 22. Then he had his birthday back in February, so now I'm 18 and he's 23 (hence the quoting this) and in 2 weeks I'll be 19 and he'll still be 23. We started dating when I was a freshman, but he wouldn't date me at first for a few months due to the fact that I was a freshman and he just thought it weird to date a freshman. By the time we started dating though it definitly was no longer an issue.

But yeah, age can be a problem if you let it be. I personally have always been able to relate better to people older than me for some reason, and he didn't mind helping my mental maturity along in not letting me get away with immature things on the rare occasions I let them slip. We compliment one another because we've gotten to know each other so well and age really isn't an issue with us. It's only really an issue if we're in public since he can go up to a bar and get a drink and I have to sit sober for the night. We're used to that though, and this is not a problem. Personality really over rides a lot of age things in my mind... if you fit together mentally well with a person, age becomes only a number.

[CatStarESP4]

When I was in high school, I didn't want to date boys who were younger than me. I prefered older guys. For example, I briefly dated a boy who was 16 months my junior during my sophomore year (he was a freshman). He was very immature and there were other issues with him (but that's another post). Ironically, I went to my Senior prom with a guy who was two years my junior, but he's a friend and we had a lot of fun!

Now, I have a crush on a guy is 7 years my junior and the age difference doesn't matter to me.

[labeachgrl]

I'm 33 and I just met a 23 year old that I was attracted to against my will. His maturity level seems older (most of my friends thought he was mid/late 20s), I think it's because he's well-read and has traveled internationally. There was a pretty good connection, and although I tried to blow him off as a serious interest, he's made an impression on my mind. My friends who met him thought he was great and made me promise not to be an "age-ist".

[Tippiechick]

Up until my husband, I had never seriously dated anyone that wasn't at least 5 years older than myself. I liked it that way. We clicked.

The oldest was a 10 year difference. And, I almost married that one. (Until a sister broke us up -- No joke.) Guess he had a thing for ZTAs!

I am married to the perfect man for me now, but he's only 2 years older.

I think it has to do with the people involved.

My grandparents and great grand-parents all have huge age differences. My mother and father have a 7 year difference. It seems very normal to me.

[IrishPhiSig]

my boyfriend is 2 years younger than i am. It doesn't bother me at all...although some people seem to find it odd because of the whole "men should be older" crap society feeds us. He's quite mature for his age and he looks older, so its really not something people look twice at when we're out. Although I have had some comments from people about the age difference as in "Why would you date someone soooo much younger?" Two years people! please!!

[XOMichelle]

I feel like I must have posted in a thread like this at some point in time.... but I can't find my reply.

Anyway, I dated a guy 8 years older than me, and it worked out pretty well. I had some issues with him being a parent, but we got along very well and had a reasonably healthy realtionship. That being said, the reason we broke up was somehwat age-realted. We had been dating a long time without being in love with each other. I was totally OK with continuing to date him, however he felt pressure to move on and find someone he could marry since he wants to do that sooner rather than later. So there you have it.

[omegamcgee]

I'm "seeing someone" (we're not serious) who's 3 years older. We dated when we were in high school, I was 14 he was 17. That was bad, because we just weren't on the same level. But now, things are much better. The age difference doesn't seem as big.

[CUGreekgirl]

lets see....

first guy I ever went on a date with was 26 and I was 19... 7 yrs difference

2nd guy was 22 and I was 19... so 3 yrs difference

3rd guy (and the only one i've been really serious with) was 25 and I was 20... so 5 yrs difference. It was a rather big difference but it didn't seem like it. He'd spent the first few yrs of his college life at the citadel and was also a soccer player while there so he was on a very strict and rigorous schedule so he never go to really party, so he did that the few yrs after. He wasn't quite as mature as most 25 yr olds, but that was fine with me.

4th guy was 20 and I was 20, but he was 6th mnths younger than me. VERY immature (although he is constantly telling me how mature he is). This didn't work out sort of b/c age. He didn't want to be serious at such a young age and I was looking for something serious. Instead it ended up as a f*ck buddy situation.

the guy I may very possibly start dating soon is 20. he'll be 21 in august and i'll turn 22 in november. He is pretty mature for his age and I think age won't affect us. I'm already a yr behind in school so if it turned out serious we would end up graduating at the same time.

[PM_Mama00]

My ex is a year older than me. We stopped talking because he started dating a woman who was 11 years older than him. He was 21 at the time. I'm sorry... it made me sick. And it wasn't even like she was pretty at all! And from what I hear she treated him like a son. I guess he liked that? They're still best friends, and he and I talk again, and it still makes me sick. She's 36 now, but she could prolly pass for somewhere in the 40s.

[texas*princess]

I've never dated anyone younger!

I've never dated anyone more than 2 years older than me. I think that has been mainly b/c I've been dating the same guy for awhile.