Will the interests please calm down

[Little32]

Damn: This seems so familiar. Hope...Hope...is that you. Hasn't this topic already been posted.
I gotta agree with all that has been said before, if it is not your butt being kissed why sweat it.

[mojo]

For those who interested. Ask on. Don't let anyone discourage you. If you are discouraged that easily, you probably won't have what it takes to make it anyway.

[Sexy Mocha]

Originally posted by ANONYMOUS 'TIL ASKED:
I can say that I do recall a message that was written in a particular forum (I won't say which one) but the young woman wrote a particularly LONG post about how she was sitting at her school's libraray/study lounge (if I recall correctly). She went on to say how she couldn't believe that she was hearing two women talk about the stereotyped personalities/looks of a particular organization and how the other said she was going to rush but she didn't know.

Besides the fact that the e-mail system "seems" anonymous, I would have to say that was a form of a$$ kissing. Although posting such really wouldn't benefit the woman either way (because she may not attend school where any of the sorority members on the board attended) it was a$$ kissing.

I've seen it a million times. Like "These women don't know that they shouldn't do XYZ?" "I would never do that because blah,blah, blah." Okay so you may be a more seasoned a$$ kisser than the next prospective but still an a$$ kisser nonetheless.

It's a$$ kissing any was you slice it.

What's the purpose of letting the women on an e-mail page know that women in your library were discussing them or not discussing them besides a$$ kissing?

I will say that the women in the forum didn't seem to mind so what the hell.

I did expect one of them to say something like "Although it is all well and good for you to inform us that XYZ is going down at your school, I would suggest that you take more time tending to whatever it is you were tending to prior to your overhearing this discussion and not what people are saying about my organization."

But...no one said that so it must be cool with them. I KNOW that in my particular organization's forum, someone would have broken it down like that. But to each his/her own.

OUT!!!

Now ain't this a b*tch
I just get home &check this forum and I see folks are in here still hatin'!!
*sigh* If ignorance was a crime, a few of you in here would be doing life!
I really don't need to respond to this, but since I see I'm on your mind this much (dang)...I will answer your inquiring little a$$....I posted that because it had just happened...I was shocked by it and just plain ole wanted to tell my sista friends what happened. The same reason people come in these forums and tell what happened to them at work, or what other interests were wearing to the Rush...OR what happened to them at the mall...Or how other interests had the nerve to do a certain call at an informational OR...about the arrogant questions some interests pose to members of XYZ...and I could go on and on, but I will not. I'm still on a high from the most beautiful day i have had in a long time
I won't let you angry people ruin it..and if, for just one day, those of you who are so concerned with me kissing ass can find something else to do with yourselves, then please do so. Life is too short to be getting all funky and riled up over something you read on the internet. Read a book, drink a cup of herbal tea, go to church....DO SOMETHING!!!!!
Peace.

[Sexy Mocha]

And another thing....Let me know what an interest in...let's say Georgia...would gain from kissin' a member of XYZ's ass who lives in...West Bubble F***?!?!?

Please tell me, Oh Great Gods of Knowing whose kissing Ass.

What? Are members down in Mississippi going to fly up to New York to give someone they chat with on the internet...THE DAM INTERNET the thumbs up to the members of the chapter at her school? Will they send a personal letter first class? Praising her and all the "You know you're ghetto when..." lists she's posted?
Get a grip! Start acting like women and cease with the nonsense!

[MissDiamond]

For all the interests that are trying to stay positive among all the nastiness that's going on here, STAY FOCUSED on what's really important. That is keeping your grades up, doing your community service, getting to know the members of the chapter your seeking membership to and please ignore the people who have started all this drama. You are going to come across a lot of people during your endeavors that are going to try you. DON'T ALLOW THEM TO GET UNDER YOUR SKIN!
To those that are in here causin' the drama, for whatever miserable reason you have for doing it, remember God Don't like ugly. What you reap is what you sew.
For the young lady who tried to call sexy mohca out for posting the topic about the two girls having the conversation at her school, you mentioned that you were in organization. Wouldn't it be best for you to worry about what's going on in YOUR OWN DAM HOUSE before you start snoopin round other people's back yards? i don't know what your org. is, but I'm sure if you looked carefully enough you would see some ass kissers in your dam forum. Concentrate on that. It kills me the way people are always trying to find out what OTHER people are doing wrong, as if their sh*t don't stink.

Sexy Mocha handle your business girl!

And with that, i'm out!

[daisymargarita]

Originally posted by Diva_56:
How would I look if I just went to XYZ's rush and didn't know a soul there? It is about geting to know people in the community and getting to know other members of the sorority. Why would I join a sorority in which I don't know any of the members, and just popped up one day.

Hey, I respect everything else you said in your post, it was well said! But I don't agree with the above, because I just accepted a bid from a sorority yesterday, where I didn't know a single one of them before last night. Yes it is about making new friends and meeting people, which is why it's not a bad thing if you don't already know people involved. When I ran to them yesterday, even though I didn't really know them, every single one of them knew my name and they all were hugging me like I was their best friend. And I had a blast with them last night. I think it feels even better when you've made a really big impression on people you DON'T already know.

[MIDWESTDIVA]

I had previously chosen to ignore this post because I think it is ignorant, but since it already has 52 replies, I may as well add my two cents.

The fact that the instigators choose to be unregistered speaks volumes. If they had any t*ts (or b*lls) they could always register and email the a$$ kissers directly. Please instigators, register first, clown second. I personally look forward to any direct emails that I may receive.

Hugs and Kisses to ALL!

[This message has been edited by MIDWESTDIVA (edited September 23, 2000).]

[Positive Kay]

Message to Mocha,

Girl, don't sweat it. Go 4 yours. This kind of negativity that has been posted by some should not be tolerated. The reason why I say this is because some of the dumb stuff seems to be directed to you. Don't pay any REAL attention to it. Because if negativity was a stolen breath, we would ALL die of suffocation! All interestees....keep your heads up

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Set your goal!! Strive!! Bask in your reward!!

Positive Kay

[Sugar_N_Spice]

Whoa!! Really? Is it that serious?! "Damn" and "Pleaze"--you people need to get lives and stay the heck out of ours. You make other DECENT, RESPECTABLE interest like myself look terrible. I recently started posting at this website b/c it provides a POSITIVE atmosphere for interests like myself to talk to members of the orgs we are interested in, as well as to just talk about anything we want to--music, movies, etc. You unregistered people that come in here causiong drama make me sick. Don't you think that you are also kissing major a$$ by posting this thread in the first place (so some members of the orgs can agree with you)? You're the ones kissing a$$ (kissing it all up in the crack, okay!!).You seem to have nothing better to do than sit at home on your computer and post ignorant a$$ messages. Miss Diamond and Midwest Diva said it well (And NO I am not A$$ kissing b/c I don't even know if they are members of any org. or not b/c I new here). Get a life. And about what was said about Sexy Mochoa, did it even occur to you that some of us don't use our "real" e-mail address, thus making it very difficult to track us down? And if you are conducting yourself like a lady, as Sexy Mochoa does, then you have nothing to be afraid of do you?! Maybe you should stay unregistered, b/c I know for a fact that some members of BGLO's would put you on the "banned 'fo life" list!!

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"If there is no struggle, there is no progress"--Frederick Douglass

[Monique]

wait.. I'm lost.. was she talking about u Mocha when she said interrest need to quite kissing ass. If so why is she hatin and why didn't she just say your name instead of all this other bullshit..LOL..man some people i tell ya

[IotaNet]

To the Group:

I just came across one of the best-written documents about "How to behave as a prospective member" that I have ever seen!

So you want to be a ...

This is from an "unofficial" website for one of the NPHC sororities. Even still, (IMHO) the advice given here is applicable to joining any NPHC group.

Perhaps the words of wisdom on this page will have value to members of this board and perhaps quiet down some of the hue and cry on this (obviously, very sensitive) topic.

Just my $19.63

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IotaNet
Iota Phi Theta Fraternity, Inc.
3AH80

Kappa Kappa Psi Honorary Band Fraternity
Zeta Nu Chapter, Spring, 1979

[Sexy Mocha]

Hey All! It's SOOOO good to see all the positive folk posting in this thread!
I appreciate all the encouragement...you ladies sure do know how to help a sista keep her head up.
I wish every interest in here luck in their endeavors, even those that are hatin' on me.

(Oh Lord, I better re-read this, it may come off as a$$ kissing)

[mgdzkm433]

ok, um WHAT?!? Is this really and argument? Geez people get worked up over the most stupid things. Why don't you ALL calm down and let people be themselves. Hello, it's a message board. You don't have to deal with people here if you don't want to so just calm down! If someone else is hyper and likes to talk about their experiences at lenghth good for them! If you think it's annoying, just remember that everyone has annoying qualities--even you. I personally think it's great that people are interested in the greek system, if they want to show it by asking tons of question or whatever, that's great. If they are shy and don't want to ask questions or are uncomfy, that's great too! It's called personality people. We all have different personalities, so get over it and quit whining because you don't like how someone else acts!

[BlueReign]

Thank you IotaNet for making some sense on this topic. As usual when you post there is a lesson to be learned.

Sexy Mocha, calm down girl. We all know you post all over the place. Save all your energy and your words for your pledging days for that esteemed sorority you want to be a part of. Much luck to you. I got your back and let us know when you make it.

[Living Legend]

Here's something else I don't understand about some of these interestees:

How do you feel that kissing my butt(or the butt of a member of whatever BGLO you are seeking membership into)on the INTERNET is going to help you out AT ALL on your CAMPUS?

What I'm trying to say is that you can go to all the chatrooms, forums, and websites that you want to, but if you don't make yourself visible to the chapter that you aspriring membership to, it is all in vain. Sure we can give you some advice or whatnot, but overall WE CAN'T HELP YOU GET IN.

I get sick and tired of seeing these people come into forums talking about "If anyone can e-mail me some info about your organization my address is...". DO YOUR OWN HOMEWORK. There are no handouts in Greekdom, ladies and gentlemen. If you really have the love for the organization, you will do your own research.

On another note, PLEASE make an honest assessment of WHY you aspire to be a member of that organization, because we DO NOT need any more t-shirt wearers or "incognegro" frat and sorors. If you are not coming in ready to WORK(and I don't mean just in step practice), then please find something else to occupy your time. Just because you feel that group XYZ "runs the yard" or "has the tightest parties/steps" does not necessarily mean that it is the organization for you. Conversely, that also does not mean that they will accept you for membership. Ask yourself what you can do for the organization, not what being in that organization can do for you. If you were a nobody beforehand, sorry to say it, even after you cross and sport your letters you will STILL be a nobody.

Just my $19.14 on the subject