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10-14-2003, 10:39 PM
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Rachel--
There is one more thing I wish you would consider when examining why you think your sisters don't care about the difficulties you're having.
In addition to communicating from your POV, there is also the way the sisters process it themselves internally. They may not know what to say to you, and may even be afraid of saying the *wrong* thing, so they say nothing.
This is a problem I've struggled with for a long time. (To use myself as an example.) I work in high-tech medicine where life and death issues are daily fare. You would think I would have any possible conversation about illness, etc, down pat. Wrong. I get so tongue-tied when someone close to me or a friend gets seriously ill or dies, that I am utterly worthless. It's not that I don't care, but I just care SO much that I can't put together a sentence at such a horrible time.
I don't know the ladies you're describing, so I can't say this is definitely the case, but it may be a possibility.
Is there someone at school health services who can act as a counselor to explain coping issues related to illness? This can break some ice as well.
I wish you all the best in whatever path you choose.
Adrienne
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10-14-2003, 10:50 PM
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Addriene makes a very good point. I know my sisters love me, but they are terrified to talk to me about GPBoy dying. They will not mention it to me and always change the subject when I bring it up. Sometimes people get weirded out by this stuff.
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10-14-2003, 11:09 PM
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I agree with what has just been said as well...some people just don't know what to say...because often there really isn't much they can say to fix things. When my mom died, a lot of my sister came to her funeral, but afterwards, it was like nothing happened...and whenever anything about "mom's" would come up (like the discussion of having a mother-daughter tea), everyone would look at me like they felt guilty about mentioning it...so make sure you let your sisters know that it's okay to talk about everything that is happening and that you think it would help you more than hurt you. Best of luck with everything.
CJ
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10-15-2003, 12:48 AM
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More really big *HUGS* from me.
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10-15-2003, 07:31 AM
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