A question for the guys.... - Page 2

alphaiota · #16 01-04-2003, 08:41 PM

at miami they are so strict when it comes to greek socials anyways that lists and wristbands are at every party around. it's becoming more rare for a frat to have an open house party b/c of the ifc rules and regulations concerning socials.
during the registered party time, every person present has to be affiliated with the fraternity or sorority involved. sometimes gf's are brought in the back door and just kept on the dl. either way, there is an over list that is strict. ifc and panhel love to break up parties here. after the registered time then it's a free for all usually.
as for sororities, there's no question of who's allowed. only sisters, pledges, and their dates.

shelley j
sigma k

Blaire · #17 01-04-2003, 08:49 PM

i can see where everyone is coming from..thank you for all the responses!

Blaire

The_Nash · #18 01-04-2003, 09:25 PM

Most of the time we have open parties when they are more chill. We don't mind when other frats come and party with us, as long as they show us respect. When we are throwing rush events, or blowouts, we usually have a guest list and I have a lot of friends in other frats, so they usually end up on the list.

Tom Earp · #19 01-04-2003, 10:29 PM

Hello, open parties!! Da!! Risk Management!

We have no parties that anyone but members, dates and guests are invited to by Brothers!

Almost got our Charter Yanked for one we did 4 years ago! It aint worth it!

Uninvited caqn cause problems and guess whose name is on
it? Who gets the blame!?????

You can answer that question!

Or can you!?

#20 01-04-2003, 10:46 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Tom Earp
Hello, open parties!! Da!! Risk Management!

We have no parties that anyone but members, dates and guests are invited to by Brothers!

Almost got our Charter Yanked for one we did 4 years ago! It aint worth it!

Uninvited caqn cause problems and guess whose name is on
it? Who gets the blame!?????

You can answer that question! Or can you!?

Wow, my point actually makes more sense when Tom types it.

How scary is that?

Just kiddin bud

That's exactly what i'm talking about though. As a risk reduction officer, i'm liable and can be sued for things that occur at our parties. Another reason i'm not too keen on randoms i don't know walking around our parties.

Kitso
KS 361 minutes until i get off of work

queequek · #21 01-05-2003, 12:21 AM

First of all, at Iowa State. nobody will show up at a party with any letters on .. that's a big NO NO for us (you know, if it is a wet function, then hide your letters).

We are really strict with party regulation, ie wristband, no hard liquor at dance party, invites, beer ticket, etc, so as long as they have invites, they are ok to join us (most likely invites from one of brothers). So, the answer is YES, we allow people from another fraternity to come to our fraternity.
We had one incident, however, back in 1999 .. when a group of XY fraternity got pissed off because we won overall Homecoming, and when we had big party the night after Homecoming, they came without invites, and started a fight. Since then, we have bad relationship with them. Oh well ...

sigtau305 · #22 01-06-2003, 09:42 PM

At our House, we usually don't mind except for rush. The TKE"S Had their events on friday nights while we have ours on saturday. The one rule between both of us is both groups don't wear letters when visiting each other's houses.

James · #23 01-06-2003, 10:56 PM

LOL, he probably put up with it and didn't just leave just to please you. You obviously didn't suggest you should leave as soon as he started to get hassled so he figured you wanted to stay. It was nice of him to put up with that for you.

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Originally posted by AchtungBaby80
I'm not a guy so I guess I should just stay out of this one and let the men answer, but this is a sore subject with me. Once I took my boyfriend to a party that my sorority was having with a fraternity, but it wasn't an official date party function or anything...just a regular party, so I thought it would be all right. Well, as soon as we walked in, several guys in the fraternity pounced on my boyfriend and were yelling at him, asking him why he was there. They hauled him off to the kitchen to talk to him "in private," and he had to put up with the third degree about who he was, etc. The guys made fun of his accent, and spoke to him as though he couldn't understand English (which is his native language). And on top of all that, they demanded that he PAY them for the privilege of staying at "their" party! My boyfriend paid them, of course, even though I think he should have told those guys to kiss off. Just what were they trying to accomplish? I was thorougly angry, and to this day I try and avoid going to functions with that fraternity because of the way they behaved.

PhiMuJulia · #24 01-06-2003, 11:04 PM

Question do people really wear their letters to partys, cause at my school thats like suicide

AchtungBaby80 · #25 01-06-2003, 11:07 PM

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Originally posted by James
LOL, he probably put up with it and didn't just leave just to please you. You obviously didn't suggest you should leave as soon as he started to get hassled so he figured you wanted to stay. It was nice of him to put up with that for you.

I didn't want to stay, but I agreed after he told me he was getting the last laugh by drinking a fair amount of their beer and hooch. He did a good job, all right.

PhiMuJulia, wearing letters at parties is unheard of at my school. You just don't do that. With my chapter, if anyone saw us, we'd be in trouble faster than you could bat an eye.

MattJackson5 · #26 01-07-2003, 12:07 AM

What is such a big deal if someone is at an open party and someone else wears their letters? It sounds like you're all acting like a bunch of high school kids. This bullshit is what gives Greeks a bad name. I'm a Lambda Chi and if a Pi Lam or an ATO or a TKE came in wearing their letters, then I won't mind; but the second someone starts a fight or anything, they get kicked out just like anyone else would. Peaceful coexistence is a must if a Fraternity or a Sorority doesn't want to have their charter revoked.

Betarulz! · #27 01-07-2003, 03:30 AM

At Nebraska letters at a party, or even to the bars is a big party foul. It's one of the first things we tell pledges when they move in for the fall.

Usually, b/c parties at Nebraska are almost exclusively off-campus, other fraternity members don't know where everyone's party houses are, which therefore cuts down on the number of random fraternity guys. Our biggest problem comes from just randoms who may or may not come with girls and somehow find out about the event. We tend to ask them to leave b/c they are a risk management issue, and usually wont' treat girls the way they will be treated by the brothers.

There are only a few times I can remember when a lot of guys from another chapter have been to one of our party houses and they have all been for afterhours following huge parties we've thrown (I'm talking our top three biggest parties after Initiation and the camping date party we call Dynamo). In a sense they have been invited for afterhours and are not a big deal.

Rudey · #28 01-07-2003, 04:02 AM

Our school has open parties open to anyone who pays at the door (greeks, non greeks, even non students). Even the supposedly dry house on our campus still has open parties.

-Rudey
--And I've seen guys wear hats but not lettered sweats to a party

Blaire · #29 01-07-2003, 02:30 PM

At MTSU, girls NEVER EVER wear letters to parties...guys do. They show up in formal shirts, stiched letter shirts, hats, you name it. That's always seemed kinda weird to me...we were always told that we can't drink in our letters...but guys do...

Oh, well...to each his own, I guess...

Thanks for all the responses....I feel very informed!

Blaire

SigkapAlumWSU · #30 01-07-2003, 10:42 PM

Girls never wear letters out. Occasionally you will see some girls and their dates for a function in the function t-shirts at the bar pre-funking, but rarely. Guys are a lot more prone to wearing letters out, both to parties and the bar, but no one is stupid enough to wear block letters to a party. First, it's disrespecful, and second, if you come weaving home at all hours of the morning with a bunch of brothers and IFC sees you.. well, not a good idea.
It's pretty customary to ask people at the door:
Are you Pan, IFC, Police, Law Enforcement, or LCB?
If you are one of thse things, you have to answer yes, so it is a safe simple way to let the party keep happening. I was once with a group of friends going to a live-out party i knew, and we have probably 5 girls and one guy, and they wouldn't let the guy in. He didn't even go to the school, and they tried to tell him that it was a liability isue, but what about all those girls in there? aren't they a liability issue? More than likely, they just wanted only girls at the party, which is usually how it is.