Enna05's Recruitment at USC

[violets]

Yes, I know we'd love to hear from you and see how your semester is going. I'm sure you're giving 'em hell at half time!
Go FLAGS!!!
violets

[mmcat]

bumpty ...bumpty...boo
i pm'd you.

[southerncalgpb]

i happen to know the COB process didnt work out for her either....




did you guys ever think that, regardless of your good intentions, telling her to keep thrusting herself in front of the USC recruitment firing squad was actually BAD advice?


i rushed the same year as she did, so i had no concrete means of helping her....
but even if i had been able to try... i now know that rush here is RUTHLESS.

likely my hands would have been tied.




(besides, contrary to what others have said, gamma phi does not C-O-B.)

Originally posted by southerncalgpb
did you guys ever think that, regardless of your good intentions, telling her to keep thrusting herself in front of the USC recruitment firing squad was actually BAD advice?

There are too many overzealous rush fanatics who like to blow sunshine up a PNMs ass. I'm serious.

[southerncalgpb]

no kidding

Originally posted by southerncalgpb
no kidding

I don't know what's more appalling -- the sunshine committee or the fact that they were getting excited about a psycho PNM.

Don't know if you searched through dnagirl's 12 posts, but she ended up forming her own sorority--ODB. RIP ODB.

Every year during rush it's the same -- the same people will keep on encouraging a rejected PNM to keep going. At first it was "you could always COB". Now some people are friggin ridiculous when they suggest "you could always AI".

It's so easy to blow sunshine up the ass, but unless they're 100% familiar with the campus (and I know at least 3 GCers here are familiar with USC rush as current/former advisors), then everyone else should just shut the fcuk up.

[amycat412]

ditto OTW.

Look, if you did not go to the school, or have a good friend who did, you have NO IDEA what the rush process is.

USC is EXTREMELY competitive by any standards. People who rush again and again are not exactly looked at as prime rushees. That's just the way it is.

[33girl]

Originally posted by OohTeenyWahine
Don't know if you searched through dnagirl's 12 posts, but she ended up forming her own sorority--ODB. RIP ODB.

bumping this thread is like making me live through ODB's death all over again.

I'm sad.

Originally posted by 33girl
bumping this thread is like making me live through ODB's death all over again.

I'm sad.

I'm sorry, Sheila. I didn't mean to make you sad.

We should observe another moment of silence for the late great ODB.

[adpiucf]

Ghetto Superstar, that is what you are... Come away with me ... To another place...

In all seriousness, to all PNM's: sorority life is wonderful and fun, and we'd be very happy for you if you all join sororities.

BUT ...

As with all extracurriculars, some people are just a better fit for sororities than others. Before you go flaming me for that statement, also consider that some people are a better fit for the school newspaper, Student Government, the dance team, school choir, etc. All are worthwhile activities where you'll make wonderful friends. But you have to be right for the organization, and it has to be right for YOU. (You'll learn the same is true of a professional career-- if you're not a good fit with the people you work with, it doesn't matter how plush your office and 401K-- you still have to get up every morning and play with people who you view as challenging.)

The POINT: If you've gone into sorority recruitment a couple of times and it hasn't panned out, TRY ANOTHER ACTIVITY! If you're cut multiple times, take it as a sign to give something else a try. There's no shame in not being a member of a sorority. There's nothing wrong with you. Every chapter of every sorority varies. Seriously! (You might want to read the book "Maybe He's Just Not That Into You" and apply it to your sorority situation.)

You're in college to get an education. There are dozens of extracurriculars that will give you a sense of belonging and lifelong sisterhood. You don't need to transfer universities just to get into a sorority, nor do you need to beat yourself up over why you were cut from recruitment.

Throughout your life, you will experience both great joy and great rejection. Allow yourself to experience those full range of emotions and move on. Rejection hurts. But get up and get over it -- you have too many great gifts to share with the world. So get out there and discover your passion-- and be happy! Just quit beating yourself over the head, and badgering us for "why was I cut" scenarios. We don't know. No member of the sorority that cut you is going to tell you. So just have your cry, get over it and get on with your life. Carpe Diem!

ETA: Also take a step back before you go posting on GC. You're probably not a psycho, but somehow can come off that way when you ask the same question 37 times. So to be kind yet firm: Get over it offline or take the speculation to your best friends, who will while away the hours, pouring over your every move at recruitment. WE are not your best friends. We're an online community-- we shouldn't be your primary support.

[ZTAngel]

Yes and yes again.

I'm so glad that everyone on GC is so encouraging to the PNMs that go through recruitment. Recruitment is an exciting time BUT I think that some GCers become overzealous when it comes to the GC PNMs and, in effect, become almost blinded to what is best for this PNM. Recruitment can be a heartbreaking experience for some and to encourage someone to go through rush, COB, or to tell someone to become an AI can be futile. There are people out there who have rushed several times and they eventually become a member of a sorority but we all know that that is rare. Like amycat said, PNMs who go through recruitment several times are not looked at as prime rushees. In all honesty, while I was a collegiate member (and I know adpiucf can vouch for this), we had many girls who would go through recruitment over and over and over again even after being cut from every sorority during formal recruitment and not getting a bid during COB. Whether it was because of grades or reputation, these girls were obviously doing themselves a disservice by rushing every year. For us to encourage some girls to keep trying over and over and over again at competitive schools or when they're GPAs are low is doing them a disservice.

Be encouraging to these PNMs but know when to back off and realize that not everyone is cut out for a sorority. It's the honest truth. If a sorority were for everyone, then we'd be a club that didn't have any sort of recruitment and we'd let anyone in.

[James]

This is like from two years ago lol.

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Originally posted by James
This is like from two years ago lol.

I was about to post the same thing.

[33girl]

tell miss bump de bump who had to get her two cents in. I guess telling a message board full of strangers that someone else had an unsuccessful rush gave her a special feeling or something.

[kddani]

Originally posted by 33girl
tell miss bump de bump who had to get her two cents in. I guess telling a message board full of strangers that someone else had an unsuccessful rush gave her a special feeling or something.

i was kinda thinking that, too.