Rho Chi Suggestions Anyone???

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[finest_alum]

I didn't go thru formal rush, but a roommate of mine did.. she ended up w/o a bid (I'm guessing because she was a junior, but whatever). Anyways, her Rho Chi actually called and LEFT A MESSAGE that she didn't get a bid. That was HEARTLESS. I'd say, if any girl in your group gets no bid, try your best to go spend a half hour w/ her and tell her to her face. She's going to need a shoulder.

[CutiePie2000]

Originally posted by eyllom:
Hi I'm gonna be a Rho Chi next month for fall recruitment and i was wondering if anyone had advice, thing to do/not to do, or any stories? What is the best part of being one and what is the worst? Thanks

Thank you for soliciting advice on how to be a better Rho Chi...
Please read my thread on the horrible experience that happened to me... http://www.greekchat.com/forums/ubb/...ML/000187.html

(I'm guessing because she was a junior, but whatever). Anyways, her Rho Chi actually called and LEFT A MESSAGE that she didn't get a bid. That was HEARTLESS. I'd say, if any girl in your group gets no bid, try your best to go spend a half hour w/ her and tell her to her face. She's going to need a shoulder. [/B]

Im guessing th reason she didnt get a bid was that she was a JR, that at least wasnt probably the only reason, sorry though.

But I'd never leave a message, i think at my school we have to actually find the girls.

Thanks though, if someone left news like that on my voice mail, i'd be devistated.

Thanks finest-alum
- MRK

[caddd365]

Hi there!
I was a rho chi a couple of years back and I had a great time! You get to meet these wonderful girls who will soon be part of the greek system and even if they go to another house, you still stay connected because they will remember the person who answered all their questions. The best thing to do is to help them compile a list of questions they might want to ask and tell them about the great events that the greek community does as a whole.. you might also want to brush up on everyone's charity and flower or color or mascot, like that you don't seem biased to your house over another....
Hope this helps! Good Luck!

Thanks caddd365 for the suggestion, ill brush up on my info, good idea! Thanks again- MRK

[SoCalGirl]

Remember that the easiest way to figure out what chapter a girl is from, is to pay attention to which chapter she treats like the plague!

Try to react and treat each chapter (and their alumnae) the same. Last year we had 3 PX's. Each of which did their best to even avoid eye contact. So, just to torture them, I took every opportunity to make silly faces at them. Meanwhile, PX's from other chapters are way friendly and chit chatting w/ me and our other alumnae.

[aephi alum]

I have to agree w/ finest_alum, you don't just leave a message on someone's machine that they didn't get a bid. That's just nasty.

Got a great story, though. At my school we had a lot of Asian students, many of whom had adopted American names. When I was a Rho Chi I had a rushee who had registered under her Asian name, but introduced herself to sisters during rush under her American name. Unfortunately there was another girl who had registered under the same American name, then chose not to rush. Well, one sorority didn't invite this girl back because they got the two girls confused... and she went up to their check-in desk and challenged them!! They rechecked their votes and realized their mistake - that she should have been invited to the current round of parties. On top of this, they'd already decided to invite her to pref! So I had to convey to her the msg that the sorority *was* interested in her and wanted her to come to this round of parties (which was half way through by the time I got to talk to her) - and she was very upset that it would hurt her chances of being invited to pref - meantime I already knew that she *would* be invited to pref, and I COULDN'T TELL HER... it killed me. I was very happy the next day when I could tell her she'd been invited to pref...

Long story short... she got a bid from that house and accepted... so, painful PX duty done

[erniegurl00]

I think the best advice I could give is just to be personal with the girls. I felt like a big outsider in my rush group because I had nothing in common with them, and most of them already knew each other. I was extremely nervous, and on a whim I talked to my Rho Chi about it. She was the sweetest girl ever! She even walked me back to my room, a good 10 minutes away, and answered all of those silly questions I had. I think the best thing she did for me was to help get me through my loss. There was one certain sorority that I was convinced I was meant for. I had that feeling of "this is where I belong," but I was cut right before Pref Night (our last day of rush). I was in tears since I only had one house call me back. I didn't think I would be happy at that house, and was thisclose to not finishing! She hugged me and got me to go back. If I hadn't I don't know what I would have done now!

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Hey thanks socalgirl, i never thought of it that way, lol!!! Hey, and thanks everyone for the stories!!! I'm just a little paranoid that im gonna slip or get myself into trouble, i dont think i will , im just worried.

PS: Hey erniegurl00, what does your signature mean? i dont get it? Just to innocently ask, if you dont mind?

[ees125]

I was a Rho Chi my senior year and I had a really great time. At a school as large as PSU, I was hoping that being a Rho Chi would have helped to get to talk to other sororities, but once again, the same ones all talked to one another, sadly enough. I however, did have an awesome time with the rushees (I know bad word). I stayed in contact with many of them after Recruitment was over. I helped several make some tough decisions, and then got to see them off very happy. I missed my sisters obviously, but made it through. It felt that much better (and refreshing) to be back with my sisters when I was done. I felt after recruitment that year that I had truly seen all sides and helped out in every way possible. I cherish my Rho Chi shirt and pin to this day!

[carnation]

I would say, as a former Panhellenic advisor, that the worst thing that Rho Chis can do is tell people that surely they'll get the maximum number of invitations back (they may not)or that nobody ever gets cut by all the sororities the first day (yes, they do). It's impossible to salvage a situation like that after those words are out of your mouth.

[ilovemyglo]

Awful RHO CHI stories- here are a few I first hand witnessed!

MY Rho Chi told us the first night that she hated her sorority so she asked us to please not figure out what she was. She said that right after rush she was turning her pin in she just stayed to be a Rho Chi- (Which was true because right after rush she turned in her pin). When we went to her house we all had a bad time (The girl I talked to had some rank BO) and she asked us what we thought. I knew what she was because I rushed as a sophomore.. so I told her that I didn't have a good time because I was sat down in front of a book of pics of people I don't know. The girl didn't really talk to me. Some of the other girls in my group said why they didn't like it. I didn't want to lie to her and tell her how much I liked it, but at the same time I didn't bash her sorority, I had a legit reason. Anyway, that was one story,...
I was waiting for another rushee and she was talking to her Rho Chi about what prefs to return to, her Rho Chi kept telling her to cut one certain house the girl liked and go to another house instead. She ended up putting both houses down, though. Then after pref she was torn between the two and her Rho Chi told her she HAD to be the house she pushed her to because (OOPS) She wanted her to be a sister to her (OOPS!). The girl ended up putting the other house down, but how LOW!!!
Another Rho Chi had a girl that was torn between two houses and she told her rho chi "If I just knew what you were it would make things so much easier" and the Rho Chi said "Well since I am neither of those sororities it really doesn't matter! BUt I think you would look better in (Name of a sorority's colors)". The rho chi really wasn't in either of the sororities.

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"...and love her for her womanhood."

Originally posted by ilovemyglo:
"BUt I think you would look better in (Name of a sorority's colors)". The rho chi really wasn't in either of the sororities.

Oh what an awful thing to say!! how shallow!!! Thanks everyone, maybe this would be helpful to other soon to be rho chi's, i was just thinking that! Thanks everyone!!!

[Dianne]

I don't have any rho chi horror stories b/c I had the best PX anyone could ask for! First, (how crazy is this?) rush started the day I moved into my dorm! In the process of unpacking, I realized that I really needed safety pins, but the nearest Wal-Mart was one town over, and I don't have a car. So my PX took me.

I was the only one from my PX group who lived in my dorm, and we weren't allowed to go out during rush, ya know? My PX would stop by and hang out for a few minutes. This was so awesome, especially b/c I lived in a total party dorm, and I couldn't go out! One of her sisters was a PX, so our 2 groups would go out to dinner together, so we got to meet even more girls, which was nice. Then, she hosted a movie night for us. Basically, the best thing she did was hang out with us and be our friend. She was totally unbiased, and very helpful. She even looked at my closet and suggested things to wear. She was great!

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