Please help! Question about being inactive!

[riley_starke]

I'll be inactive for my sorority this year due to a low GPA.

I'm afraid that during the semester that i'm inactive for, the girls won't hang out with me because I won't get the emails that plan events. Also, I'm afraid everyone will bond with each other even closer and when I return I'll be an outcast.

I'm especially embarrassed, I don't want the girls to think I'm not smart. How do you think they will judge me?

What should I expect? How does this process work?
Has this happened to you? What was it like?
ALSO, I'm sure the word will spread around, but does someone make an announcement to everyone about it? Do I still have to go to meetings with the council monthly to talk about it?

**The GPA requirement is a 2.5, I have a 2.4. Do you think there is any way they will let me still be active? The reason why it is so low is because I was in the wrong major and I transferred.


Thank you!!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by riley_starke

I'll be inactive for my sorority this year due to a low GPA.

I'm afraid that during the semester that i'm inactive for, the girls won't hang out with me because I won't get the emails that plan events. Also, I'm afraid everyone will bond with each other even closer and when I return I'll be an outcast.

I'm especially embarrassed, I don't want the girls to think I'm not smart. How do you think they will judge me?

What should I expect? How does this process work?
Has this happened to you? What was it like?
ALSO, I'm sure the word will spread around, but does someone make an announcement to everyone about it? Do I still have to go to meetings with the council monthly to talk about it?

**The GPA requirement is a 2.5, I have a 2.4. Do you think there is any way they will let me still be active? The reason why it is so low is because I was in the wrong major and I transferred.


Thank you!!

Really, if you're inactive, I'm SURE all your sisters will know (I mean, we always knew when people were inactive or had received sanctions for grades) whether there is an announcement or not.

I wouldn't bank on them bending the GPA rule to let you stay active. Generally speaking, rules are rules and if that's policy, it wouldn't be fair for it to be bent just for you.

I don't know if they'll judge you. They may, because they're human and not above being judgmental. Especially if you're in a chapter where most women have high GPAs.

Of course people are going to bond without you being there. I'm not being mean, but the sorority does not stop when you're inactive. People are going to do things without you and become close. People might not ask you to hang out as much, just because you're not around and people tend to hang out most with people who are actually there. You can't blame them.

Not being rude, but feeling left out is part of being inactive. If you wanted to be super involved and hang out with people all the time, you should've made grades.

Good luck!

[SoCalGirl]

Are you out of school for the entire year? I've heard of being on academic inactive status for a quarter or semester but not a year.

If you're still in school, you'll obviously still see girls around. You can still stay in touch like you would with any friend. I suggest asking who ever is in charge of study hours to include you on any updates. You won't officially be able to go to an exchange or social but I wouldn't imagine there would be issues with you at study hours.

Review your chapter's bylaws carefully. It should spell out exactly what's expected of you and the chapter during an academic suspension from the chapter.

[33girl]

You may not be able to attend official events, but if sisters stop calling/returning your calls, stop asking you to hang out with them, or cut you out of their lives...I would venture to say that they aren't really sisters and you need to just terminate and stop wasting your money on a bunch of a-holes.

You screwed up. It happens. Get your grades back up to where they should be and ask for some sisterly support in doing so. And if your sisters don't want to give that to you, again, I'd think twice about whether this is really a group I want to be involved in.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

I'm confused...does academic probation last an entire semester in most groups?

[justgo_withit]

One of my pledge sisters was on grades probation this semester and we made an extra effort to be there for her since we knew she was really disappointed in herself for it- just because she was having some problems in class didn't mean we loved her any less, that's not how sisterhood works. Turns out, she felt uncomfortable going to the school tutors because they made her feel inferior and they never actually explained things in a way that made sense to her, so our academic chair set her up with some sisters which improved her grades drastically.

[KDCat]

Why are you asking total strangers? You need to talk to your chapter's academic chair about what is expected. Asking for tutors and help from other members is a good idea, and a good way to stay involved. You should also ask about what events and activties you are allowed to attend.

[MaggieXi]

Granted every organization is different, but did the sorority put you on academic probation or are you choosing to go inactive to get your grades up?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I'm confused...does academic probation last an entire semester in most groups?

Yes. How else could you do it? You only get a new GPA once a semester. For schools on a quarter or trimester system, I'm sure they can synch that up with whatever their national policies are.

[DubaiSis]

It occurs to me that your friendships will survive a couple months of inactivity and possibly your friends and social life contributed heavily to your grades situation. I would ask for any assistance you can get RE academic improvement, but now is the time for some boring Thursday/Friday/Saturday nights at home. You will survive 3 months of boredom if you make the best of it by hitting the books hard.

And this kind of academic punishment is severe. For a reason. Hopefully you will learn from this devastating change to your life and make changes accordingly. Learning that there are consequences to your actions is a good life lesson to learn before it involves losing your job, your home, your marriage, etc. Right now all it means is a temporary hiatus to your social life.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yes. How else could you do it? You only get a new GPA once a semester. For schools on a quarter or trimester system, I'm sure they can synch that up with whatever their national policies are.

I think I am confused by the word "inactive". A woman who doesn't make grades still has obligations to the chapter (e.g. she still pays dues), and may be allowed limited social events, depending on the circumstances. There is a policy, but the disciplinary committee has some flexibility in meting out consequences. Further, the committee may have a mid-semester "check-in" with the woman in question to assess progress. Rarely have I seen women not allowed to participate in anything for an entire semester; that's what I find surprising.

[WCsweet<3]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

I think I am confused by the word "inactive". A woman who doesn't make grades still has obligations to the chapter (e.g. she still pays dues), and may be allowed limited social events, depending on the circumstances. There is a policy, but the disciplinary committee has some flexibility in meting out consequences. Further, the committee may have a mid-semester "check-in" with the woman in question to assess progress. Rarely have I seen women not allowed to participate in anything for an entire semester; that's what I find surprising.

You and I are thinking along the same lines. Also, the OP uses the term year for her suspension. Is she "inactive" for a full year instead of a term/semester?

[33girl]

Originally Posted by WCsweet<3

You and I are thinking along the same lines. Also, the OP uses the term year for her suspension. Is she "inactive" for a full year instead of a term/semester?

I think she just means that it's going to happen *this coming school year* as in the next sentence she says "during the semester I'm inactive..."

[riley_starke]

Originally Posted by 33girl

Yes. How else could you do it? You only get a new GPA once a semester. For schools on a quarter or trimester system, I'm sure they can synch that up with whatever their national policies are.

I will be placed on academic probation by the sorority so I will be inactive...i'm not choosing to be inactive


Sorry if that was confusing - but it will be only for the semester not the whole year.

I'm 1 point away from a 2.5, do you think they would still let me be active and be able to attend social events? Are they allowed to do that?

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by riley_starke

I will be placed on academic probation by the sorority so I will be inactive...i'm not choosing to be inactive


Sorry if that was confusing - but it will be only for the semester not the whole year.

I'm 1 point away from a 2.5, do you think they would still let me be active and be able to attend social events? Are they allowed to do that?

You need to ask YOUR CHAPTER MEMBERS. Actual sisters can tell you what your sorority's policies are. However, I would assume that you still have to attend meetings and some other mandatory events. Social events, on the other hand, would most likely be out of the question.

My chapter, in the only instance I know of where someone was placed on academic probation, helped the sister get her grades back to where they should be by offering study hours and a tutor.

But again, no one will be able to tell you what your chapter is going to do. Ask them.