Cyberbullying - Page 2

honeychile · #16 10-06-2010, 11:47 PM

KSAViolet, I applaud your aunt & uncle. While the school punishment seems harsh, maybe that's what it took to send a message to the students. Too bad it was your cousin.

I'd just like to throw one more thing into the equation: cyberbullying someone who's 14-15 is a lot different than someone who's 24-25. But in all aspects, it does add a layer to the being bullied onion.

christiangirl · #17 10-10-2010, 05:32 AM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

At the same time, I urge people who are mentally and emotionally impacted by the GC minions to use the ignore feature. I can't say what impacts people on a personal level. I would never tell people to stop coming to GC if they don't like some of the posters. I will say that GCers amuse themselves in various ways and GC is not that important as to let it have a potentially lasting mental and emotional impact on you.

No need to repeat a bunch of stuff that's been said, but I agree with all those who said bringing real life to the Net and vice versa is crossing the line.

AlphaFrog · #18 10-10-2010, 06:58 AM

I'm kind of surprised that this thread hasn't Beetlejuiced in shadows of the past...

Alumiyum · #19 10-10-2010, 10:11 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I have a lot of younger cousins who are in middle and high school.

One of them was recently removed from her high school cheer team due to being the perpetrator of online bullying.

She is a senior who was dating a senior football player. She was also really good friends with New Sophomore Cheerleader (just made the team in May of last school year).

Over the summer, Cousin and Football Player broke up. He starts spending time with New Sophomore. They decide to start dating.

Cousin of course freaks out and stops being friends with New Soph. Then school starts and they have to be aroud each other every day for cheer.

Cousin tells all the other Seniors what happened and they pretty much proceed to make cheer a living hell for her. Not in the "we're gonna punch you in the face" way. But in the "girl world" way. No one talks to her, offers to help her with cheer stuff, they don't sit by her at lunch.

New Soph tells the cheer coach, who reprimands Cousin. She also tells my aunt (Cousin's mom) and Cousin is grounded. That's when all the cyber harrassment starts.

Cousin wrote a forever long Tumblr blog about how New Soph is a skank, fat whore, etc. and sent it to her friends and they sent it to New Soph on FB.

Then they all post parts of the letter as their FB status like "Cheerleader is pretty sure that this one cheerleader is the biggest skank EVER. Ew." Not specifically calling her out but this girl knew exactly who they were talking about.

The Sophomore ended up nominated for Homecoming Court. Cousin and friends wrote mean stuff on her posters at school.

It got to be too much, she showed the FB stuff, the blog, everything to her mom, who showed the principal. The school has a zero tolerance policy on this stuff.

She got 3 days of in-school suspension, and since cheerleaders have to have a clean discipline record, she got removed from the cheer team.

This is all pretty crazy and I seriously didn't know all of this was going on because she tries to act all sweet and nice in front of me and her parents.

As appalling as this all is, I DO applaud my Aunt and Uncle for not fighting it. She cried and was all like "OMG but she is mean to me too!!! I didn't even DO anything." but they were pretty much like "too bad, you weren't crying when you were writing all this stuff.

Claps for your aunt and uncle. It's always heartening to see parents who have their stuff together.

starang21 · #20 10-10-2010, 10:35 AM

LOL.

agzg · #21 10-12-2010, 03:21 PM

I don't know if this counts as cyberbullying, but I think it might:

http://jezebel.com/5661968/horrible-...ed-on-facebook
http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/dpp/news...ors-in-trenton
http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/dpp/news...Offers-Apology

Alumiyum · #22 10-12-2010, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by agzg

I don't know if this counts as cyberbullying, but I think it might:

http://jezebel.com/5661968/horrible-...ed-on-facebook
http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/dpp/news...ors-in-trenton
http://www.myfoxdetroit.com/dpp/news...Offers-Apology

That sounds like all kinds of harassment.

I don't care if my neighbors are complete effing tools, I'm not going to harass a dying child. Jesus.

DrPhil · #23 10-12-2010, 04:56 PM

Dr. Phil the other day was about bullying and cyberbullying.

His guests included a couple whose daughter was decapitated in a car accident. Someone from the scene of the accident took a phone photo of her body and it ended up on a lot of websites. People even went so far as to make negative comments about this dead young lady. For instance, one man said he had sex with her corpse and another person said something about her being a whore.

Everyone has their own sense of humor, some of which can seem strange and unfunny to others but WTF is wrong with people?!

knight_shadow · #24 10-12-2010, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by DrPhil

Dr. Phil the other day was about bullying and cyberbullying.

His guests included a couple whose daughter was decapitated in a car accident. Someone from the scene of the accident took a phone photo of her body and it ended up on a lot of websites. People even went so far as to make negative comments about this dead young lady. For instance, one man said he had sex with her corpse and another person said something about her being a whore.

Everyone has their own sense of humor, some of which can seem strange and unfunny to others but WTF is wrong with people?!

I saw that photo a month or so ago (thanks a lot, Google SafeSearch

). I have an odd sense of humor, but that picture was brutal. I would never make light of it.

DrPhil · #25 10-12-2010, 05:09 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I saw that photo a month or so ago (thanks a lot, Google SafeSearch

). I have an odd sense of humor, but that picture was brutal. I would never make light of it.

Yeah, welcome to GC where having an odd sense of humor can make at least 1 other person chuckle.

I didn't see that photo but I saw the photo of the wrecked car. I don't want to see her dead body. I agree with you that there's NOTHING funny about it. Those people who spread that photo can go to hell.

deepimpact2 · #26 10-12-2010, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

[ Probably in the minority on this one ]

I think offline bullying is serious, and cyberbullying/harrassment attached to "real life" (ex. FB, MS, GLO boards, etc) should be taken seriously.

If someone is a member of, say, GardeningForum.com, this person is free to close the browser and move on. When I see "bullying" claims on sites like that, I generally roll my eyes.

I agree. I just don't take this online bullying thing as seriously as bullying offline, in person. You don't have to read crap from someone on the Internet. People are just too fragile in some respects. But you're right. When the real life bullying somehow spills over into the Internet, that's different. Like people posting youtube videos of people in humiliating situations.

Drolefille · #27 10-12-2010, 08:42 PM

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That apology rings so false with the mother claiming it was done because "it burns Rebecca Rose's ass raw." Yeah. That sounds remorseful.

What is wrong with these people? Thankfully, the internet and their stupidity will live on always - have fun shaking the reputation for being a disgusting human being!

I admittedly felt malicious glee in hearing that 4chan published their address and did their typical harassment. I mentally slapped myself for it later, but damn those people are assholes.

honeychile · #28 10-12-2010, 10:52 PM

IMHO, cyberbullying is different in one major respect. Some kid might be a real nut job, and get bullied at school. The bullies might even follow him on the school bus or follow him home.

But with cyberbullying, there's no escape. Go home, watch some tv, and boot up to do homework & see what's going on on the internet and wham! There it is again. The bullies that the kid knows have now influenced total strangers to jump in on him, and it's relentless. Sooner or later, the bullies get the cell phone number, and now that's ruined, too. It's not a matter of turning off the computer or screening the calls, because let's face it, even Wikipedia has bastardized articles that the kid might have to use to do his homework. I would imagine that this same kid has bad dreams, so there is literally no escaping the harrassment.

Bullies are cowards. They are so afraid that they will lose their own standings that they will heckle or join in just to stay on top. Some scapegoats survive this, some don't.

My gosh, there was a kid in my class when I was in high school who was thrown into the Goodwill box every day after school, and sometimes the bullies threw lit matches in after him. It made me sick to my stomach - enough so that I told my mom about it, and she had a friend call the bullies and tell them that she saw what happened, got their names, and would call the police if it ever happened again. It stopped after that, but what if it hadn't? Of all people, I had a good reason NOT to like the scapegoat, but someone had to stand up for this guy, and the bullies were more than I could handle.

He had a chance, because he could go home, do his homework and watch tv. His parents screened his phone calls, so no one was calling him, berating him all night. He got a good night's sleep so he could survive another day.

Had he lived in this day & age, I could totally understand him cracking under the pressure. Seriously.

knight_shadow · #29 10-12-2010, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by honeychile

IMHO, cyberbullying is different in one major respect. Some kid might be a real nut job, and get bullied at school. The bullies might even follow him on the school bus or follow him home.

But with cyberbullying, there's no escape. Go home, watch some tv, and boot up to do homework & see what's going on on the internet and wham! There it is again. The bullies that the kid knows have now influenced total strangers to jump in on him, and it's relentless. Sooner or later, the bullies get the cell phone number, and now that's ruined, too. It's not a matter of turning off the computer or screening the calls, because let's face it, even Wikipedia has bastardized articles that the kid might have to use to do his homework. I would imagine that this same kid has bad dreams, so there is literally no escaping the harrassment.

I can see that, but I'm sure we all know that bullying doesn't stop at the end of the day. The kid may have a break tonight, but it goes right back into effect tomorrow.

The cyber-victim's escape could be not turning on the conmputer/visiting social media sites.

Alumiyum · #30 10-13-2010, 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by knight_shadow

I can see that, but I'm sure we all know that bullying doesn't stop at the end of the day. The kid may have a break tonight, but it goes right back into effect tomorrow.

The cyber-victim's escape could be not turning on the conmputer/visiting social media sites.

Maybe. But they also know that the entire world can see what's written about them. Whereas a kid that got harassed in high school could look forward to at least getting to start fresh in college before online harassment, now those facebook/myspace pages about them follow them around...and if their bullies are really resourceful and move on to internet sites that won't take harassment down if reported, it's there forever.