Aerylle's 2010 Fall Recruitment Story

[33girl]

It sounds like several things could have happened with this guy.

• He totally put on a fake image during rush and ended up with a group he doesn't fit.

• The group he joined is desperate for members and pledged anyone with a penis.

• He expected it to be more like his friend's/bio brother's fraternity experience at a completely different kind of campus.

Ask him that if he's that unhappy with his fraternity, has he done anything to try to change it or thought of dropping out instead of constantly complaining. If he just kind of hems and haws and doesn't give you an answer, then just drop it.

The same with anyone else who's unsupportive. Just say "thanks for your opinion, but I'm going to go through it and check it out for myself. I would rather do that than wonder about it. If I don't like it, I can always drop out." Then CHANGE the subject.

p.s. thanks for the quote.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by 33girl

It sounds like several things could have happened with this guy.

• He totally put on a fake image during rush and ended up with a group he doesn't fit.

• The group he joined is desperate for members and pledged anyone with a penis.

• He expected it to be more like his friend's/bio brother's fraternity experience at a completely different kind of campus.

Ask him that if he's that unhappy with his fraternity, has he done anything to try to change it or thought of dropping out instead of constantly complaining. If he just kind of hems and haws and doesn't give you an answer, then just drop it.

The same with anyone else who's unsupportive. Just say "thanks for your opinion, but I'm going to go through it and check it out for myself. I would rather do that than wonder about it. If I don't like it, I can always drop out." Then CHANGE the subject.

p.s. thanks for the quote.

Not to be mean, but I think it was the second one. Every time I ask him about things like Date Dashes or Serenading, he always comes back with, "We are too small to do anything or get noticed."

He has considered dropping, actually.

And, that's what I tell people pretty much verbatim. I mean, people are supportive in the fact that most of them have stopped bashing the Greek System, but I know that every time I talk to them they don't really want to hear it. That, and my mom keeps saying things that are like.. she really doesn't want me to go through with it, but she doesn't want to come out and say that.

And you're very welcome.

[perfectinpurple]

Well I'm glad to see you have people supporting you! It definitely makes things much easier

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by perfectinpurple

Well I'm glad to see you have people supporting you! It definitely makes things much easier

It does. I just wish that I have people who wanted to go Greek as well, that way I could be excited with them. Lol.

[CherrySonata]

Well, you have at least a handful of fellow PNMs who are posting in this forum

Not to mention the great actives & alumnae who are posting as well!

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by CherrySonata

Well, you have at least a handful of fellow PNMs who are posting in this forum

Not to mention the great actives & alumnae who are posting as well!

That is true! And I'm so thankful that I found a wonderful place like Greek Chat months ago to help me!

Thank you everyone!

[norcal aephi]

Remember to SLEEP!!!!!!
At the end of the day, you won't be able to show who you really are if you're a walking zombie!

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by norcal aephi

Remember to SLEEP!!!!!!
At the end of the day, you won't be able to show who you really are if you're a walking zombie!

Ha ha, that's kinda ironic you say that because I've been sleeping so terribly lately.

I recently got a part time job and the training sessions have been mid-morning the past few days week and I kept waking up around 4:00 or 5:00am each day and just not being able to go back to sleep.. Kinda sucks. ]:

[MaggieXi]

I would just avoid the topic of greek life and recruitment all together with this guy. It sounds like he has some things he needs to work through. If he brings it up, you can always diplomatically say something like "We have different opinions on this, and I want to check things out for myself, so let's just drop it" and talk about something else.

It's good that your boyfriend is very supportive. Mine wasn't and it was terribly difficult at the time because when I needed comfort, he reitterated all the reasons why I shouldn't go through recruitment. We broke up shortly after my new member period started.

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by MaggieXi

I would just avoid the topic of greek life and recruitment all together with this guy. It sounds like he has some things he needs to work through. If he brings it up, you can always diplomatically say something like "We have different opinions on this, and I want to check things out for myself, so let's just drop it" and talk about something else.

It's good that your boyfriend is very supportive. Mine wasn't and it was terribly difficult at the time because when I needed comfort, he reitterated all the reasons why I shouldn't go through recruitment. We broke up shortly after my new member period started.

I think you are right, Maggie.. I mean, before I was glad to have a friend who was in the Greek system who could answer all these questions I have. Then I found GC, and realized that he was very anti-greek..

]: That is terrible.. I assume that you rose to the occasion so to speak and pushed past it and are now a member of a wonderful organization?

[pretty-in-pink]

Best of luck Aerylle! I'm going through recruitment VERY soon as well so I understand all of the stresses you're feeling! PM me if you ever want to talk to a PNM outside of your greek system we gotta stick together! I'll definitely be following your story!

ETA: How on earth did you do that signature? I want to link my story on mine!

[Drolefille]

^^ Signatures are edited in the "User Control Panel"

[Aerylle]

Originally Posted by pretty-in-pink

Best of luck Aerylle! I'm going through recruitment VERY soon as well so I understand all of the stresses you're feeling! PM me if you ever want to talk to a PNM outside of your greek system we gotta stick together! I'll definitely be following your story!

ETA: How on earth did you do that signature? I want to link my story on mine!

Copy the link, then in the edit your signature section, there is picture of Earth (it looks like it anyway) with a chain link over it. Click that, and put the address to your story in it.
Viola.


And thanks, I might PM you. I'm following yours too!

[Aerylle]

Anyone else feel like this a little crazy?

Like, for me, I've been reading other people recruitment stories for months now, and now I'm writing my own. It feels weird!

But exciting. Lol.

[pretty-in-pink]

First off, thank you for showing me how to do the signature! You're awesome!

And I completely agree with you. Do you ever feel like you shouldn't be going through recruitment yet? It feels like I graduated yesterday and I'm moving to college very soon. Do you feel like that or am I just crazy? (and that is possible)