Lavalier? - Page 5

bvanetten · #61 11-13-2009, 04:46 PM

I'm a kappa too! (Alpha chapter!!!)

At Monmouth, it's less likely for a girl to lavalier a guy, but we still have a few. Like everyone else has said, it is very serious.
The way to tell your sisters is through a candle pass. The way to actually do it with him is probably in the ritual book.
I know with the fraternities on our campus it's usually individualized. One girl was in a play, so her boyfriend brought some of his closest brothers and other brothers in the play to her right before curtain and asked her to wear his letters. I saw another fraternity all wait outside one of the brother's girlfriend's classes and sing a song from their ritual book to her and then he fgave her a shirt and put a lavalier (necklace) on her.
I'm hoping to share these ceremonies with my boyfriend soon!!
Good luck!

ΘΧΗΜΓΕ444 · #62 11-16-2009, 09:38 PM

Does the girlfriend have to be greek?

33girl · #63 11-17-2009, 02:45 AM

depends on the school.

lovespink88 · #64 12-25-2009, 02:10 AM

Bump because I'm wearing my Christmas present from the bf--a Phi Kappa Psi lavalier!!!

pomplemousse12 · #65 12-25-2009, 03:49 AM

I know one fraternity on our campus does lavaliering, but it's not my boyfriend's =[. We've talked about it before because it's a tradition I love, and I'd love to have a candlepass one day, but since we've only been dating for 3 and a half months, I'm not pressuring him. It's way more likely (if at all, I get really romantic thoughts I shouldn't have) that he'd propose before lavaliering me.
But still, I love to hear lavalier stories, congrats lovespink88!!

Hoosierxgirl · #66 12-25-2009, 12:40 PM

I'm not sure how popular lavaliering is at IU but I wish my boyfriend was in a fraternity. We've been dating for 3 years now and I think it would be an awesome experience...I don't think we've had a candlepass in the time I've been in the house (which isn't long) so I think I'm going to look into it...even though I can't experience it

ADPi_girl09 · #67 01-19-2010, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by dukedg

At Duke we had three levels, from least to most serious:

1st - Lavalier - this meant you were dating exclusively. You wear the fraternity's letters, so the guy gets some minor "punishment" from his brothers
2nd - Pin - this is the more serious step before engagement. You actually wear his pin, so the guy gets in much more trouble with his brothers
3rd - engagement

These also corresponded to our candle pass. If you blew out the candle on the first time around, it meant you were lavaliered (not sure if that is actually a word), second time meant you were pinned and third time meant engaged!

I've never heard of swallowing your lavalier if it doesn't work out. I don't think that would logically work out at Duke, since in theory you should also swallow his pin and the engagement ring.

Im an ADPI at a smaller school in Kentucky. The way we hold our candlelight ceremonies is that the first round is for sisterhood (no one blows the candle out, this first pass is to unite us), the second round is for pearling or lavaliering, and the third round is for engagement. However, i just joined the sorority in the fall and dont really know much about pearling or lavaliering, just what i have learned from candlelight ceremonies.

Phi1852Mu · #68 02-15-2010, 06:32 PM

At my college, we too have a small greek life, but it's thriving and well! We have five sororities and five fraternities.
My boyfriend (who is also a Theta Chi-original post) pinned me two weeks ago and I went looking for forums about pinnings and found this one!

Does anyone know what exactly pinned girlfriends 'can and can not do'? Some say you can wear his pin, some don't, some say you can go to brotherhood events, some don't. Looking for some consensus please! I want to be as involved as possible since I love his brothers, but don't want to offend anyone!

LIOB
There has never been a bond so strong and true as that of PHI MU!

Psi U MC Vito · #69 02-15-2010, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Phi1852Mu

At Westminster College, we too have a small greek life, but it's thriving and well! We have five sororities and five fraternities.
My boyfriend (who is also a Theta Chi-original post) pinned me two weeks ago and I went looking for forums about pinnings and found this one!

Does anyone know what exactly pinned girlfriends 'can and can not do'? Some say you can wear his pin, some don't, some say you can go to brotherhood events, some don't. Looking for some consensus please! I want to be as involved as possible since I love his brothers, but don't want to offend anyone!

LIOB
There has never been a bond so strong and true as that of PHI MU!

That would depend on the individual chapter. So your boyfriend would be the person to ask.

lovespink88 · #70 02-15-2010, 07:29 PM

I just LOL'd at the thought of being at my boyfriend's brotherhood events. Oh God.

CougarGrad · #71 02-15-2010, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by lovespink88

I just LOL'd at the thought of being at my boyfriend's brotherhood events. Oh God.

Aw, c'mon, you know you wanna.

MysticCat · #72 02-16-2010, 09:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Phi1852Mu

Does anyone know what exactly pinned girlfriends 'can and can not do'? Some say you can wear his pin, some don't, some say you can go to brotherhood events, some don't. Looking for some consensus please! I want to be as involved as possible since I love his brothers, but don't want to offend anyone!

You're not likely to find any consensus. Like Vito said, it's going to depend on (1) whether Theta Chi has rules about wearing or not wearing his badge, and (2) what his chapter thinks is appropriate and what it is comfortable with.

Phi1852Mu · #73 02-17-2010, 04:58 PM

Thanks everyone!

ΘΦΑlovesΣΝ · #74 07-13-2010, 04:32 PM

Does anyone know how common it is for a sorority girl to give her letters to her boyfriend? My boyfriend is in a fraternity, and he's thinking of lavaliering me, but I was wondering if there was something I could give him that would be the equivalent or similar.

MysticCat · #75 07-13-2010, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by ΘΦΑlovesΣΝ

Does anyone know how common it is for a sorority girl to give her letters to her boyfriend? My boyfriend is in a fraternity, and he's thinking of lavaliering me, but I was wondering if there was something I could give him that would be the equivalent or similar.

I know there have been discussions about it before. The one thread I could find was this one: QUESTION!!!.