Wedding etiquette

[twinkle555]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Wow, is all I can say. First, I didn't get pictures!! Our camera battery died (someone didn't recharge it!!).

So they actually did reaffirm their vows, though it didn't say so on the invitation. Half the people showed up late (the invitation said 7 but who arrives exactly one time for a dinner?). So a good 100 of the 170 people crowded into this tiny-assed room with only 12 chairs (the bridal party sat in them while the "bride", "groom", best man and matron of honor stood. Their kid ran all over the place, chasing his two toddler cousins (they are all young moms) while no one corrected the kids. I was so nervous that they were going to knock over the candles.

The bridesmaid dresses were black with CUT OUTS. Like if you slashed a piece of the dress. Oh and some of them wore sunglasses. Inside. At night. The "bride's" wedding dress (which she wore at full term of the pregnancy (from their FB photos, I figured out she had the baby 6 days after their first "wedding") was hanging off her. She's like a size 6/8, not nearly as big as she was when she was pg. She didn't get it tailored. They held the dress together with safety pins. Visible safety pins. The husband comes from money, they could have afforded to tailor the dress, but perhaps they thought it was a fashion statement.

So that lasts about 15 minutes and the guests are shepherded into the main room while the bridal party goes into another room to take pictures and drink. Again, no one was watching the kids (they had both sets of grandparents there). When you walked in, instead of a place cards, they had written people's names in silver marker on rocks. They had a theme for each table, but we couldn't figure out what the theme was.

At about 9pm (almost 2 hours later), they put out cheese and crackers. They had some waiters with cheese sticks and chicken fingers (they were microwaved), but they only came around once. They did one lap, and when the platters were empty, that's it. They had open bar, but they served "half drinks". Mixed drinks were in juice glasses, and beer was poured (from bottles) into 8-ounce milk type glasses. (I don't drink but it seemed quite lame). Even the soda was a spritz and the rest ice.

The bridal party came in about a half hour later, around 9:30. Dinner started at 9:50. Yep, three hours into the deal. Finally, the dj started spinning music - but only music that the bride and groom like - a combo of rap and trance music. That started at 10:20. (They had no music playing at all, until dinner was served). The bride's brother in law (who we affectionately call Spencer Pratt) got on the dance floor to showcase his drunken moves. It was like Elaine from Seinfeld but without the thumbs. It was so embarrassing.

They bride and groom never made the rounds, they had everyone come to them (which in my family, just doesn't happen). We brought a gift (that picnic basket which today retails for $76) and had put it with a few other gifts. When we went to congratulate them, the maid of honor (her sister) asked if we'd like to "give the envelope" to her, since the bride didn't have a handbag. I told her that we brought a gift. She just looked at me like I had three heads. I know she was pissed but whatever.

Oh, and I found out that they never told the general population (or most of the extended family) that they had already been married. They seriously let everyone believe that they are newlyweds. All over their FB page are congratulations to the "newlyweds", wishes to the new "husband and wife" and jokes about being old and married "now".

Thanks for the therapy lol. Good times, good times.

This should be placed under "Tacky as hhheeelllll" On Urbandictionary.com...

All I can say is WOW

[LucyKKG]

Oh...my...god...

Thank you for sharing!! The whole event sounded just as wacky as everything leading up to it.

[BrandNewAdvisor]

This deserves to be on here http://www.etiquettehell.com/

[ree-Xi]

Originally Posted by BrandNewAdvisor

This deserves to be on here http://www.etiquettehell.com/

Oh, that site is great!

Thanks for letting me share this story! I really am aghast at the whole thing. If I didn't give something, I'd hear about it. It didn't cost me anything to regift. The whole thing was just madness. I'm glad that I'm not the only one who thinks so!!

[full*hearts]

Originally Posted by ree-Xi

Wow, is all I can say. First, I didn't get pictures!! Our camera battery died (someone didn't recharge it!!).

Their kid ran all over the place, chasing his two toddler cousins (they are all young moms) while no one corrected the kids. I was so nervous that they were going to knock over the candles.


... Again, no one was watching the kids (they had both sets of grandparents there). When you walked in, instead of a place cards, they had written people's names in silver marker on rocks. They had a theme for each table, but we couldn't figure out what the theme was.

Oh, and I found out that they never told the general population (or most of the extended family) that they had already been married. They seriously let everyone believe that they are newlyweds. All over their FB page are congratulations to the "newlyweds", wishes to the new "husband and wife" and jokes about being old and married "now".

Thanks for the therapy lol. Good times, good times.

This is my pet peeve! Please, don't procreate unless you are gonnna take care of and watch your kids! It kills me when I am at event and the kids are running around like crazy. Usually they are the children of the host or hostess, and they think nothing of it. If a parent isn't going to watch their children then they shouldn't have them. Don't even get me started about child drownings...


This is just straight tacky and I can't believe they got away with it.

[LucyKKG]

Originally Posted by BrandNewAdvisor

This deserves to be on here http://www.etiquettehell.com/

Omg this site has some real gems! I've been reading it for a while now...

[Kazekuro]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I am very seldom at a loss for words when it comes to tacky people and weddings, but I can't even come up with the words to describe this situation.

Vandal pretty much covered it all. Money is never proper and 8 months pregnant? Really?

This is likely a "we need baby money" grab, disguised as "not a money grab." lol.

Proper wedding etiquette requires the "Bride" to NEVER ask for gifts let alone some time after the wedding took place by having a second reception UNLESS "In lue of gifts please make a donation to XYZ charity".

Also while I know this woman (not a lady) is using this as a loosely veild money grab do not spend the $50 on the hard bound book it has only a few pictures and a lot of words she might not know them.

Etiquette for Dummies should work just as well.

xoxox
Kaze


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"PIKACHU I CHOOSE YOU." Just another night with Phi Mu and Sigma Nu hanging out.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by Kazekuro

Proper wedding etiquette requires the "Bride" to NEVER ask for gifts let alone some time after the wedding took place by having a second reception UNLESS "In lue of gifts please make a donation to XYZ charity".

The proper spelling is "in lieu."

[Munchkin03]

Originally Posted by full*hearts

This is my pet peeve! Please, don't recreate unless you are gonnna take care of and watch your kids! It kills me when I am at event and the kids are running around like crazy. Usually they are the children of the host or hostess, and they think nothing of it. If a parent isn't going to watch their children then they shouldn't have them. Don't even get me started about child drownings...

Did you mean "procreate"?

[FSUZeta]

ree-thanks so much for going to this wedding. i needed a good laugh! hopefully you took photos?

[full*hearts]

Originally Posted by Munchkin03

Did you mean "procreate"?

Probably! I'll fix it.

[KSUViolet06]

Speaking of poor etiquette, my mom's friend just received a wedding invitation in which the RSVP card lists the prices of the meals next next to the meal choices.

[jdrama]

I think I would've tripped the kid...

[jdrama]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Speaking of poor etiquette, my mom's friend just received a wedding invitation in which the RSVP card lists the prices of the meals next next to the meal choices.

Tell her to NOT go lol! That's tacky!

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Speaking of poor etiquette, my mom's friend just received a wedding invitation in which the RSVP card lists the prices of the meals next next to the meal choices.

Ten will get you twenty that there's a cash bar, too!

If I absolutely "had to" attend this wedding, I think I'd ask how much the kiddie portions cost, or that we'll skip the meals.

Originally Posted by jdrama

I think I would've tripped the kid...

I can be very strict about wild children. My favorite method is to put a hand on each shoulder and to tell the wayward child to "quit embarrassing your family and go sit down." It's never failed - although parents usually shoot me a few nasty looks.