Where are all the Potential PNMs? - Page 8

lyrelyre · #**106** 07-14-2009, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Smile_Awhile

A bit off topic, but I noticed some posts mentioning that there must be a rec in place for a PNM to be extended a bid. This may venture into MS for some groups, so if it does, I understand that I can't know. But is this required by some sororities? Or is it only for larger chapters at bigger schools?

Personally, my chapter wouldn't know what to do with a rec. We might have seen one or two,and I know we've seen legacy introductions, but other than that it just doesn't happen.

I PMed you.

myalterego · #**107** 07-20-2009, 05:15 AM

Hi, PNM here. Sorry, I don't have any questions (yet) as so far they've all been answered by reading threads. I'm sorry if anything seems vague or strange, I'm trying to be as anonymous as possible here (yeah, as if that's truly possible) so I'd rather not reveal my school.

Good luck to anyone rushing this year.

kddani · #**108** 07-28-2009, 11:44 AM

They're heeerrrrrrrrreeeeeeeee

AnchorAlumna · #**109** 07-28-2009, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by kddani

They're heeerrrrrrrrreeeeeeeee

I think a bunch have already been run - or scared - off. Now they're asking questions on Yahoo Answers.

33girl · #**110** 07-28-2009, 12:00 PM

If they are dumb enough to read/ask on YA, I'm happy that we scared them off. I swear there's a year's worth of stupid in every line of that thing.

agzg · #**111** 07-28-2009, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

If they are dumb enough to read/ask on YA, I'm happy that we scared them off. I swear there's a year's worth of stupid in every line of that thing.

Only thing I use that for is problems with excel.

KSUViolet06 · #**112** 07-28-2009, 02:55 PM

Some advice for the PNMs:

*For the love of Pete, DO A SEARCH. Please. Chances are VERY GOOD that YOUR SITUATION IS NOT UNIQUE and there are current threads that address it.

*Don't know where it is? Well here's a link for you: http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/search.php

*Don't know how to use it? Heck, you can PM me and I'll help you.

*Think your question is unique? It's probably not. Rushing as a sophomore, or junior, or a transfer? We've already talked about it. UCF, UF, UGA, Bama? It's all there.

All you have to do is use the search function.

ThetaPrincess24 · #**113** 07-28-2009, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

If they are dumb enough to read/ask on YA, I'm happy that we scared them off. I swear there's a year's worth of stupid in every line of that thing.

LOL!

KSUViolet06 · #**114** 07-28-2009, 05:28 PM

Some other PNM don'ts:

*Don't get upset because we said you should do a search. Every other sticky says you should do it. You may want to take a hint.

*Please don't ask a question before you read the stickies.

*Don't get upset because we tell you to read them. That's what they're there for.

*Do NOT give advice if you are NOT IN A SORORITY. It's like getting hair advice from the guy that changes your oil. It makes no sense.

*Don't assume your situation is unique. It is most likely not. This is where doing a search comes in.

*Do not tell anyone on GC that you "don't want to be Greek because of this site." If you are THAT sensitive, you probably don't need to go through recruitment anyway.

*Don't ask "Do you think I should go through recruitment?" or "Do you think it's worth it?" Only YOU can determine that, so don't ask.

*Don't ask "what are my chances?" We really don't know because we don't know you. We can tell you based on what we know, whether it will be difficult for you or whether you're at a disadvantage, but we can't tell you anything exact.

*Don't ask "what are the reputations of chapters at ____?" We don't know. It's also a stupid question that most likely is going to get you flamed.

*Don't post anything like "you people are poor representatives of your sororities and should be ashamed of yourselves!" Why? you're not in a sorority, so you have no idea what our sororities represent and what we should/should not be striving toward. Thanks.

Summary: Do a search, read the stickies, stay in your lane. Everyone's happy.

court4short · #**115** 07-28-2009, 07:45 PM

(Disclaimer: I am a PNM..but from my viewpoint

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This thread is funny, because the PNM's who could really benefit from this, are the ones who WON'T read it

! They'll post anyway. If they're too lazy/stupid/ignorant to do a search, then they definitely won't be reading this.

Oh the irony...

curlygirl18 · #**116** 07-29-2009, 11:17 AM

I was reading through many of the old forums about juniors rushing, so rather than start a whole new thead I though I'd post my question here...

I want to rush as a junior at a smaller school where I know of several juniors who have recieved bids. I did informal recuitment last spring but only rushed 2 out of 6 sororities and didn't get a bid. A hard lesson learned on being open-minded... Anyway my problem is that the second night of recruitment I have tickets for an out of town concert with one of my best friends who goes to another school. I made these plans long before I knew what dates recruitment was this year, not thinking it would be a problem because it's usually held much earlier at my school. I'd feel awful about cancelling these plans because my friend and I have been looking forward to this for months! I know missing recuitment events can put my chances of getting a bid at risk and understand the reasons why. Should I go for it anyway and explain my situation, or just not waste anyone's time?!

33girl · #**117** 07-29-2009, 11:26 AM

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Originally Posted by curlygirl18

I was reading through many of the old forums about juniors rushing, so rather than start a whole new thead I though I'd post my question here...

I want to rush as a junior at a smaller school where I know of several juniors who have recieved bids. I did informal recuitment last spring but only rushed 2 out of 6 sororities and didn't get a bid. A hard lesson learned on being open-minded... Anyway my problem is that the second night of recruitment I have tickets for an out of town concert with one of my best friends who goes to another school. I made these plans long before I knew what dates recruitment was this year, not thinking it would be a problem because it's usually held much earlier at my school. I'd feel awful about cancelling these plans because my friend and I have been looking forward to this for months! I know missing recuitment events can put my chances of getting a bid at risk and understand the reasons why. Should I go for it anyway and explain my situation, or just not waste anyone's time?!

Rush is more important than a concert. If you don't agree you shouldn't be rushing.

KSUViolet06 · #**118** 07-29-2009, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by curlygirl18

! I know missing recuitment events can put my chances of getting a bid at risk and understand the reasons why. Should I go for it anyway and explain my situation, or just not waste anyone's time?!

This is all up to you. We can't determine what you should do.

However, I will say that at my alma mater, chapters were not obligated to invite back any PNM who missed a party. Whether they did or not was up to the chapters. Missing a party means that the chapters have one less opportunity to get to know you, and you could very well end up with very few options or being released completely. Very few girls I know who missed parties ended up with a bid. It's not likely.

If you want to be in a sorority, in my opinion, your best bet is to attend ALL events.

curlygirl18 · #**119** 07-29-2009, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Rush is more important than a concert. If you don't agree you shouldn't be rushing.

I understand, it's not the concert that's important, it's my best friend for many years who has already made travel arrangements to come in for it. I don't think I could disappoint her and we only see each other a few times a year.

I was just wondering if they'd be understanding of the situation if I decided to go through recruitment. If not, I won't go through, I know being at all the events is important and for good reasons.

33girl · #**120** 07-29-2009, 12:30 PM

If she's that good of a friend, she should understand about rush.

I can't tell from your post if you only *chose* to go to 2 sororities' events, or if there were only 2 sororities holding events. If it was the latter, and you didn't get a bid, the chances are very very very slim that you're going to get one now.

If it was the former, and you blew off the other 4 sororities' events for whatever reason, they're probably not going to be too high on you now to begin with - and missing this fall's events for the concert will not win you any points.