I guess I just need to vent

[violetpretty]

You can like recruitment stories and not feed the narcissism. The fewer "OMG MORE MORE MORE" posts we have, the less posters will demand with "oh I guess no one is reading..." I comment on stuff that I find worth commenting on, but I don't need to beg people to continue.

[WCsweet<3]

I agree with violetpretty and many others who have posted above. I think I posted on a few stories saying I wanted more, but there are many others who are over zealous with constant posting. On the other hand, people who post stating they have interest might help the retro stories post more frequently or give the original poster more confidence that people are actually interested and that there is a reason for them to be posting.
I am not plugging for any story including my own. I am only trying to say there is a fine line between stating interest for the poster and feeding narcissism.

[Fawn Liebowitz]

In case you were wondering, WCsweet<3, I am enjoying your story.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by nittanyalum

LOL. Yeah, geez, "stunnedgirl"?? It's affecting you that much? You need to step away from the computer then. I checked that aprocess thread maybe twice and found how dragged out it was so irritating, I haven't clicked into a rush story since. There's life outside the recruitment forum, give it a try!

yes! I agree. I've pretty much stopped reading recruitment stories, but there will be the occasional story that will interest me. Retro stories were fun, like last year but not anymore. Plus, now we have fictional recruitment threads (a la Chuck Norris) which is just plain ridiculous.

'stunnedgirl' if you are that irritated, do what everyone is saying and STOP reading recruitment threads. It will save you from being worked up.

[Fawn Liebowitz]

Apparently I'm the only one sitting around wondering who "stunnedgirl" is.

[Senusret I]

Originally Posted by stunnedgirl

I've switched my screen name because I'm pissed.

And I guess I just need to vent.

I am so beyond sick of reading these retro rush stories and these narcissistic posters on purpose leave us hanging. I know it's really a ridiculous thing I'm saying but it makes this board suck if you ask me. I know the moderators have no control over the posters, can't force them to continue their precious story as us losers wait with anticipation to finish their story. But it really makes me mad.

It's one thing for the story to be in real time and if god forbid the outcome isn't favorable for them to fall off the face of the earth. But it's an entirely different thing for the poster to know how their story ends and to fool us with, "and the bid card said..." and then keep us waiting for 10 days.

And us readers who post and post and post some more with things like, "you can't keep us hanging!!" "I'm hooked on this story" simply feeds their narcissisism. As I know this post does as well.

And don't even get me started with how stupid these posters are during their rush experience. Do you think that telling another house that you like/don't like another house is smart? I don't care how young, immature you are. Would you go to a job interview with Apple and tell them you own a PC? I was clueless during rush but not stupid.

And to show them how uninterested you are? Are you effing kidding me? The arrogance is quite staggering if you ask me.

Clearly I'm worked up and I know how ridiculous I sound but I think we need to stop feeding the flame of these insecure posters who are clearly looking for attention from complete strangers.

Now wonder generation Z or whatever they are called have reputations of being spoiled, etc.

Sorry for the rant.

Too bad you don't have the nuts to say it under your real screen name.

[violetpretty]

Originally Posted by Senusret I

Too bad you don't have the nuts to say it under your real screen name.

I was thinking the same thing.

[ellebud]

First of all, if I was the one who started the Totally honest type thread (I wrote my retro story about a year ago that featured a rush that took place in the 1970s) that seems to have taken a turn: I apologize. In my case (the story was told fairly quickly) I had messages to today's pnm that included: don't be put off by a sorority's reputation, religious tolerance/diversity, and that things work out. The narcissitic turn...is unbearable. I view these threads (the honest, real time or soon thereafter) not as a "brag book" but as an educational chance to give girls some information on rush, how to rush, and how to get started in college life. But, I will say that I have seen the trend that if a pnm says something "wrong" or lacks discretions...some of the ladies really jump all over them. Silence is sometimes a preferable thing. If a girl says that...ABC has ugly girls, an ugly house and/or just plain lame....let the child be. She's got more issues than can be addressed in any forum.

My daughter, who will rush next fall, read a few threads. (Since she is 18 she doesn't feel the need to discuss everything with me...and that is fine.) Daughter did say that she knows she needs recs, knows a bit about the school that she is rushing in, and that she thinks that she'll do fine whatever happens).

[Benzgirl]

Originally Posted by Fawn Liebowitz

Apparently I'm the only one sitting around wondering who "stunnedgirl" is.

Now it's my time to vent...

I can think of several posters, actually. They are the ones that if you review all of their posts, they have nothing to say on this board other than to comment on the Recruitment Stories. What do they say?

"More, more"
"I'm hooked"
"Where are you, we want more"
"Are you coming back"
"I'm dyyyyyyyyyyyyying"
"Thanks"
"Congratulations to you and XYZ"

That is the extent of how they post. Nothing is more annoying than having to weed through uninsightful comments.

I read recruitment stories, but not every day. It's not because of the OPs; it's for the stupid-ass comments that don't add to the story.

Off
My
Soap
Box

[violetpretty]

The only one of those that is not bad is the congratulatory posts, IMO. Once those pop up, the thread is basically over, so you don't have to sift through anything. Plus, congrats are due.

[AOII Angel]

Originally Posted by ellebud

But, I will say that I have seen the trend that if a pnm says something "wrong" or lacks discretions...some of the ladies really jump all over them. Silence is sometimes a preferable thing. If a girl says that...ABC has ugly girls, an ugly house and/or just plain lame....let the child be. She's got more issues than can be addressed in any forum.

Ditto!

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by ellebud

But, I will say that I have seen the trend that if a pnm says something "wrong" or lacks discretions...some of the ladies really jump all over them. Silence is sometimes a preferable thing. If a girl says that...ABC has ugly girls, an ugly house and/or just plain lame....let the child be. She's got more issues than can be addressed in any forum.

I tend to somewhat agree with this. I think that there are enough advice threads warning PNMs to use discretion, and telling them that the things they say in their threads can have a negative affect on their recruitment.

If they ignore that advice and choose to insult chapters in their threads (yes, there's a line between honest feedback and insults), put out all sorts of identifying information and just be totally indiscrete, we should just let them, and see what happens.

Sometimes I think we're being a little too nice by jumping in and telling PNMs their mistakes.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

I tend to somewhat agree with this. I think that there are enough advice threads warning PNMs to use discretion, and telling them that the things they say in their threads can have a negative affect on their recruitment.

If they ignore that advice and choose to insult chapters in their threads (yes, there's a line between honest feedback and insults), put out all sorts of identifying information and just be totally indiscrete, we should just let them, and see what happens.

Sometimes I think we're being a little too nice by jumping in and telling PNMs their mistakes.

On one hand I agree - on the other hand, I think that sometimes the PNMs are using this as a "vent" area and just getting it all out and not thinking how widely read it'll be till after they hit "submit reply." It's a part of this puter age. It's the difference between having a diary and a blog. People jumping on them is the equivalent of a mom yelling at a 5 year old "SALLY DON'T RUN ACROSS THE STREET YOU IDIOT!!" and almost ripping her arm out of the socket to stop her, just to try and keep her safe.

Most people don't read all the threads when they start posting here. Unfortunately. But those who do and still say things like "XYZ seem really slutty" - yeah, let them hang themselves. The problem is you don't know who did and who didn't.

[epchick]

Originally Posted by 33girl

On one hand I agree - on the other hand, I think that sometimes the PNMs are using this as a "vent" area and just getting it all out and not thinking how widely read it'll be till after they hit "submit reply." It's a part of this puter age. It's the difference between having a diary and a blog.

Exactly and plus the PNMs don't know who will be reading it. They think that as long as they don't say "My name is Susy A. Smith, a sophomore at Troll University" that they'll stay anonymous, so they can say whatever they want.

[Kansas City]

Since we're on a venting spree about the recruitment threads, can somebody give me an accurate definintion of "Retro"? Being an older poster, I enjoy reading experiences similar to my own and then get upset when retro is defined by the poster as 2006. Can we please establish a clear definition for this along with the term "brutally honest"?