Goodbye!

SAEguy · #1 03-24-2002, 07:55 AM

Just wanted to say goodbye, and thanks to everyone who has given me support the past couple months. Aftre trying everything I knew of to make my fraternity experience a good one I can no longer do it. The immautrity and lack of respect for one another in my house is too much. I wish things could have been different, but I have too much on my plate to deal with the crap I did at the fraternity. isuppose the real turning point to this decision was when I realized over spring break that I did not look forward to going back to college. Not because of school, or that spring break was over, but more because of the fraternity. Upon returning I found the same ol' same ol', all of my $14 dollar hair wax on my desk, a used condom on my dresser. I refuse to live in a $h*thole like that(the house as beautiful as it is, is disrespected by 3/4 of the members). So after all this I just wanted to say goodbye, I dont really see the need to stay on greekchat. I'm no longer greek, and therefor really can't give opinion on being greek. Thanks for all your help!!

Ryan

RockChalk · #2 03-24-2002, 10:54 AM

Sorry to see you go, SAEguy.

Even if you don't join another fraternity, I'm sure you'll have a great college experience.

LeslieAGD · #3 03-24-2002, 10:56 AM

I guess Ryan won't get to see this message, but I just wanted to say the just because someone de-pledges or leaves their organization, doesn't mean they can't be a part of GreekChat. Yes, it is a website designed around Greeks, but it's also a great place to meet amazing friends, get advice on just about anything, and just hang out. I hope everything gets better for Ryan in the future.

Tom Earp · #4 03-24-2002, 11:37 AM

Ryan, I hope you read these posts!

I for one of many still want a guy like you on GC! You are still a good freind of the many on site!

E-M me you should have it!

The very best of luck to you from all of us!

Just one bad experiece with a Group does not make all bad!

Your GC Buddy!!!!!!!!!!!

DGPhoney · #5 03-24-2002, 11:47 AM

hey SAEGuy,
I hope now that you have made all of your decisions, that things get better for you and that you'll be less stressed! I hope you had a great trip back from WV. Anyways keep your head up!
I'll catch you on IM

DGP~Honey~

Optimist Prime · #6 03-26-2002, 01:49 PM

Um....why not stick with it and be a leader in your chapter to fix things?? Have you talked to any of your brothers about this?

xo_sue · #7 03-26-2002, 02:10 PM

I don't think Ryan should give up that quickly. I remember the 2nd half of my freshman year- I moved into the sorority stairwell and they moved me in with 3 seniors and a pledge sister who went home every weekend.

The seniors partied all the time and I wondered what I had gotten myself into but knew I never ever wanted to give up on my sorority.

Come sophmore year- I moved in with all sophmores and freshmen and was the happiest person ever!

Ryan should not let a few members ruin his whole experience with SAE. Also- you gotta remember- he stopped drinking during THE BIGGEST PARTY WEEK of SAE's tradition at his school. We all admired him for that but I can see a bunch of 18-21 year old brothers being like- man- hang with us, party with us- this is OUR CELEBRATION WEEK. And if you don't hang out with your brothers- they will take it to heart. I'm def. not saying- drink to belong or drink to make your brothers happy but you have got to hang out with them and give them a chance. That is a big part of being greek- you are going to meet thousands of people in your life and you are not going to get along with all of them. Your boss may turn out to be a real jerk but you can't quit your job because of it- you gotta deal with it and the fraternity is going to teach you to have tolerance with the guy who borrows your hair gel all the time!

Ryan- if you read this - give it to next Fall to decide. I bet a new set of roommates will help you a lot.

CutiePie2000 · #8 03-26-2002, 02:39 PM

This is a real shame. I do believe that SAE is a great fraternity, but it sounds like he got into a bit of a stinker chapter.

lifesaver · #9 03-26-2002, 04:31 PM

Ryan, you'll always be greek in your heart. So you belong on GC. Come visit us every once in a while. Follow your heart. Do what you have to. You're always welcomed and respected here.

lifesaver

The1calledTKE · #10 03-26-2002, 04:33 PM

There are quite a few former greeks on this site so don't feel you have to leave.

Peaches-n-Cream · #11 03-26-2002, 04:44 PM

I'm sorry to see you go, SAEguy.

I wish that things could have worked out for you and SAE. Those guys sounded like a gross bunch of guys especially with that used condom on your dresser. YUCK!

GreekLetterGirl · #12 03-26-2002, 05:34 PM

sorry to see you go and I must say that what everyone said is true, that just because you aren't in a greek organization you doesn't mean that you aren't greek at heart, sorry you had such a bad experiance....

Tom Earp · #13 03-26-2002, 05:41 PM

Well, needless to say, I think Ryan has cut the cord, and not only with SAE, but with us!

I know we will all miss him as a GC Freind!

greeklawgirl · #14 03-26-2002, 06:21 PM

Wow. I'm really sorry to hear this news. I wish Ryan the best of luck, and of course he will be welcomed back to GC with open arms should he ever decide to return.

SAEguy · #15 03-26-2002, 07:35 PM

Hey all thanks for the kind words, my chapter is trying to talk me into staying. Just short of them allowing me to live out though, I am done. I have seriously tried everything. As to getting new roomates, its not like a sorority with a big pledge class. I was 2nd semester I only had 3 other pledge brothers we were supposed to be tight and treated me like $h*t. I will see what happens and dont worry if any one needs advice or to just chat I will stop by once awhile!!!