roommate's girlfriend...

[Peaches-n-Cream]

I know! After I found out about that, I told her not to talk to my mother about anything ever!
She was a little psycho herself. She went after any guy who was interested in me. It got to the point were I would pretend to like one guy to distract her. Also my freshman roomie was dating a guy that psycho had dated, and she got mad at me like I had anything to do with any of that. My friend said that the movie Single White Female describes her perfectly. She got the same outfits as I did. She cut her hair like mine, got a perm, and wanted to dye it the same color as mine. She came home one day with her new hair cut and curly just like mine. My jaw dropped and I said, "You got your hair cut." She said, "Yeah, thanks. In a couple of weeks I'm going to dye it red." I'm thinking NO WAY PSYCHO! I said, "I don't think red would look good on you. Your hair looks so great just the way it is." She never dyed it and I never spoke to or saw her again after she graduated.

[josh8o]

Originally posted by James
Assuming that you all get serious relationships of your own, where you want to spend a serious amount of time with the other person, and that other person doesn't have an apartment of their own to have you at constantly, you just might find yourself to be "that person" that this thread is talking about.

Also, if you get an SO where you can constantly go over there, and thy have roomies, then no matter HOW nice you think they are and HOW much you think they love you, at least one is thinking the same things as Josh's post. If only because you aren't doing anything for them.

That is why i am more sympathetic to Josh's friend. Are you telling that none of you have either constantly been with yor SO either at your place or theirs? Even roomies that don't say anything probably don't like it much.

Also, where else are they supposed to go? Does the rent the roomate pays only buy him/her as much a life as the least of the roomates? The if none of the other roomies are really serious you can't be?

you make interesting points, but my issue here is that she is in the room when neither he nor I are there. he went home for the weekend, and she still just came in the room like she owned the place. if he isn't here do you think that she should be allowed to hang out in the room and make herself at home even if he leaves for the weekend?

[juniorgrrl]

I had a situation like this a few semesters ago, and I eventually ended up moving out. 2 of the other girls in the apartment (4 private bedrooms) thought it was okay to have friends just walk in and hang out whenever, even if they weren't home.

I don't think that she has the right to be there when he is not there. If she shows up when he's not around, and will be gone all weekend, well you should tell her that she needs to leave because you're not interested in entertaining her.

Under no circumstances should she just hang in your room without him there, unless its something that he's cleared with you ahead of time.

My guy and I are almost ALWAYS together, but never to the point of infringing upon my roomates. If I need him to meet me at my place for some reason, one of us will call one of my roomates to clear it and see if one of them will let him in and if anyone will mind if he waits inside.

Maybe you could talk to an RA about this? If she's violating some campus rule, maybe you could make them aware of it and give them a chance to change before you turn their rude asses in

[LeslieAGD]

Originally posted by josh8o
If he isn't here do you think that she should be allowed to hang out in the room and make herself at home even if he leaves for the weekend?

Easy answer...no.

James, you do make excellent points. My ex and I were together ALL the time, and yes, we probably annoyed each others roommates, but we both had our own rooms and we pretty much stayed in them to avoid being in our roommates faces. Josh has to share a room with this other guy and so there needs to be a little consideration on both sides. That's the downside to having a roommate.

[Tom Earp]

Each and everyone of us have to have OUR TIME!
Our Space! Not some Bimbo or Dick Wad Hanging around!

Tell them straight OUT< GET THE F%&^ Out!

While You Fine Upstanding College Kids are Partying, there is a time to Study and a Time To RelaX!

They are infringing on Your Space! You Know Me. I am Bashfull and quiet!

[nucutiepie]

An update on my roommate's friend:

Earlier this week she very blatantly stole my ID and some money out of my wallet. When she returned from the bar, I snapped, and gave her a piece of my mind and probably the most thorough verbal tearing-apart that she will ever receive in her entire life. I HATE to yell (my boyfriend and I have this agreement that if we start yelling we walk away and talk again once we have calmed down - btw he realized he was acting like an ass and promised to clean up his act) but I wound up yelling, although she was yelling more and trying to defend herself. What was funny was that the other girls on my hall (there are 14 of us) with the exception of my roommate, all took my side and confronted her because she had stolen THEIR stuff as well.

Now my roommate is getting kicked out of my room so she can move in with her psycho best friend. I refused to move because the other room SMELLS (this girl lets fruit and other things ROT under her bed) and the girl lost her keys and doesnt have the money to buy a new set right now, and I am neither cleaning up anyone else's mess nor will I pay almost $200 for keys I did not lose. The girl's current roommate, who is really good friends with my best friend, is moving in with me.

Oh, and yesterday, even though we knew it was wrong, my new roommate and I ransacked the psycho girl's stuff. It was unbelievable how much of my stuff she had stashed away - I would say at least 500 dollars worth of my clothing, not to mention the stuff i did NOT find. I feel bad for violating her privacy, but I did get MY stuff back that she stole from me.

I'm just glad I will have a sane roommate and the power to lock psycho girl out of my room once and for all!

[Virtual Violet]

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After that, I don't think she would have bothered you anymore!
I mean...come on! This chick stole from other girls on your floor too...she's got some serious issues!!