Boy Issues

[DGPhoney]

Ok, so I am having major guy issues right about now, James thought I should share the story cause actually it's quite entertaining!
Here goes,. for those of you who remeber me talking about the guy I was "dating" at work or rather into, this is about him.
Anywho this goes back to superbowl weekend. He finally quit our job so we no longer work together, but anyway he decided to have a party 2 parties rather. Anyway I get there and he introduces me to this chic "friend" of his, soI was like hmm thats odd cause normally when u introduce someone your like oh yea this is so and so from work, or school,etc...
So I was wondering who she was.Well she happened to be hitting on my guy friend who was at the party and he asked her how she knew will call him Jack. She said oh she is Jack's ex girlfriend and comes to visit and spend the weekend ever so often.
Ah no wonder why he didn't tell me who she was. So I was like ok dokey now i know. So anywya she hits on my friend the entire nite and then ditches him at the end of the nite and leaves.
Next Day SUPERBOWL. I head over their to "Jack's" house to watch superbowl and come to find out his lovely ex is still there ( ) She was sooo annoying the entire time, all of us are way into the superbowl and shes talking about bra sizes and different types of bras, and how she needs to lose 15 pounds in her face(Yes, she was very dense) Then eventually she pulled out a walkman and a book during the superbowl, so I was utterly annoyed.

Wll that was that week and the whole time he never said anything to me about her. Just recently I turend 22 and had a killer party which he missed cause he said when he came home from work he went to take a nap and set his alarm clock for the next day instead of within the hour.
He also missed my actually bday on that monday.
Then I am in a Dance production which opened Friday nite, which he came to my job to personally pick up the tickets and promised me he would be at.
He headed out to the school got lost, called information at got the number to another nearby school thinking that was the right school got directions to that school, ironically enough they had a dance production as well , and he sat through their show and then halfway through realized this was not my show . He finally showed up to my sunday show in which he told me he couldn't hang out with me afterwards cause he had to go back home to do his sylabus and type up a quiz(now that he quit our job , he got a job as a teacher) but he told me we can hang out Oh wait let me get ready to jump for joy *Next Sunday* all right ,woohoo

So after this crazy long story , sould i dismiss this one and move on, or give him credit for trying and just be more vocal about what i want, you be the judge
DGP~Honey~

[Peaches-n-Cream]

He doesn't seem to be in a good relationship place. He seems like the kind of guy who always has a story. I suggest you look elsewhere for a boyfriend. You deserve a guy who is totally into you without all of this baggage/chaos. Keep him as a friend.

[James]

Damn . . . it might be time to kick this baggage to the curb! lol

I agree with Cream, he isn't in the right place for a relationship for whatever reason.

Some times we try to spend to much analyzing what the other person might be feeling or what their motives are, which is imposible to know.

What you can look at are their actions. Are hey clearly showing they like you by the way they bahave towards you? There should be little to know doubt. Also they should show, or act towards you in a way that you can understand and relate to also.

So for example if person A loves you but relates that love to you in a way that doesn't feel good for you, you probably aren;t very compatible.

Anyway, in anyone's book, the guy isn't deonstrating like or caring in a very relevant or consistant way that would strengthen a romantic relationship.

So keep him around for when you have nothing better to do then hang out with paste.

Originally posted by Cream
He doesn't seem to be in a good relationship place. He seems like the kind of guy who always has a story. I suggest you look elsewhere for a boyfriend. You deserve a guy who is totally into you without all of this baggage/chaos. Keep him as a friend.

[KillarneyRose]

There actually is a chance that all of his stories thus far have been legitimate. As unlikely as it sounds, he may have just run into a string of unlikely but real circumstances! I say give him ONE MORE try and see if he comes through for you. If not, THEN kick him to the curb!

[HotDamGam]

Thumbs up to Cream for good advice. I definitely wouldn't dismiss him as a friend though.

[SigkapAlumWSU]

I think that KillarneyRose might be right about him being legit, but I'd be a little wary at the same time. If he doesn't have time for you, and keeps missing the things that are important to you, you shouldn't put up with it.

[tridelta4ever]

Forget it, I say dump his ass. I can understand having bad luck on one occasion, but something about this whole story just makes me think he's a cad. Then again, I could be wrong, but I somehow doubt it. Good luck anyway, DGPhoney.

[h2oot]

I'd say to move on. I wouldn't waste time waiting for some dude who only wants to do things on his terms or his timetable. If he is really interested he will let you know. If so, and if you are still interested, then you might want to enlighten him about your needs...but my opinion is that he prolly would be the same the 2nd time around, too.