Pregnant and in a sorority

[SthrnZeta]

Also, don't worry about getting your letters pulled, that's silly. Early alum status though, probably a good idea simply because you won't have time to be active. Like I said, celebrate your motherhood and include your sisters in your happiness

[Zeta13Girl]

Im going to PM you ... while I dont have direct experience with this I do know some things that can help you out.

[TriDPrincess]

ZTABerry28- I hope you don't mind but I PMmed you.

[carnation]

Just thinking...I can tell you as the reigning queen of pregnancies around here (haha!) that nearer the end of your pregnancy, your thoughts will center obsessively on the baby. Your house could burn down around you, your neighbors could fly to Venus, and all you'll be thinking about is your pregnancy and your baby.

So don't be surprised later on if staying active is the last thing on your mind...

[ZTAngel]

While I was pledging, I remember one of the seniors getting pregnant. She took early alum status. Everyone in my chapter was very understanding of her situation. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do.

[AOII Angel]

I think nittanyalum has a great idea! It's amazing how people take news if it's presented as a positive rather than a negative. Being engaged does seem to take the (gasp) scandal out of being pregnant and unmarried. This, at least, will give you time to decide whether or not being active after getting married and having your child is of any importance to you.

[ChildoftheHorn]

There are a lot of people who find the time it takes to be in a sorority to be difficult while just being a student.

If it was me, I would let your sisters know and maybe plan on going early alum. If you go early alum, you will still be able to help your house without having it high on your time-worry list. I cannot tell you how much we love having alums around to help and participate with us.

That is gonna be one very Greek baby! And I wish you all the love, sisterhood, and energy I can muster! (you will need it with the baby)

[ZTABullwinkle]

Congratulations to you and your fiance. When I was active with my college chapter, one of our new members became pregnant before Initiation. She dropped out, but we were more than happy whenever she stopped by at "tables" to say hello.

I think your sisters will be very supportive during this time. Best of luck to you!

PS - I think a candlelight is a great idea. I always wanted to have one...

[ztaberry28]

After thinking about it since my fiance is going alum when he graduates early alum status is probably best for me and our baby. Im staying in school to finish my degree with the help of my family and since he will be graduate he'll be working and honestly I wont have much time for socials and recruitment, but i want to stay involved in the sisterhood.

[SWTXBelle]

Sounds like a good plan. And remember, when the baby is a little older, you've graduated and have a little more free time - Zeta will still be there. Alumna involvement, while different, brings its own rewards!

[ThetaPrincess24]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

You need to immediately talk to your alumna advisor to find out your options. Will you stay in school after the birth of the baby?

Having a new baby AND going to school will be very taxing. I think going alumna, if an option, may be your best bet. I was in graduate school when I had my first one, and thought it would be a piece of cake to finish my thesis with the new baby. HA! I did finish, but it took 5 extra months - and I could do all my research and writing on my own time.

I wish you and your baby the best. I hope and pray your sisters will be supportive, and that you are able to work it out.

eta -Wait - Christians don't get pregnant??? Even a "Christian" sorority would, I hope, "hate the sin but love the sinner". I would shudder to think that kicking a member out would be their "Christian" response. WWJD, indeed.

Agreed!

[honeychile]

Originally Posted by ztaberry28

After thinking about it since my fiance is going alum when he graduates early alum status is probably best for me and our baby. Im staying in school to finish my degree with the help of my family and since he will be graduate he'll be working and honestly I wont have much time for socials and recruitment, but i want to stay involved in the sisterhood.

Sounds like a good plan! And have that candlelight! I think that would be awesome for your baby's Baby Book!

[FSUZeta]

i think having a candlelight to announce your engagement would be lovely and you should do it. ZTA candlelights are for lavaliering, pinning, engagements and sometimes when a orphaned sister is adopted by another ZTA family.

before you plan a candlelight to announce your pregnancy, please check to see if it would be okay with your chapters ec, the advisors or the province president.

while it is sweet that some of you are encouraging ztaberry to have a candlelight to announce her pregnancy, it is really a decision that ztaberry and her chapter, advisors and/or province president need to decide.

[honeychile]

OOPS! Sorry if I've misstepped!

[FSUZeta]

no need to apologize. as similar as all our orgs. are, we do do some things differently .