Another UW Rush Thread - Sort Of

mythreedd · #1 09-14-2006, 11:30 AM

My daughter wasn't too keen on me writing a rush thread where I talk about the different houses, but she doesn't care if I write generally about her experence to date...which has been wonderful.

She went up to UW not really knowing anyone and thinks the decision to go through rush is one of her best decisions ever. Luckily for her, she also knew nothing about the 16 houses at UW, so she feels it is especially easy for her to follow the #1 rule of rushing (which we learned here) "keep an open mind."

She has only had wonderful things to say about the girls and their sisterhoods and houses. Although she is exhausted, she says when she finishes each day she can't wait to go back. She also likes the fact, that when they had to make their first selections, that the top 10 she got to rank all number 1, and then the next 6, she got to rank 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 and 7. The ranking was very hard for her, as she felt she had met some wonderful girls. But when it came down to it, if she could remember a girl's name from a house or a wonderful conversation, she kept them in the top 10. For a couple groups she felt uncomfortable with the rotation because it seemed too fast for her, once a conversation got going to was time to switch, so she ended up using how the rotations felt as a factor in ranking as well.

She was scared to death receiving her first group of invites back but got a full schedule, including 9 of her number 1's, and her #2 house.

Yesterday, she visited 5 of the houses and couldn't believe how beautiful they all are. She is trying to use the advice I gave her when she applied to college: try to find many you really like, instead of one that you love, so that it in the end you get to make the choice, instead of being disappointed. And that's what she said last night, "I'm trying so hard not to fall for only one specific house."

One comment I have is I am also quite impressed with Panhellenic. They have told the girls not to talk about their invites, the houses they are going back to, etc., to other girls, and my daughter says it seems that the girls are taking that advice seriously. She and her room-mate (she's staying in the dorms this week) have hung-out a lot, gone places together, etc., but she says she does not know which houses "Colleen" is going to, and "Colleen" does not know which houses she is going to. My daughter said that is pretty true for all the girls she has met and has been hanging out with afterwards. So that's a great thing in my opinion.

I'm also keeping for her a rush journal based on our conversations and emails, because someone here said it was a fun thing to go back and read later on. I also think it'll be interesting to see how her feelings for different houses evolve over the next few days.

Well, that's it for now. To all the girls rushing, I hope you all find your homes, but most of all...have a blast!

adpiucf · #2 09-14-2006, 11:41 AM

Good luck! It looks like you have raised a daughter with a very healthy perspective on the decision-making process. We should all hope that every PNM and sorority member would show such maturity and open-mindedness in this process. I can understand if you're rushing at a school where the members total in the 20's or 30's to hone in on one chapter only b/c with numbers of that size you are probably looking more at a very niche fit from chapter to chapter. But with very large chapters, it is not a stretch to see that you could fit in easily among 100 or so women and find your niche within such a large group. Best of luck to her in this process and kudos to you for raising such a great kid!

Buttonz · #3 09-14-2006, 12:09 PM

Good luck!

You gave her great advice, and it's nice to see that she is listening

FSUZeta · #4 09-14-2006, 03:30 PM

yea!!! thanks mom for starting this thread(and to daughter for allowing your mom to do so)

Denise_DPhiE · #5 09-14-2006, 04:38 PM

This is great. A childhood friend of mine joined Sigma Kappa at UW many years ago and said it was the greatest grek system onthe planet. Must be that panhellenic!!

Good luck to your daughter and kudos to you, you are a great mom. So mom, are you a sorority member?

Little E · #6 09-14-2006, 04:42 PM

I'm always confused with this. The UW you are refering to is Washington right? not Wisconsin? the plight of being a Wisconsinite.

Good luck to your daughter!!

Sidenote: One of my chapter sister's, sister is rushing at UW. We are totally excited to see where she goes!

Jill1228 · #7 09-14-2006, 05:19 PM

She is referring to UW, U-Dub, University of Washington!

honeychile · #8 09-14-2006, 10:09 PM

Wow, your daughter seems to have it really together! UW is a great school, with beautiful houses!

PiPhiERDoc · #9 09-17-2006, 10:30 AM

Bid day is today at UW - any updates on your daughter's rush? I'm crossing my fingers that she is a happy girl today...

mythreedd · #10 09-17-2006, 03:45 PM

It's been a pretty stressful week, and as a mom I think I should warn all you younger women...rush is a heck of a lot easier going through it (at least as far as I can remember) than being a mom and watching your daughter go through it. I think this has been the only time I wished I had sons, instead of 3 daughters.

But to make a long story short, it worked out wonderfully in the end. I have no idea what preference was like for her as she was so baffled and unsure of herself afterwards. Houses she thought she really clicked hadn't invited her back. But one house kept rising up higher and higher throughout the entire week, and she was afraid to like it too much for fear of being disappointed. When I asked her how preference went there she said (between tears) she had no clue. She felt she had lost her entire sense of judgment.

So around 10:18 this morning I got a call. It was brief because she had to go. She didn't sound thrilled, but rather hugely relieved. When I asked are you happy, all she could say was, "I'm happy, happy, happy," and "I've never been so nervous in my life. It will hit me soon." "I've got to go." "I love you." (A 30 second phone call, and the stress is slowly, but surely finally leaving my body.)

I also feel like I could write a new diet book: "The Mom's Rush Diet." I've dropped 6 pounds this week, my stomach is in such knots. But it's over now, and she can get to enjoy her new home at

Chi Omega.

alum · #11 09-17-2006, 03:47 PM

Congrats to your daughter!

adpiucf · #12 09-17-2006, 04:12 PM

Congratulations to your family and Chi Omega! I hope your daughter enjoys her time with her sorority and the campus scene at UW!

Buttonz · #13 09-17-2006, 04:37 PM

Congrats to your daughter and Chi Omega!

violetpretty · #14 09-17-2006, 04:57 PM

Congratulations to your daughter and CW! I saw pictures of the Chi Omega house on the UW website and it is beautiful!

FSUZeta · #15 09-17-2006, 07:17 PM

what wonderful news!! hooray for your daughter and for chi omega!!