Wedding Related: Bridesmaid Dresses

[Peaches-n-Cream]

Originally posted by honeychile
Peaches & Cream - please clean out your PM box!

I'm doing it right now.

[BobbyTheDon]

Originally posted by honeychile
Peaches & Cream - please clean out your PM box!

sorry Honeychile.


PC and I were clogging eachothers PM box with little puppy love messages

then it got a little rauchy. OW OW OW!

Wassup momma

[Rudey]

Originally posted by BobbyTheDon
sorry Honeychile.


PC and I were clogging eachothers PM box with little puppy love messages

then it got a little rauchy. OW OW OW!

Wassup momma

hahaha hey were you able to get your car out this morning or was he double parked and locked you in again? HAHAHAH

-Rudey

[Marie]

Originally posted by LeslieAGD
My sister and I are getting married about 2 1/2 months apart. When I was chosing a bridesmaid/Maid of Honor dress, she was a super...super...super picky pain, and "rejected" at least 10-15 dress choices.

Now that the shoe is on the other foot, she doesn't seem to care which dress I like, and only cares that the dress is cheap in price. I understand that she wants to keep the cost down for the other attendant, but the dress I like is not an expensive dress. I don't want to be a pain and say that I should get to choose my dress because she chose hers....but that's partially the truth.

Is there a nice way to say that I don't want to wear the dress she chose, without making it seem like I'm being picky because she was? Thanks!

Well, I'm not sure what the proper wedding etiquette is, but I say that you should follow that. If it is truly up to the bride, then put on whatever she likes, walk down the aisle, and be happy for her special moment. If it is up to the bride's maids, then tell her what you would prefer and why (better cut, color, material), etc. and go forth w/that.

However, it's a little weak to say "well I let you pick, so now you have to let me pick" esp. at her wedding. If you felt that she was too picky at your wedding, then you should have addressed that then. If you wanted her to wear something different at your wedding, then you should have insisted on that. If you didn't, then too bad. It's over and done with. Even if you just wanted her to wear whatever would make her most happy on your day, then that was your choice. It has nothing to do w/her and what she has to do on her day. You cant pull it out of the closet to throw back in her face now.

[BobbyTheDon]

Originally posted by Rudey
hahaha hey were you able to get your car out this morning or was he double parked and locked you in again? HAHAHAH

-Rudey

I'm going to kill that cholo if he does it again!

[GeekyPenguin]

Originally posted by carnation
If you go to David's Bridal website, you'll see the section where there are matching 2-piece dresses. The bridesmaids can choose from strapless, spaghetti straps, V necks, and others all in the same material. There are so many variations and colors that it seems like she could find something there that's agreeable to both of you!

Yes, but then you have to use David's.

[Tippiechick]

Originally posted by Marie
You cant pull it out of the closet to throw back in her face now.

Yes she can... What's stopping her?

[LeslieAGD]

Hi all...Thank you for the replies.

My sister and I are 8 years apart, but still pretty close. When I was choosing a BM dress, she was adamant that she had to have a dress with sleeves because she has some stretch marks on her arms that she does not want to show. She wasn't being picky on purpose, but there aren't a whole lot of nice BM dress with sleeves and she wouldn't consider a sheer jacket or a shawl/wrap. I knew if I didn't find a dress she liked, I would have to hear about it for the next 6 months and beyond!!! Now that she's choosing her dresses, I feel that I should have a say in what I would like/feel comfortable in. I'm not saying I should be in control of her dress choice, but I feel my opinion should be considered.

We had dinner at my mom's house tonight and I gently reiterated that I really prefer the first dress but that I will keep an open mind until we try the dresses on. The dress that I like it actually separates, so we could have different styles if necessary...and it's very simple and could be worn again to a dinner party or dressy event.

[Sister Havana]

Originally posted by PhiRhoSister
Maybe it was because my sister was in her late 20's and more realistic about weddings when she got married, but she simply gave the bridesmaids a color and let them decide what they wanted to wear. Let me tell you, we loved our dresses!

It's one thing to buy an evening dress that you dislike and will never wear again - it good money down the drain. By getting to pick out our own evening dress, we were able to buy something that we wanted to wear and would wear again.

That's kind of how it worked for the two weddings I was in. The first one, we were given a color and a choice of about eight different dress styles to pick from. The MoH and I picked the dress with sleeves, two other girls picked a sleeveless dress with a wrap, and the last girl picked a strapless dress with a wrap. As for the shoes, the guideline was grey or silver. (I found a great pair of silver shoes at Shoe Carnival for $12.00!)

For the second one, our dresses were separates. The plan was for all of us to wear the same skirt, and then we could each choose our own top. It just so happened that everyone liked the same top. (with sleeves) I have worn that outfit several times since. (for Jaycee banquets etc.) It's really elegant and doesn't scream "bridesmaid." We also got to pick our shoes for this one too, and had them dyed to match our dresses.

I think this is the best way to do things, especially when the bridesmaids have a wide range of body types and sizes. I'm busty and there's no way in Hell I'd be able to wear a strapless dress. And if I had to wear high heels I'd fall on my face. (I wore flats in the first wedding and kitten heels in the second)

[Marie]

Originally posted by Tippiechick
Yes she can... What's stopping her?

The fact that she's an adult?


LeslieAGD, it sounds like you did the right thing by gently yet honestly expressing how you feel. I'm sure that your sister is reasonable and will take your feelings into account.

[wrigley]

Originally posted by Marie
The fact that she's an adult?

That doesn't have anything to do with it. It's matter of respect that LeslieAGD gets the same courtesy. I really hope that your sister lets you be as generous in the dress selection as you were with her.

If she tries to force you to wear something that's not flattering for you, just gently remind her that her dress order can always be cancelled. That option is always available to you as the bride. It's your and mr. leslie agd's day not hers.

It's selfish that she should try to take the focus away from you on your day. Her turn will come soon enough, just 2 months later. Did she every try to consult a makeup artist to see if the marks could be camouflaged?

[adpiucf]

Just a side note-- I had a really bad experience with David's Bridal and wouldn't recommend them.

[Marie]

Originally posted by wrigley
That doesn't have anything to do with it. It's matter of respect that LeslieAGD gets the same courtesy. I really hope that your sister lets you be as generous in the dress selection as you were with her.

If she tries to force you to wear something that's not flattering for you, just gently remind her that her dress order can always be cancelled. That option is always available to you as the bride. It's your and mr. leslie agd's day not hers.

It's selfish that she should try to take the focus away from you on your day. Her turn will come soon enough, just 2 months later. Did she every try to consult a makeup artist to see if the marks could be camouflaged?

Wrigley,

Re-read. This is her sister's wedding, not hers (unless I have just completely read this thread all wrong). She already had her day (2 months ago), so really these sentences "That option is always available to you as the bride. It's your and mr. leslie agd's day not hers. It's selfish that she should try to take the focus away from you on your day." kinda support the theory that she should not be too argumentative or picky w/her sister over what she wears on HER SISTER'S DAY.

[wrigley]

Originally posted by LeslieAGD
My sister and I are getting married about 2 1/2 months apart. When I was chosing a bridesmaid/Maid of Honor dress, she was a super...super...super picky pain, and "rejected" at least 10-15 dress choices.

Marie, please re-read the above paragraph. I think you're confusing her with Peaches-n- Cream who was a bridesmaid last November.

Hey LeslieAGD how did dress shopping go?

[Marie]

Originally posted by wrigley
Marie, please re-read the above paragraph.

Wrigley, maybe we're just reading it differently. To me it says that when she was a bride her sister rejected several of her choices for bride's maids dresses. Now that her sister is a bride, she is not giving Leslie the same option.

Also note the following paragraph"

Originally posted by LeslieAGD
When I was choosing a BM dress, she was adamant that she had to have a dress with sleeves because she has some stretch marks on her arms that she does not want to show. She wasn't being picky on purpose, but there aren't a whole lot of nice BM dress with sleeves and she wouldn't consider a sheer jacket or a shawl/wrap. I knew if I didn't find a dress she liked, I would have to hear about it for the next 6 months and beyond!!! Now that she's choosing her dresses, I feel that I should have a say in what I would like/feel comfortable in.

To me that sounds like her sister really wanted to wear a bride's maid dress that covered her arms when Leslie got married. Now she isn't giving Leslie any say in what she wears to her sister's wedding.

Leslie, I do feel your pain. I just don't really think that it is worth falling out w/your sister over, esp. since it is her wedding. I would express my opinion regarding which dress I preferred to wear, but beyond that I'd do what was going to make her pleased on her day.