For NPC sororitiy women

Deepher4Life · #1 08-19-2008, 08:38 PM

As far as I know all NPC sororities have a policy that if you are a member of sorority at your school, and you if wish to transfer to a school that has that same sorority, you are free to affiliate and be become a member of that chapter without having to rush/get a bid.

First off, I would like to know (if you can tell me?) if that is an actual policy of ALL NPC sororities.

And I would also like to get your opinion about how you would feel if you were a sister of Alpha Beta Kappa sorority (Alpha Beta Chapter) and a woman from the Beta Sigma chapter transferred to your school and chose to affiliate with your chapter.

Do you think that you would welcome her with open arms? Do you think that you would judge her on not being loyal to the chapter that she joined by affiliating with another chapter? And since each chapter of any GLO attracts different types of women and has a different reputation, would you fear that she would not fit in, because after all she never rush your chapter and you know nothing about her? Or would you think she is an ABK and all ABKs are great and she's already my sister and if the beta sigma chapter thinks shes wonderful then she must be? And if you have ever had a sister transfer and join another college's chapter or you yourself did so or if you transfered to a school that had your org but your chose not to affiliate, I would love to hear your experience...

I'm sorry, but I am really wondering all of this. If it is inappropriate and something please let me know. And if you can answer this please do!!!!! I dont know anyone personally who has transfered schools and joined an other chapter of their GLO, but i do know a few people who have transfered and chosen not to join the chapter of their GLO at their new school.

(sorry for all the run on sentences...lol)

#2 08-19-2008, 08:46 PM

I don't know other NPC sororities' policy except for my own, and Alpha Gamma Delta allows this.

I had a chapter sister transfer to our Gamma Beta chapter (Florida State) about a year after she was initiated. Her father was re-stationed in SC, and she decided to go to FSU to be closer to her family. I was serving as an advisor on Executive Council at that time, and I remember reading her letter explaining her situation and her desire to transfer and affiliate. We knew she'd make a stellar member of Gamma Beta, and we let them know that!

I know there's an affiliation fee involved as well as a vote taken by the new chapter (their EC had to approve it as well, IIRC). She transferred, affiliated, and within a small amount of time I heard she was their VP-Recruitment!

On the other end of the spectrum, we've had sisters transfer to campuses with Alpha Gam chapters, only to find out that they didn't really 'mesh' well with the girls there, so for reasons only known to them, they decided not to pursue collegiate affiliation and did not participate in any collegian activity. They became active members of their alum groups, though.

SWTXBelle · #3 08-19-2008, 09:07 PM

To the best of my knowledge, Gamma Phi Beta's policy allow women to affiliate with the new school's chapter with the approval of the chapter. (If I stated that incorrectly, please let me know, sisters)
One of our sisters at Gamma Chi had transferred from another school - she was great! When my big sister transferred to UT, she chose not to affiliate with the chapter there - she transferred with only a little while to go, and didn't feel she had the time to commit to being an active.

amanda6035 · #4 08-21-2008, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

and didn't feel she had the time to commit to being an active.

I HATE when I hear stuff like this. I think if you are a member of a sorority at one school, and you transfer to another school with that sorority, and long as the chapter and that member "mesh," she should affiliate. WHat a cop out excuse - no time for being active....what, does that mean if she had stayed at her previous school she would have dropped out due to time commitments? I just dont buy it. I think if you're a collegiate, and your sorority is available at your new school, you should affiliate. I think it's lazy and disrespectful to your national organization to transfer schools, and not affiliate.

Blast away.

33girl · #5 08-21-2008, 12:40 PM

1) You have to put your education first. If you were barely scraping by at your old school and being involved in a sorority was a big part of why you were doing so badly, you do no one any favors by affiliating and barely participating.

2) If with the transfer you change your major from something super easy to something super hard and time consuming, again, you do no one any favors by affiliating and barely participating.

3) Dues are different at every school, often with housing or lack of same being a factor. Just because you could afford them at Small Private College doesn't mean you will be able to at Big State School.

I would rather have someone who knows how much she can take on not affiliate, than be active and half-ass it or end up owing tons of $$ she didn't have to begin with.

violetpretty · #6 08-21-2008, 12:57 PM

My chapter had a transfer affiliate the fall of her junior year. She actually came to visit us the spring before on her spring break and she seemed to mesh well with members her year, and she even had a friend from high school in our chapter. But, soon after she affiliated, she was MIA. I have no idea if she decided she didn't like US or the general Greek experience at our school or what.

She ended up not going to anything, just paying dues and all the fines she racked up for missing mandatory events. She would avoid us like the plague; she would usually just give her dues and fines to a sister she had class with, not even stopping by the house. While I commend her dedication to the National organization by not withdrawing her membership, it would have been a better situation for her to have not affiliated in the first place because she poured about $4000 down the drain (though, she COULD have gotten her money's worth had she chose to).

I know of other chapters at Maryland that have had transfer affiliates mesh marvelously. I think it is important to have an extended "get to know you" period before the member decides to affiliate and the chapter votes on her to make sure both parties would be happy.

SmartBlondeGPhB · #7 08-21-2008, 12:35 PM

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Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

To the best of my knowledge, Gamma Phi Beta's policy allow women to affiliate with the new school's chapter with the approval of the chapter. (If I stated that incorrectly, please let me know, sisters)

This is correct (as one who did).

OP, you are assuming that there weren't outside circumstances that casued the person to transfer schools. I would have loved to remain at mine (and my loyalty to my chapter of initiation has not changed) but I was unable to.

Unfortunately, my chapter of initiation is now closed.

valmypal · #8 08-19-2008, 09:09 PM

I personally have not experienced this, but I do know a girl that transferred to our college and is a DZ. She met with the DZ's from Cal to see if she would feel like she fit in and so they could meet her, get to know her, etc. I don't know any of their policies or if there were fees or anything, but I do know she affiliated and was very active with the chapter. So it was a happy ending!

ComradesTrue · #9 08-19-2008, 09:20 PM

As far as I know Theta allows affiliation with an affirmative vote by the chapter the member wishes to affiliate with.

I went to a private college that literally pulled students from every corner of the country, and IIRC 40% were out of state. It was common every year to loose a few members to transfer because of being home-sick. There were several members in my pledge class that did affiliate with their new school upon moving closer to home. We enthusiastically endorsed them, as they had been good members. I believe that extrapolating that the member "is not loyal" to the original chapter is a bit of a stretch. There are many, many legitimate reasons to transfer, and this should not be held against a member.

We also had several individuals who affilated with our chapter while I was there. They were wonderful additions and one even served as an officer.

All that being said, there was a girl on our campus who went through recruitment both as a Freshman and a Sophomore (we didn't have COB) with the *sole* intention of being an XYZ... the other 9 houses were all beneath her in her mind. She was cut from XYZ both years. So... before school even started sophomore year she transferred back home and went through recruitment at the local commuter college and got a bid to their XYZ chapter.

Would you believe she showed back up on our campus junior year and tried to affiliate with our XYZs? They voted to not affiliate her.

KSUViolet06 · #10 08-19-2008, 09:29 PM

My sorority allows girls from other chapters to affiliate with us pending approval from the chapter they're looking to affiliate with.

In my particular chapter, we had a handful of transfer ladies affiliate with us in the time that I was there. We usually invited them to come to a few chapter events beforehand, so they could get to know us and see if they wanted to pursue affiliation (and for us to see if we meshed with them).

We were really fortunate in that every girl who pursued affiliation with our chapter actually fit in really well. We never had a situation where the transfer was denied affiliation.

luv n tpa · #11 08-19-2008, 09:32 PM

My roommate transfered into my chapter. Only recently she told me that she hadn't thought much about affiliating with us at the time, but she wore her jacket one day that looked quite different than ours, and our then-president approached her not knowing who she was. She was invited to hang out with us and come to some events so that we could get a feel for her. She expressed interest in affiliating with us, and we accepted her. =)

She was such a breath of fresh air, as she came from a chapter that was more well-versed in areas that we were not. She gave such wonderful insight and really helped to improve us as a chapter. She, as well as the rest of the chapter, know that had she gone through recruitment at my school, she would have gone somewhere else, but I'm so glad it has happened the way it did. She loves both of her chapters, and we all love her!

AOII Angel · #12 08-19-2008, 09:59 PM

For AOII, any member in good standing may join any other collegiate chapter. We have no specific rules that state that the affiliation must be approved by the new chapter. Some chapters may have rules stating such in their bylaws that I don't know about, but once a sister, you are eligible for membership anywhere.

#13 08-19-2008, 10:07 PM

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Originally Posted by AOII Angel

For AOII, any member in good standing may join any other collegiate chapter. We have no specific rules that state that the affiliation must be approved by the new chapter. Some chapters may have rules stating such in their bylaws that I don't know about, but once a sister, you are eligible for membership anywhere.

This statement made me remember something I read here a few months ago.

Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it was the Delta Gamma chapter at UF that doesn't do affiliation from members who have transferred from other schools. I can't remember the reason why, but I think it was something to do with maintaining the chapter's integrity?

Are there other chapters who have similar policies?

ComradesTrue · #14 08-19-2008, 10:16 PM

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Someone please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think it was the Delta Gamma chapter at UF that doesn't do affiliation from members who have transferred from other schools. I can't remember the reason why, but I think it was something to do with maintaining the chapter's integrity?

Yes, I remember reading that too. Perhaps baci can shed some light.

I am sure that "integrity of the chapter" had something to do with it. But, seems like there was also a post that said that tons and tons of girls in Florida were pledging DG at smaller non-competitive schools, each with the intention of transferring to UF. The number of transfers was just overwhelming the UF chapter, and it was also hurting the original chapters.

But then again, maybe I just dreamed that last part.

BabyPiNK_FL · #15 08-19-2008, 10:56 PM

For Phi Mu it says you should seek to affiliate at your transfer school if it has a Phi Mu chapter. But that is only the paper work for transfering or becoming an alumna.

I'm assuming that some chapters have bylaws and require votes, etc. I'm not sure if mine chapter does to be honest, I've never ever witnessed a bylaw on the subject. I do know that women have transfered to my school and not affiliated. Now that is what makes me mad. You should at least try unless your transferred due to awful circumstances (ex. sick parent/sibling, finances, etc.)