Military Spouses/Fiances/Girlfriends

[SthrnZeta]

I've only been with my boyfriend for going on 5 months and we just found out that he'll be going to a unit that has already deployed and so he of course will be joining them sometime in January probably, right after he reports there. I've been the girlfriend to a deployed soldier before (when I was a senior in college) and it didn't go very well - but I hadn't been dating that guy very long so it ended while he was gone. With my current boyfriend, I definitely see it lasting a long time, maybe even, dare I say, the M word...? Which is why I think I'm taking this a little harder than I did with that other guy. At the same time though, he was infantry and my current boyfriend is an officer and not infantry so his situation over there will be a little different. However, last time he went, one of his best friends died, so I imagine he's very scared to go again.

My question is if there are any other women out there who are married to/dating a deployed soldier/sailor/marine/airman. I think it'd be great to have a thread for discussions and venting on this within GC.

[alum]

GEN Alum is not currently deployed but he certainly has been in the past. Here's hoping that your sweetheart and his men stay unharmed during their mission.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by SthrnZeta

At the same time though, he was infantry and my current boyfriend is an officer and not infantry so his situation over there will be a little different.

Only way to go. LOL.

I dated an Army guy in 2005 for about 8 months. He wasn't a very high rank or anything. We were only dating for like 4 months when he got deployed. Needless to say, that relationship didn't last long.

I'm now dating a Marine Corps officer and the situation is much different. He works in recruitment (specifically recruiting college grads for the Officer Candidate School) so he is non-deployable (for now) and we get to see each other fairly often. The situation is a complete difference from the last military guy I dated, and so much better.

Not particularly sure where we're headed, but it's been great so far. Best of luck with your man!

[MysticCat]

There was a similar thread started a few months ago: Military Spouses, Parents and Families. I take it from that thread that there are others arounde GC in similar places in life, although that thread is only a page or two long.

There's also this thread that might have some interesting insights: Would you marry someone in the military? (I haven't read through it, though, so I'm just guessing.)

I don't mean this as a "do a search" post -- just thought these previous threads might have something of value to your question.

Good luck to you and your boyfriend!

[SigKapAngel767]

Navy Wife right here....and no, I am not looking forward to "our" first deployment

[LPIDelta]

Yes, please join us in the other thread. I am hoping that will be a check in point for all of military wives/gfs on GC!