Bad Alumna Involvement

[sir_fidel_rocks]

How do you handle alumnae who are putting their negative $.02 in or who are telling new members the gossip of the chapter?

Originally Posted by sir_fidel_rocks

How do you handle alumnae who are putting their negative $.02 in or who are telling new members the gossip of the chapter?

It depends. Are you a collegian or an alumna?

Are these alums recent alums? I'm assuming they are because I've seen it happen firsthand.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by sir_fidel_rocks

How do you handle alumnae who are putting their negative $.02 in or who are telling new members the gossip of the chapter?

Well, once the NMs are initiated and become more integrated with the chapter, they're going to find out the gossip, anyway.

Are they trying to get them to stop pledging or what? If it's a personal grudge - i.e. an alum saying "Sandy is a backstabbing ho with no fashion sense" - then that should be stopped. But if they're telling them something that is the truth - i.e. "the reason we don't have mixers w/ XYZ is because they trashed our president's apartment last year" then quite frankly I don't see the harm in NMs knowing that. They shouldn't be sheltered like children.

BTW OTW, I am referring to the Sandy I know IRL, not you.

Originally Posted by 33girl

Well, once the NMs are initiated and become more integrated with the chapter, they're going to find out the gossip, anyway.

Are they trying to get them to stop pledging or what? If it's a personal grudge - i.e. an alum saying "Sandy is a backstabbing ho with no fashion sense" - then that should be stopped. But if they're telling them something that is the truth - i.e. "the reason we don't have mixers w/ XYZ is because they trashed our president's apartment last year" then quite frankly I don't see the harm in NMs knowing that. They shouldn't be sheltered like children.

BTW OTW, I am referring to the Sandy I know IRL, not you.

Hahaha...somehow I had a feeling you weren't talking about me.

Where are these alums gossiping to NMs anyway? At official functions?

[Tom Earp]

Originally Posted by OTW

Hahaha...somehow I had a feeling you weren't talking about me.

Where are these alums gossiping to NMs anyway? At official functions?

Was going to post, but oh never mind!

[ChildoftheHorn]

I have a friend whose GLO is trying to get rid of their current adviser. She is really nothing but a pain to say the least. They asked if she could change some of her attitudes to be more positive, but no such luck. Right now, they are trying to work above her and get a new adviser.

[SmartBlondeGPhB]

Originally Posted by ChildoftheHorn

I have a friend whose GLO is trying to get rid of their current adviser. She is really nothing but a pain to say the least. They asked if she could change some of her attitudes to be more positive, but no such luck. Right now, they are trying to work above her and get a new adviser.

Unfortunately, it's not always as easy as just "getting a new advisor". You have to have someone willing to do the job. For us, it's a HUGE job that needs someone with a lot of free time. But yes, a negative attitude should not be allowed.

OP, are there other alums who can deal with the situation? I would suggest using them if possible. Alumnae are involved with a chapter to be supportive and if they aren't being that then they need to just stay away. And that will go over better for the chapter if it comes from another alumnae.