Wedding planning

ZTABullwinkle · #1 04-09-2007, 01:47 PM

I am newly engaged. I have seen the threads on wedding dresses and engagement rings. I am stuck as to where to start with my wedding planning. My thoughts are so scattered and overwhelming that the thought is pretty daunting.

We have yet to set a date, since there seems to be many things to take into account...such as:

my best friend is my maid of honor, and I am in her wedding on June 28, 2008. So how far apart do you plan your weddings so you don't go nutso with both weddings?
getting married during September or October here in Virginia Beach means that an univited hurricane may be coming
getting married in late July or August is going to be HOT!!!

So, any advice would be extremely helpful!! Thanks!

AlphaFrog · #2 04-09-2007, 01:49 PM

Just elope and get it over with.

/What? You knew someone was going to say it.

ZTABullwinkle · #3 04-09-2007, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Just elope and get it over with.

/What? You knew someone was going to say it.

That thought has crossed my mind on a few occassions.

RitaMae1908 · #4 04-09-2007, 02:26 PM

First thing you'll probably want to decide is your budget, who's paying for what, and how many people you'll want to invite (whether it's 50 or 450!!)

The two most crucial things to consider are the coordination of dates that are available at the church and any potential reception venues. That ultimately will determine what date you and your future "honey" will choose. If you're not getting married in a church then you'll have it a little easier time.

Take your Mother and/or FMIL or one of your close G/Fs and check out a reception venues. Most will want you to call ahead and make an appt to view the facility.

After I booked the date at my church and my reception everything else pretty much fell into place. I highly recommend signing up on TheKnot.com. You can track your guestlist there and they'll give month-to-month to do list so you can keep track of things!!!

Hope that helps. Congratulations!!!

KSigkid · #5 04-09-2007, 03:27 PM

Congratulations on the engagement. Honestly, I'd advise not getting help on Greekchat or message boards. Talk to friends, your fiancee, and just figure out what works best for you.

For what its worth I was married on the hottest days of the year in Boston, and it all worked out ok (although my groomsmen hit the open bar with some gusto when we were done; they probably would have done that anyway, though).

AlexMack · #6 04-09-2007, 03:52 PM

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Congratulations on the engagement. Honestly, I'd advise not getting help on Greekchat or message boards. Talk to friends, your fiancee, and just figure out what works best for you.

Word to this. Do not ask for advice here. Also do not ask for advice on theknot.com. From what I've heard, bridezillas abound.

BetteDavisEyes · #7 04-09-2007, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

I am newly engaged. I have seen the threads on wedding dresses and engagement rings. I am stuck as to where to start with my wedding planning. My thoughts are so scattered and overwhelming that the thought is pretty daunting.

First of all, Congratulations!

Now, to answer your questions. I was married in December of 05 so it wasn't that long ago. I hope to answer your questions as best as I can.

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

We have yet to set a date, since there seems to be many things to take into account...such as:

my best friend is my maid of honor, and I am in her wedding on June 28, 2008. So how far apart do you plan your weddings so you don't go nutso with both weddings?

You can pretty much plan them as close or as far apart as you feel comfortable doing. It really depends on how hectic you think hers is going to be and how much stress do you really want to be in if your wedding is only a few days or weeks after hers. My .02 is to give yourself some recovery time from her wedding to your own so that you can focus on your life and not have to constantly be planning a wedding and being a maid of honor for her at the same time.

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getting married during September or October here in Virginia Beach means that an uninvited hurricane may be coming.

You take the good with the bad. If you're that worried about it, then don't do it in a month where you'll have to look at the weather bulletins on a daily basis. Still, if you have your heart set on a fall wedding, go for it. Just have a contingency plan prepared as a "just in case".

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

getting married in late July or August is going to be HOT!!!

If you want to get married in these months, have an indoor wedding at a location with great air conditioning. Or have an outdoor evening wedding if it gets cooler there at night. I've never been to Virginia Beach so I'm not really sure of the weather there.

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So, any advice would be extremely helpful!! Thanks!

Other advice is to know ahead of time what you want, your budget, and what fits your style the best. Stick with your vision of what you want your wedding to be and NOT what others thing your vision should be. Finally, ask your groom for his help. He may not want to help it but it never hurts to ask and you may be surprised. He may be willing to help you out a lot...or he could just tell you to let him know when & where.

Hope this helps!

~B

James · #8 04-09-2007, 09:50 PM

What is a Bridezilla?

AlexMack · #9 04-09-2007, 11:53 PM

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What is a Bridezilla?

My sister for a time. Also what carnation said.

CutiePie2000 · #10 04-09-2007, 11:57 PM

PS Since you are a Zeta, I found your cake topper:

Jill1228 · #11 04-10-2007, 12:12 AM

This is a great site to read about bridezillas from hell.
Etiquette Hell

I read these and told my bridesmaids "if I ever start acting like these hos, feel free to slap me!"

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What is a Bridezilla?

Jimmy Choo · #12 04-10-2007, 12:17 AM

Congrats on your engagement!!!

My best advice is once you set a date and decide if you want a big or small wedding your next call should be to a wedding planner! He/she will help you keep your sanity and help you deal with all the nit-picky details that will come up. In the end you are the one calling the shots but they deal with the fine details. Good luck!!

carnation · #13 04-09-2007, 10:57 PM

A terrible, screaming, control freak bride.

CutiePie2000 · #14 04-09-2007, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

getting married in late July or August is going to be HOT!!!

So, any advice would be extremely helpful!! Thanks!

Congratulations on your nuptials. Can you get married in Spring: April, May or June 2008? Or is that too soon? Or is everything booked already? The weather might be cooler.

Jill1228 · #15 04-10-2007, 12:16 AM

Congrats hon!

First, relax. Make sure you have the wedding YOU want, not the wedding the parents want.

Unless they say that they are paying for something and SHOW YOU DA MONEY, assume you are paying for it yourself

The wedding is just for one day...it is just the start of things

if something goes wrong, take a deep breath and calm down

Learn to delegate! Do not try to be superwoman and do everything alone.

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Originally Posted by ZTABullwinkle

I am newly engaged. I have seen the threads on wedding dresses and engagement rings. I am stuck as to where to start with my wedding planning. My thoughts are so scattered and overwhelming that the thought is pretty daunting.

We have yet to set a date, since there seems to be many things to take into account...such as:

my best friend is my maid of honor, and I am in her wedding on June 28, 2008. So how far apart do you plan your weddings so you don't go nutso with both weddings?
getting married during September or October here in Virginia Beach means that an univited hurricane may be coming
getting married in late July or August is going to be HOT!!!

So, any advice would be extremely helpful!! Thanks!