I did not PLEDGE!

[crimsondanger10]

What are your thoughts/comments on this pledge story (true story)?
Back in 2020 , 17 young ladies crossed the burning sands into XYZ land. For some reason unknown , they are only known around campus as the 16...
Before becoming a XYZ the 17th was well known, outspoken, and very active around campus. Afterwards, she became the total opposite. She never came out, hardly spoke to anyone, and was an "unknown entity" thereafter. Now, to my knowledge, during MIP she was treated like everyone else. This is to say, that I don't think she had bad experiences during this time, so I can't say that she resents the organization or its members for anything that may have happened. Yet, it was a well known fact in the greek community (and nongreek for that matter) that she was...well, different from the other 16 girls. She was never looked at the same, and she never acted the same!

My question is NOT "Do you think Pledging is good or bad?" I just want your thoughts on how this well known, outspoken, active person let something like this change her entire personality?

[ladygreek]

[DSTinguished1]

^^^Ditto.

[pinkies up]

Maybe some people are unstable to begin with.

[RedefinedDiva]

Ok, the facts of this hypothetical are a bit distorted and convoluted. I am not understanding the point....

[SoCalGirl]

Pledging doesn't occur in a bubble. She could have had some traumatic event occur that she did not share with her new sisters.

[sigmadiva]

Originally Posted by crimsondanger10

What are your thoughts/comments on this pledge story (true story)?
Back in 2020 , 17 young ladies crossed the burning sands into XYZ land. For some reason unknown , they are only known around campus as the 16...
Before becoming a XYZ the 17th was well known, outspoken, and very active around campus. Afterwards, she became the total opposite. She never came out, hardly spoke to anyone, and was an "unknown entity" thereafter. Now, to my knowledge, during MIP she was treated like everyone else. This is to say, that I don't think she had bad experiences during this time, so I can't say that she resents the organization or its members for anything that may have happened. Yet, it was a well known fact in the greek community (and nongreek for that matter) that she was...well, different from the other 16 girls. She was never looked at the same, and she never acted the same!

My question is NOT "Do you think Pledging is good or bad?" I just want your thoughts on how this well known, outspoken, active person let something like this change her entire personality?

I don't get what you are saying either, but I will take a stab at it.

From my personal experience of observing people join a GLO, I've seen two extremes, and a whole lot in between. I've seen people go from being kinda immature when they first join their GLO, to becoming organized and productive people because their GLO gave them leadership opportunities where they could grow and develop into a well-rounded adult.

I've also seen individuals use a GLO's hype reputation as an excuse to act stupid.

It basically boils down to what was in that individual's heart when they joined. Not unless that person will tell you, you will never really know.

[smlwonderdst]

Originally Posted by ladygreek

Originally Posted by DSTCHAOS

I don't know what the hell you're talking about but...

if this scenario isn't about you and yours, why do you care?

If this scenario IS about you and yours, handle it off the board and don't ask for our opinions on this silliness.

These are my feelings.

[HAWAIIAN]

PLEDGING CAN BE A LIFE ALTERING EXPERIENCE IF YOU ARE NOT STRONG FROM THE GET GO OR IF YOU ARE SEEKING SOMETHING THAT IS ALREADY WITHIN YOU. IT CAN CHANGE A PERSON SOMETIMES FOR THE WORSE, IF THEIR ENCOUNTERS DIFFER FROM ONES VIEWS.

[mulattogyrl]

You know what, I erased this yesterday, but I'm saying it today:

She changed because she was weak from the start for no reason. If she lets others change who she is she needs to look deeper into herself. Ufck the haters, keep your head up and keep it moving.

[crimsondanger10]

This girl was the only member of XYZ who did not pledge (hazed, if you will), and I think the lack of respect as a XYZ changed her personality. My question was never about the girl, pledging, or how to handle the situation for this was only an example of the question that I asked.
Once again the question is how can someone let anything (people) change who they are?
BTW: I care because... I DO! She is a fellow greek, and....never mind!

[DSTinguished1]

[treblk]

Originally Posted by crimsondanger10

This girl was the only member of XYZ who did not pledge (hazed, if you will), and I think the lack of respect as a XYZ changed her personality. My question was never about the girl, pledging, or how to handle the situation for this was only an example of the question that I asked.
Once again the question is how can someone let anything (people) change who they are?
BTW: I care because... I DO! She is a fellow greek, and....never mind!

Like for real, in the great scheme of things, what does this matter??? In 10 years, why would this be important? Handle this situation..?? let it go, why give others power over your self worth?? over how you should be viewed??

maybe I'm getting old, or maybe I've been working at this high school for too long, because this is the same song my students sing..

[crimsondanger10]

Okay, did everyone miss the question? Handle what situation?
I don't have a situation to handle. I asked a question and expected OPINIONS on the question asked. I gave an example of a greek situation (since this is a greek message board). I could have used another example like why men or women let their significant other change who they are, but I didn't. Why is everyone so fixated on the example and not the question. Am I missing something?

[Arcadian]

if that girl got all ridiculous after pledging than that means she is a big puss and should think about joining the theatre department. greek life is not for everyone and if u cant get through pledging than go home and dont come back