When a legacy gets cut, does Mom get a call from her sorority?

[SparkleBerry]

Do ya'll know if sororities still call Mom if her daughter/legacy is cut? And do sororities still try to make that cut after the first round?

[nolefan]

I believe it depends on the chapter. That is definitely one courtesy that I strongly feel should be observed.

[33girl]

Originally Posted by nolefan

I believe it depends on the chapter. That is definitely one courtesy that I strongly feel should be observed.

The other side of the coin is that some groups believe the woman is a young adult, and so calling someone else to tell them about her recruitment is an invasion of her privacy.

One stance or the other is not right or wrong, just saying why different groups may do different things.

[Griffins&Quills]

Originally Posted by 33girl

The other side of the coin is that some groups believe the woman is a young adult, and so calling someone else to tell them about her recruitment is an invasion of her privacy.

I think this is our policy/reasoning, but, I am in favor of calling the legacy connection, if possible.

[DeltaBetaBaby]

Originally Posted by 33girl

The other side of the coin is that some groups believe the woman is a young adult, and so calling someone else to tell them about her recruitment is an invasion of her privacy.

One stance or the other is not right or wrong, just saying why different groups may do different things.

And we know there are PNM's who tell mom they were released rather than tell mom they didn't want to join her chapter.

[nolefan]

Originally Posted by DeltaBetaBaby

And we know there are PNM's who tell mom they were released rather than tell mom they didn't want to join her chapter.

Thank you for sharing this side of things, it is something I hadn't considered. I can imagine that there are some families where this might just be the easiest course of action for the PNM. Sadly.

[AlphaXi_Husky]

Originally Posted by 33girl

The other side of the coin is that some groups believe the woman is a young adult, and so calling someone else to tell them about her recruitment is an invasion of her privacy.

This is where I land with things.


As part of the recruitment team, I'm thankful I do not have to make those calls anymore.


It was particularly painful when parties end late and you're having to call very late at night. Inconvenient (to say the least) for both sides.

[KD4Me]

Not to suggest that the way one organization chooses to do it is wrong, but I favor letting the PNM be the one to share the information that she was released, if she chooses to do so. Some girls are embarrassed that they were released, and I think it should be their prerogative to share however much or little they want with their family members.

[tcsparky]

Since at 18 these women are technically adults, I feel that it is their business, and that they should be the ones who let family members know how their Recruitment experience turned out. They can frame it in the way they are most comfortable, and share the news in their own time.

[3DGator]

I do no think that is the norm.

[honeychile]

It depends on the sorority, the chapter, and the strength of the legacy. If every legacy was given a pass to second round, there could be entire new member classes of only legacies. It's good to get some new blood in the chapters.

The strength of the legacy can be determined in several ways, such as how active the elder member has been over the years, did she hold offices, does she belong to alumnae associations, was she a member of that particular chapter, was she a legacy herself - just some examples.

[ChioLu]

Contacting the legacy's relative is standard practice for the majority of Chi Omega chapters.
Having said that-- this year, there was a PNM who's mother was an alumna (& current members remember meeting them during the Open House in the Spring on Bruin Day).
But NO legacy status was indicated on her UCLA Recruitment profile, NO RIF was received and we had NO contact info on the mother. (SparkleBerry -- if this was you, we apologize.)

[Titchou]

I believe that calling is the sisterly thing to do. Unfortunately, it's not always possible at some chapters when they have large numbers of legacies going thru. But I do think they should and our sponsor form (rec) has a place to note that you want to be called if you are the legacy connection. We should honor that request...but then again, I'm southern and that's just the proper thing to do.

[FSUZeta]

I agree with you Titchou.

[Benzgirl]

My chapter advisors run into more problems than you would think by not having alumnae phone numbers. They do make the attempt.