PNM's and future college facebook groups caution!

sydney bristow · #1 07-19-2010, 01:34 PM

PNM's this is really important. I was looking at my own university's "official class of 2014" facebook group yesterday and I noticed A TON of PNM's posting things asking for reputations, talking about how much they "lyke OMG can't wait to get wAsTeD!!!", and worst of all saying things like "how many girls are planning on rushing ADPi or theta is one that I'm looking at!"

LADIES, ACTIVE SORORITY WOMEN (such as myself) ARE READING THESE. YOU ARE DOING YOURSELVES A SERIOUS DISSERVICE.

So, if you or any of your friends have posted ANYTHING questionable on such a group REMOVE IT IMMEDIATELY. Seriously, this can really screw you over.

I got a little capslock crazy, but this kind of stuff drives me crazy!

KSUViolet06 · #2 07-19-2010, 01:48 PM

Oh those are fun. I just recently looked through the KSU class of 2014 group just the other day (my cousin is class of 2014 and I was browsing her FB).

Not only did I realize that I was old as dirt now, but that some girls are making these very same mistakes you're talking about.

Girl 1: "OMG I can't wait to be an XYZ, what do I have to do to get in because that's the only one I want!!!!!!!"

Girl 2: So lyke, do you have to party at XY fraternity to get into ABC, because I have totally been there every night."

Fun. Especially because there are some sophomore sorority women in the group trying to promote recruitment and I know they're paying attention to it.

On another FB-related note, you know those fan pages you can join? Even when people cannot see your other profile info, they can sometimes see what you're a fan of.

It's not a good look to be a fan of:

"We hooked up, what's your name again?"
"My BAC is consistently higher than my GPA?"
"I heart smoking pot"

indygphib · #3 07-19-2010, 02:02 PM

PNMS:

This is SOLID advice. Please take it to heart.

(Besides, no one really wants to see that you're a fan of "I do more blow than Whitney Houston.")

dgdramadawg · #4 07-19-2010, 02:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by indygphib

(Besides, no one really wants to see that you're a fan of "I do more blow than Whitney Houston.")

Did you know that "Hookers and Blow" has 1,114 fans? What are these people thinking?

lovespink88 · #5 07-19-2010, 02:10 PM

I've definitely seen some "Well I heard, XYZ, DEF and ABC are the best, and RST sucks!" in the past, but I just creeped and this year's group is pretty clean of that stuff, so yay (for now!)

I am, however, now extremely depressed that I'm really not going back this year...

AlphaFrog · #6 07-19-2010, 02:22 PM

This may end up being a hard life-lesson for these girls, but hey, some of them may learn something from screwing themselves out of their top choice sorority and down the line be more cautious. Better your top choice sorority than your dream job.

tld221 · #7 07-19-2010, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

Oh those are fun. I just recently looked through the KSU class of 2014 group just the other day (my cousin is class of 2014 and I was browsing her FB).

Not only did I realize that I was old as dirt now, but that some girls are making these very same mistakes you're talking about.

Girl 1: "OMG I can't wait to be an XYZ, what do I have to do to get in because that's the only one I want!!!!!!!"

Girl 2: So lyke, do you have to party at XY fraternity to get into ABC, because I have totally been there every night."

Fun. Especially because there are some sophomore sorority women in the group trying to promote recruitment and I know they're paying attention to it.

On another FB-related note, you know those fan pages you can join? Even when people cannot see your other profile info, they can sometimes see what you're a fan of.

It's not a good look to be a fan of:

"We hooked up, what's your name again?"
"My BAC is consistently higher than my GPA?"
"I heart smoking pot"

Actually you have to party with AB Fraternity to get into ABC Sorority, lyke duh!!!!1!11! the XYs are lame anyway.

sydney bristow · #8 07-19-2010, 02:40 PM

I just did some further investigating into the group and some girl has actually started a thread about a certain sorority (not naming names) but the name of the thread is "XYZ" and her posts are "is anyone else planning on rushing XYZ?". And plenty of girls are like "yeah, for sure it's on my list!"

Poor, poor, PNM's...I mean they've all been to orientation by now so they should know that you visit EVERY chapter and it is MUTUAL selection process. PNM's who think they're simply going "sorority shopping" really irk me but I guess the joke's on them in the end...

twinkle555 · #9 07-19-2010, 02:42 PM

The year I was a IIX I actually went into those message boards and posted advice for the PNMs, answered there questions and subtly mentioned that they needed to keep their minds open..it kind of worked lol.

agzg · #10 07-19-2010, 02:45 PM

I just looked at mine and all they're talking about is Orientation (how fun it was, which I love because I used to work in that office) and possible dorm assignments.

Yay for well-behaved incoming freshmen, although I'm sure it's only because we have (dirty, gross, irrelevant) deferred recruitment.

pomplemousse12 · #11 07-19-2010, 04:24 PM

I actually went to our facebook group to see if anyone had posted anything, but what was under the Greek Life discussion tab was mostly sophomores telling PNMs to ask them questions if they had any, and the girls mostly being like, "I'm so excited about joining a sorority! I can't wait for events in the fall!" except one or two were like, "I can't wait to see which one I want in the fall!" And I just kind of went "oh honey no..." But for the most part, it wasn't bad.

AXOmom · #12 07-19-2010, 05:10 PM

Thank you for this thread! Being a mom I didn't think it was my place, but I was hoping someone would bring it up.

I'm an alum of my daughter's school, so I get a lot of their facebook groups popping up on my FB as addition suggestions - one of which was the 2014 group. There was a Greek life thread where at least a few (mostly boys) said some variation on, "Yeah, I'm going Greek - I want to party!" which was clueless, but so far there have been no discussions of group reputations.

However, I went to a roommate's survey (curious to see what housing everyone wanted this year), and it asked, among other things, whether or not they were going to pledge and, if so, WHERE they intended to pledge. Yeah, it asked them where. There were several who answered, "Yes, and I'm going to pledge XYZ."

I showed it to my daughter who was beyond appalled. I think her response was something like, "The only thing they know at this point is whether or not they want to go through recruitment. They don't know IF they're going to be asked to pledge at all, and they certainly don't know WHERE, but way to get yourself cut. Don't these girls know we can look at this stuff?"

She also wondered whether the Greek life offices send out a list of basic do's and don'ts with recruitment information. Does anyone know if any schools do in fact do that and if includes basic facebook etiquette?

ComradesTrue · #13 07-19-2010, 06:08 PM

After reading this thread and thinking

I quickly darted over to my school's class of 2014 group. While there were scores of PNMs declaring their excitement to rush, there was not a single one of them that posted anything specific about any chapter.

In addition, save for one girl, all profile pics were 100% appropriate. Even the one wasn't too bad.

Either the panhellenic has done an excellent job of educating these girls or they just are aware enough to do not anything stupid that would jeopardize their chances.

Whew.

FleurGirl · #14 07-19-2010, 06:07 PM

This is seriously the best advice I've heard all day!
I think in general now is the time to clean up your Facebook page. Untag questionable photos (if there's alcohol and you're underage, it's gotta go!), delete crude wall posts, and set your entire profile to "Friends Only" for EVERYTHING.
Way better to do it NOW than get to recruitment time and get dropped because someone found a picture of you and your friends smoking pot.

...and one last thing: never ever ever for any reason say anything publically about only being interested in one sorority. Never talk badly about any sorority. Never talk about how "excited your are to party with XYZ fraternity". Basically, just avoid saying anything other than expressing your interest in recruitment. People CAN and DO read this.
/super overbearing advice.

Drolefille · #15 07-19-2010, 06:15 PM

Ours is boring. Not even any PNMs.
However my google brought up this monstrosity of a page:
http://pages.slu.edu/org/panhel/

This is NOT the current panhel page, in fact, I doubt they know it's still out there. But.. wow.