URGENT help with what to wear for formal dinner!

Elizabee · #1 10-13-2009, 12:15 PM

I've been invited to a formal dinner tonight as a pre-recruitment event and I have NO idea what to wear. Am I safe with nice, dark jeans, a cute cardigan and ballet flats? Or is that too casual?

Help ASAP would be fantastic! Thanks everyone!

knight_shadow · #2 10-13-2009, 12:16 PM

jeans =/= formal

kddani · #3 10-13-2009, 12:17 PM

Why would you contemplate wearing jeans to what you describe as a FORMAL dinner???

Do you own a dress? Dress pants and top?

BlueCarnation · #4 10-13-2009, 12:20 PM

If you join a sorority and have formal events, you won't be able to wear jeans. You can't go wrong with a cute dress, or nice pants/skirt and a nice top/cardigan. You want to impress these girls, you don't want to look like you just came from class. It's always better to OVERdress than to underdress.

Leslie Anne · #5 10-13-2009, 12:21 PM

Yes, you do need help.

Do NOT wear jeans! Definitely a dress or nice pants with a blouse or sweater.

MysticCat · #6 10-13-2009, 12:30 PM

Sigh. I feel old. In my day, formal, in terms of a social event, meant black tie (at the least) and an evening gown.

kddani · #7 10-13-2009, 12:31 PM

I think college age is certainly an appropriate time to learn the value of the LBD (little black dress)

Katmandu · #8 10-13-2009, 12:59 PM

What they said!

Sororities have what is known as, "pin attire" or "dressing to pin", in other words, clothes that are suitable for wearing with your pin. (actually, as I type this, I am wearing my pin at work--dressed in a black business suit, pink scoop neck shell, black dress boots). At the event you describe, I suspect a lot of women will be wearing their pins, which means they will be in dresses, slacks or skirts w/ nice sweaters. If it is a formal dinner, I would wear a skirt/slacks and nice top or the LBD, little black dress someone suggested above. Not cocktail wear, but church/business meeting wear. Jeans are not always your friend.

Have a great time!

ThetaDancer · #9 10-13-2009, 01:36 PM

Agree with what everyone else has said. I would also lean toward something conservative/professional rather than a "going out" outfit, if that helps guide you. Have fun!

KSUViolet06 · #10 10-13-2009, 01:08 PM

No jeans. At all.

A little black dress or maybe at MINIMUM, dress pants and an appropriately dressy top.

But no jeans.

33girl · #11 10-13-2009, 01:35 PM

Am I the only one who thinks formal dinner as PRE-recruitment is a little odd, and that her terminology might be flawed? I mean, formal dinners are usually something that happens at pref, not before they've even gotten started meeting sisters.

Is this group NPC, NPHC, or other?

lovespink88 · #12 10-13-2009, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by 33girl

Am I the only one who thinks formal dinner as PRE-recruitment is a little odd, and that her terminology might be flawed? I mean, formal dinners are usually something that happens at pref, not before they've even gotten started meeting sisters.

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Originally Posted by Katmandu

What they said!

Sororities have what is known as, "pin attire" or "dressing to pin", in other words, clothes that are suitable for wearing with your pin.

That was my thinking too...I have a feeling that A) like 33 said, her terminology is flawed, or B) the sorority uses "formal dinner" a bit losely. Or maybe a combination of the both.

I know that when we have to wear "badge attire" to chapter, we call it "formal chapter". Obviously, we don't have to wear evening gown or anything like that, but I guess we just use that term so that we can get the point across that you better not show up in jeans or sweats!!

Titchou · #13 10-13-2009, 01:39 PM

Old South Terminology = Sunday Dress....

Zillini · #14 10-13-2009, 03:00 PM

For my Chapter the term "formal dinner" means a structured sit down dinner with family style passing of platters/bowls as opposed to come-and-go buffet style.

FSUZeta · #15 10-13-2009, 03:02 PM

we had formal dinners twice a week at my house, and those were usually the meals most people invited guests to, because everyone was dressed nicely(business/church attire) and we had the best/fanciest food. our other dinners, we still dressed nicely, just a little more casually. meals were served at the table;i.e. sit down, and food passed (to the right, please).on fridays our dinner was served buffet style and we could wear jeans.

please wear a dress(not too short), skirt/blouse(not too short) or dress pants/dressy blouse and heels. please do not wear jeans, shorts, sweats or an outfit/dress/skirt you would wear to go out to a club. remember, you are dressing to impress women, not men. think conservative.