Young & Married

babygirlash · #1 05-02-2009, 08:17 PM

I am almost done with my degree at a Technical School and whant to join a soroity. I am only 22 but married with a son, can I still join???

KSUViolet06 · #2 05-02-2009, 08:32 PM

As far as NPC sororities, you must be in a 4 year degree prgram to be eligible to join.

As for the NPHCs, I am unsure of their rules. I want to say that they are the same as ours, but I am not sure.

CutiePie2000 · #3 05-02-2009, 08:34 PM

This is a non-collegiate sorority that you might consider looking into:
http://www.betasigmaphi.org

There are others out there also, but this is the one that I know of.

aephi alum · #4 05-02-2009, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

As far as NPC sororities, you must be in a 4 year degree prgram to be eligible to join.

As for the NPHCs, I am unsure of their rules. I want to say that they are the same as ours, but I am not sure.

If you're looking to join an NPC sorority, KSUViolet is right, you must be an undergrad at a 4-year university. <drifts briefly out of her lane> My understanding is that NPHC orgs frequently accept new members who are older / married / with children. Other sororities may have different requirements. <merges back into her lane>

No matter what type of sorority you're interested in pursuing, do you really have the time to commit to a sorority? Successful completion of a new member program requires a lot of time (new member meetings, perhaps chapter meetings, rituals, bonding activities with your pledge sisters and older sisters, service projects, etc). Being the parent of a small child also requires a lot of time. Your studies, and later your job, will also require a lot of time. I don't mean to discourage you, but do think about the time factor.

IlovemyAKA · #5 05-03-2009, 11:46 AM

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Originally Posted by KSUViolet06

As far as NPC sororities, you must be in a 4 year degree prgram to be eligible to join.

As for the NPHCs, I am unsure of their rules. I want to say that they are the same as ours, but I am not sure.

You're correct. This is true for NPHC as well.

IlovemyAKA · #6 05-03-2009, 11:50 AM

There is an active poster...um onetimesbx. I'm not sure about the eligibility requirements for her sorority...

http://www.sigmabetaxi.org/

From their FAQs:
What is Sigma Beta Xi Sorority?
Sigma Beta Xi is an organization, which started with the vision for true
sisterhood between all women but specifically for women with children.

Fiyah98 · #7 05-03-2009, 08:44 PM

I will say that I was 24, engaged and had a two year-old daughter, taking 17 credits and working PT. It was STRESSFUL, and most of all, TIRING, HOWEVER...you must understand there will be sacrifices, for everyone involved unfortunately. I was fortunate to have my parents and fiance around to care for my daughter in my absences.

As far as your schooling situation - if it is a 2-yr program, most organizations require you be matriculating at a 4 yr college/university with certain GPA. No one can discriminate because you have a child, and I do know of one that is geared towards women with children, I believe the link is posted above me somewhere. Also - when you say you're almost done, how far away from done are you? If you transfer to a 4 yr, you can still do undergrad for some sororities, or, as another option, you can pursue a graduate/alumnae chapter after you graduate - although I'm not sure how every GLO works... different requirements for different organizations.

Please don't get discouraged about pursuing the organization of your choice. If it is in your heart, don't settle for second best or an organization that you don't want to be a part of - you won't be able to give it your all, and therefore not able to benefit from the entire experience. Your boundaries? You can overcome them if you are pursuing something that you really really have sitting inside your heart. Trust me. Hope this helps

kddani · #8 05-03-2009, 08:51 PM

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No one can discriminate because you have a child
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Sure they can. Whether or not one is a parent is not a protected status such as one's gender or race.

Fiyah98 · #9 05-03-2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by kddani

Sure they can. Whether or not one is a parent is not a protected status such as one's gender or race.

If that is correct, I will stand corrected. I would look into that, though.

kddani · #10 05-03-2009, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Fiyah98

If that is correct, I will stand corrected. I would look into that, though.

Though I'm a litigator and not a constitutional lawyer, I'm pretty sure we didn't cover parent/child discrimination in law school. Perhaps you might be thinking of is FMLA, where you can take (unpaid) time off work to care for a sick child/spouse/self.

Perhaps some organizations out there might have policies where they say they won't discriminate against someone because they are a parent, but I've never heard of one. Feel free to post that info if you have it.

Kevin · #11 05-03-2009, 08:58 PM

It's correct.

Fiyah98 · #12 05-03-2009, 09:23 PM

Okay, although I am a historian, and an anthropologist and like reading... Laws... eh... not until they apply to me. I appreciate and applaud all you have accomplished in the legal field, but it's really not that serious to research and post.

I stand corrected. But there are organizations that do not discriminate based on status as a parent... one was mentioned earlier that gladly accept mothers and uplift them, and I believe Iota Phi Theta Fraternity, Incorporated was founded by/for non-traditional male students, such as those who were re/entering college a bit older, had children, and were working or in the military.

kddani · #13 05-03-2009, 09:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Fiyah98

but it's really not that serious to research and post.

Thanks, but no research necessary. It's just common knowledge.

LAblondeGPhi · #14 06-16-2009, 06:50 PM

I'm so confused by the OP's thread and post.

OP - Maybe you should consider joining an organization through Alumnae Initiation. Some NPC organizations (mine included) have a process by which to join as an alumna member. This a good option for women who attended a college without a Greek system, or who simply missed out on the chance.

It sounds like your options (for many, many reasons) are limited if you're thinking about joining almost any social sorority as an undergraduate member.

Service GLOs are a whole other ballgame. Check with your school's Student Life/Organizations office.

KSUViolet06 · #15 06-16-2009, 07:12 PM

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Originally Posted by LAblondeGPhi

I'm so confused by the OP's thread and post.

OP - Maybe you should consider joining an organization through Alumnae Initiation. Some NPC organizations (mine included) have a process by which to join as an alumna member. This a good option for women who attended a college without a Greek system, or who simply missed out on the chance.

I know you meant well, but I feel the need to point this out:

AI is not for EVERY woman who for whatever reason didn't join in college.

It's also not something you can just "apply for."

It's more like an honor for certain women who have contributed to the sorority or for a woman whom the sorority feels is so worthy that they should make an exception to the normal mode of joining (collegiate recruitment) and initiate her as an alumna.

It's occurrence across the sororities is extremely rare (a handful of women per year).

It's more of an exception to the rule, not something that is available to every woman who didn't join in college.

So it's not really something that should be suggested for PNMs on GC, simply because it's not something that is for everyone.

See the AI forum if you need more info.