Something like a prodigal daughter

[BeOfService1rst]

First, a bit of background:

If I decide to rush, I will be doing so as a Junior. In my previous two years here at NorthEast Private College I have made it my business to recuperate from life at home by not observing any of the ettiquette that my family would have me. I will say that I have embraced a very extreme sense of individuality. Before coming back to school I took some years off, which I spent working and volunteering in New York. My travels (volunteering domestically and abroad) and experiences have made me extremely thoughtful (intellectual) in a non-nerdy sort of way. Nevertheless, I am often concerned when hearing viewpoints that I view as uninformed. I do my best not to seem too aloof or snobby (although admittedly, I have some part of these less-than-admirable traits) and think that people generally think of me as being "irreverent" and independent. I am an orphan who lives with her godparents and who, despite my pretensions, is deeply spiritual. I want to go into finance and hope to do a lot of philanthropy in my adult life. There are three sororities on my small campus: Kappa Kappa Gamma, Chi Omega and Sigma Kappa.

Now the issues:

1.) I am wondering whether rushing late will affect my prospects for a bid. I am not a transfer.

2.) I have a strong interest in philanthropy, but little interest in excessive BS and cattiness. Even if sisterhood is lacking, I want to avoid total disfunction.

3.) I understand and accept that some sororities are prestigious/exclusive, but want to be sure that I do not become involved in a culture of exclusion.

4.) I am not sure if I am ready to bare as much skin as some sorors around campus.

4a.) Will I be able to do anything by myself if I become a pledge?

5.) My godparents are WASPs and I don't want to somehow embarrass or offend them by my final choice of sorority.

6.) My biological family is historically Delta Sigma Theta (a black sorority) since the 1920's, but I have become interested in a particularly older "women's fraternity". Should I be concerned about forsaking this tradition?

7.) I like the idea of a prestigious sorority, but am concerned about the worldviews of some of my potential "sisters". I like to have intellectual conversations.

8.) There are strong expectations that I join the Junior League upon graduation (which I will) and I am wondering if there is some sorority that complements this tradition.

I am very interested in any suggestions about which sororities I might look at further.

*I am new to all of this and apologize if any of my concerns seem trivial, but would like to remind everyone that they are important to me.

[AlphaFrog]

[indygphib]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

Where's the Facebook "You like this." button when you need it?

[nittanyalum]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

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[kiteflyersmom]

Originally Posted by AlphaFrog

LOL! I usually cringe at some of the posts that people write to others on this forum. However, this one is called for, appropriate to the situation, and highly funny! A classic.....

[moe.ron]

[LucyKKG]

Originally Posted by BeOfService1rst

First, a bit of background:

If I decide to rush, I will be doing so as a Junior. In my previous two years here at NorthEast Private College I have made it my business to recuperate from life at home by not observing any of the ettiquette that my family would have me. I will say that I have embraced a very extreme sense of individuality. Before coming back to school I took some years off, which I spent working and volunteering in New York. My travels (volunteering domestically and abroad) and experiences have made me extremely thoughtful (intellectual) in a non-nerdy sort of way. Nevertheless, I am often concerned when hearing viewpoints that I view as uninformed. I do my best not to seem too aloof or snobby (although admittedly, I have some part of these less-than-admirable traits) and think that people generally think of me as being "irreverent" and independent. I am an orphan who lives with her godparents and who, despite my pretensions, is deeply spiritual. I want to go into finance and hope to do a lot of philanthropy in my adult life. There are three sororities on my small campus: Kappa Kappa Gamma, Chi Omega and Sigma Kappa.

Now the issues:

1.) I am wondering whether rushing late will affect my prospects for a bid. I am not a transfer.

2.) I have a strong interest in philanthropy, but little interest in excessive BS and cattiness. Even if sisterhood is lacking, I want to avoid total disfunction.

3.) I understand and accept that some sororities are prestigious/exclusive, but want to be sure that I do not become involved in a culture of exclusion.

4.) I am not sure if I am ready to bare as much skin as some sorors around campus.

4a.) Will I be able to do anything by myself if I become a pledge?

5.) My godparents are WASPs and I don't want to somehow embarrass or offend them by my final choice of sorority.

6.) My biological family is historically Delta Sigma Theta (a black sorority) since the 1920's, but I have become interested in a particularly older "women's fraternity". Should I be concerned about forsaking this tradition?

7.) I like the idea of a prestigious sorority, but am concerned about the worldviews of some of my potential "sisters". I like to have intellectual conversations.

8.) There are strong expectations that I join the Junior League upon graduation (which I will) and I am wondering if there is some sorority that complements this tradition.

I am very interested in any suggestions about which sororities I might look at further.

*I am new to all of this and apologize if any of my concerns seem trivial, but would like to remind everyone that they are important to me.

Discretion is your friend. It was very easy for me to figure out which school you're talking about.

[kddani]

Originally Posted by BeOfService1rst

First, a bit of background:

If I decide to rush, I will be doing so as a Junior. In my previous two years here at NorthEast Private College I have made it my business to recuperate from life at home by not observing any of the ettiquette that my family would have me. I will say that I have embraced a very extreme sense of individuality. Before coming back to school I took some years off, which I spent working and volunteering in New York. My travels (volunteering domestically and abroad) and experiences have made me extremely thoughtful (intellectual) in a non-nerdy sort of way. Nevertheless, I am often concerned when hearing viewpoints that I view as uninformed. I do my best not to seem too aloof or snobby (although admittedly, I have some part of these less-than-admirable traits) and think that people generally think of me as being "irreverent" and independent. I am an orphan who lives with her godparents and who, despite my pretensions, is deeply spiritual. I want to go into finance and hope to do a lot of philanthropy in my adult life. There are three sororities on my small campus: Kappa Kappa Gamma, Chi Omega and Sigma Kappa.

Now the issues:

1.) I am wondering whether rushing late will affect my prospects for a bid. I am not a transfer.

2.) I have a strong interest in philanthropy, but little interest in excessive BS and cattiness. Even if sisterhood is lacking, I want to avoid total disfunction.

3.) I understand and accept that some sororities are prestigious/exclusive, but want to be sure that I do not become involved in a culture of exclusion.

4.) I am not sure if I am ready to bare as much skin as some sorors around campus.

4a.) Will I be able to do anything by myself if I become a pledge?

5.) My godparents are WASPs and I don't want to somehow embarrass or offend them by my final choice of sorority.

6.) My biological family is historically Delta Sigma Theta (a black sorority) since the 1920's, but I have become interested in a particularly older "women's fraternity". Should I be concerned about forsaking this tradition?

7.) I like the idea of a prestigious sorority, but am concerned about the worldviews of some of my potential "sisters". I like to have intellectual conversations.

8.) There are strong expectations that I join the Junior League upon graduation (which I will) and I am wondering if there is some sorority that complements this tradition.

I am very interested in any suggestions about which sororities I might look at further.

*I am new to all of this and apologize if any of my concerns seem trivial, but would like to remind everyone that they are important to me.

If you are legit - What with your "very extreme sense of individuality" and your laundry list of questions/reiteration of stereotypes, I don't think sorority life is for you.

If you think so poorly of sorority women, why would you want to become one?

[SWTXBelle]

Originally Posted by kddani

If you are legit - What with your "very extreme sense of individuality" and your laundry list of questions/reiteration of stereotypes, I don't think sorority life is for you.

If you think so poorly of sorority women, why would you want to become one?

Co-sign - I think you'll be happiest working with philanthropic groups whose sole focus is good works. With the attitude you have shown in this post, I can't imagine any of the groups mentioned thinking you would be a positive addition to their sisterhood.

(Waiting for the "OMG if this is the attitude you show I don't know that I even WANT to join! response)

[APhi4Ever]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

(Waiting for the "OMG if this is the attitude you show I don't know that I even WANT to join! response)

LOL

[myopicsunflower]

Originally Posted by SWTXBelle

With the attitude you have shown in this post, I can't imagine any of the groups mentioned thinking you would be a positive addition to their sisterhood.

Co-sign. Your junior status may not work against you in recruitment, but your attitude and lack of discretion certainly could.

There are lots of opportunities for philanthropy and service in college, and a sorority is not the only place to find them.

[Leslie Anne]

Originally Posted by kddani

If you are legit - What with your "very extreme sense of individuality" and your laundry list of questions/reiteration of stereotypes, I don't think sorority life is for you.

If you think so poorly of sorority women, why would you want to become one?

Co-sign.

[ComradesTrue]

In addition to the stereotyping, there has been a complete lack of discretion, including practically naming the school and providing enough specific details on herself that she would be easily known on that campus.

Cupcake, I fear that you have done yourself in. SWTx provides a great suggestion... consider service oriented groups. It is likely going to be your only option once sorority members from your campus see your post.

[PhoenixAzul]

Just to throw this out there...your desire to avoid catiness and what have you is unrealistic. It is the nature of the beast in ANY college organization, but especially one run by and for your peers. It is simply how it works. What you COULD contribute is mediation skills to help defuse tensions like that, but expecting it to be drama and catiness free is very unrealistic. Even the best sisterhoods have hiccups of dysfunction, but what makes the best different from the rest, is that they move through that and come out stronger in their bonds..

[DSTRen13]

Wow.