How to join a frat after I graduated?

[chrisree]

I recently graduated from college and one thing that I regret the most is I didn't rush/join a fraternity

Does anyone is it possible still join a frat as an alumni and which fraternity will do so?


Thanks

[alphatausc]

Originally Posted by chrisree

I recently graduated from college and one thing that I regret the most is I didn't rush/join a fraternity

Does anyone is it possible still join a frat as an alumni and which fraternity will do so?


Thanks

Look for fraternities that might give out an honor membership, you are essentially a member just don't pay dues and don't have all the rights of an initiated brother. But really I don't think fraternities look for PNMs out of college, you may be interested, but what can you offer the fraternity? How would you relate to a 18-21 year old who is mainly focused on girls and alcohol?

Also you could look to see if you have a relative who is an initiated brother of one. Fraternities are known to initiate relatives of members as full members.

[KDCat]

There are a lot of fraternal organizations that are open to membership after college, and that have social and philanthropic and ritual aspects. Check out the Masons or Odd Fellows or Eagles or Lions or Elk or Hibernians or Knights of Columbus, etc.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by chrisree

I recently graduated from college and one thing that I regret the most is I didn't rush/join a fraternity

If you're looking for an NIC-type, I wouldn't encourage that. I've been a part of the application process twice in my time with Sigma Nu. Once was for our longtime faculty adviser. The second time was for a gentleman who was a non-initiate, non-collegiate, who had supported us as an organization for many years. First as a friend to a couple of our members, but after they graduated, he still came around. He wasn't seeking membership, it was simply bestowed upon him. If someone came to me seeking to be initiated as an alumnus, it'd take a lot more than "I regret not joining while I was in college." We're fraternities. We're not wish granters.

If you're looking at NPHC fraternities, I got nothing. I'd recommend you check with them individually and directly. Not on a public forum.

[thetalady]

You are finished with college. You don't get a do-over. Move on.

[Kevin]

He could go back to college and work on a 2nd degree...

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Kevin

He could go back to college and work on a 2nd degree...

If his only goal is to join a fraternity, that's a terrible idea.

I suspect he's not talking about non-IFC type organizations, otherwise he would know how to go about asking about graduate membership.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

If his only goal is to join a fraternity, that's a terrible idea.

I suspect he's not talking about non-IFC type organizations, otherwise he would know how to go about asking about graduate membership.

I know you said this last year, but he asked the question, I provided an answer. Lots of folks go back to school after they realize their communications/underwater basketweaving degrees aren't going to earn them a living.

[knight_shadow]

Originally Posted by Kevin

I know you said this last year, but he asked the question, I provided an answer. Lots of folks go back to school after they realize their communications/underwater basketweaving degrees aren't going to earn them a living.

Lol. Blast from the past.

Your answer seemed to be framed as "Go back for another degree JUST so you can go Greek" -- that's a waste of money and a hell of a gamble. Going back for academic reasons is fine.

[Kevin]

Originally Posted by knight_shadow

Lol. Blast from the past.

Your answer seemed to be framed as "Go back for another degree JUST so you can go Greek" -- that's a waste of money and a hell of a gamble. Going back for academic reasons is fine.

I figured he'd be able to figure out whether that was worth it for him or not.

FWIW, I have heard of grad students rushing fraternities before.

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by chrisree

I recently graduated from college and one thing that I regret the most is I didn't rush/join a fraternity

Does anyone is it possible still join a frat as an alumni and which fraternity will do so?

What do you hope to gain from this? Do you regret not being a member of a fraternity generally, or do you regret not having the collegiate fraternity experience? Because even if you found a fraternity that initiates honorary members and found you worthy of that honor, you're still not going to have the collegiate fraternity experience.

[chrisree]

thanks everyone
I am looking for a lifetime friendship and more important is the connection since I am a business major

[AlphaFrog]

Originally Posted by chrisree

thanks everyone
I am looking for a lifetime friendship and more important is the connection since I am a business major

People are going to see this for what it is: pretentious.

[MaryPoppins]

Why don't you look into the Masons or the Shriners?

[MysticCat]

Originally Posted by chrisree

thanks everyone
I am looking for a lifetime friendship and more important is the connection since I am a business major

Lifetime friendships can be made in lots of different contexts. If it's business connections you're looking for, then I would suggest Rotary, Kiwanis, Jaycees or whatever other civic groups are active where you live. If it's a fraternal bond you're looking for, then as others have said, try the Masons (or the Knights of Columbus if you're Catholic), the Elks, the Moose, etc.

Originally Posted by MaryPoppins

Why don't you look into the Masons or the Shriners?

The Shrine is as appendant body of Freemasonry; you have to be a Master Mason to be eligible to be a Shriner.