Ms. Shamika LaQuandra Taylor, I may be a bit insensitive, but before I proceed, let me take a moment to share something with you, or remind you incase you already knew and just forgot. Life is full of CHOICES. The way you live your life depends on the CHOICES you make. You CHOSE to come on a message board to share your experience and your opinion with a wide variety of people ranging from men to women of all ages and ethnicities. According to our constitution, you have that right. Understand that like you exercised your right, I will exercise mine. I am making a CHOICE to offer you some advice because a part of me thinks that you are actually worth it. It is your CHOICE whether or not you CHOOSE to take it. You obviously didn't CHOOSE to take anyone else's.
But first, in order for you to understand OBJECTIVELY where those who actually took the time to respond to these threads were coming from, take a moment and re-read YOUR words. Don't just scan over them, READ them:
1.) Please reassure my decision, so I can print this out and show this to my sorors,
Friends, and my family.
I just recently crossed in another BGLO, but Zeta is in my heart, has been in my
heart, and always will be in my heart. I will do whatever it takes. Even if I have
to officially change my name. People have the nerve to act all funky and stuff.
My sorors has abandoned me. I’m disappointed and Shocked that My granny
(who is a Zeta) is against my decision the most.
Thank you so much.
2.) I got sidetracked by my current organization because most of the sorors were attractive. Looking back, it was a stupid reason why I chose this organization. I matured a lot within the last few months. Therefore, I believe that I deserve forgiveness and
support for my change of mind.
3.) What are you confused about? I am very serious. These kind of things happen all the time. So, don't act like I'm unsual.
4.) Be happy that I'm now a Christian. I was not expecting such stankness. It looks like I'm not going to get any
support. I must leave or I will say something unchristianlike.
5.) I don't know how to put this any other way. I HAVE MATURED. SO WHY DON'T I DESERVE ANY ENCOURAGEMENT?
6.) I'm not just a negro. I'm a 100% fine and Christlike BLACK WOMAN!
7.) Oh hell no they didn't! And yall say that I'm out of place?
Don't get beside yourself and start showing your tail on the net if you KNOW you would not react the same face to face.
Oh yea one mo' thang, you be happy that you are a Chrisitian and that you now don't have a place in hell.
Hammmmmmmmmmmmercy! You all are beginning to test me. I think will have that ice cold Negro Please and BLUE kool-aid, because I best to cool down.
8.)Who is supposed to be blupizzazz? A different pain in the a$$?
9.)This thread needs to be shut down. I'm not getting anything constructive.
10.) I'm trying to leave but yall won't stop replying.
11.) Girl, because yall know that I have to have the last word.
12.) And please tell them that you're not me. We're stirring two different pots and I stir mine better!
13.) I forgot yall!
You can read more of my posts here.
14.) Hi! I don't have much to say. My thread in AKA has been deleted. But numerous peeps challenged me to come over here. Well, I'm here. What's up?
15.)Sorry for the confusion yall. I meant ShamikaT arrives at 7:07pm as in getting off a flight. But if yall want to view my arrival as a baby arriving, I'm cool with that too. I'm glad that I'm so highly thought of that my arrival at DST reminds yall of birth!
16.)People were acting all stank over there on pledge park too. At least yall didn't accuse me of being a carpet licka.
17.)Naw, I just came over to make an appearance. You know some of yall challenged me to come over here. Shamika LaQuandra Taylor ain't no punk.
18.) SMH
She's the one who first challenged me to come to DST and then took her tail out of town.
In post #9 you said, "This thread needs to be shut down. I'm not getting anything constructive." But you were wrong, you CHOSE not to take heed in the constructive posts.
Perfect example,
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Originally posted by The Truth
Ms. ShamikaT,
I have seen that many people have read this and have not responded, but I wanted to say something.
You made the adult decision to become a member of an organization, knowing that you had a greater interest in another. So accept the consequences that have came as a result. You can't expect the members of your organization, who may have a love for yall's organization, to understand your "love" for another. The foundation of yall's bond is the organization, and you must have made it clear to them that you wish you had pursued another.
Accept responsibility of your actions and realize the effect it is having on you and those around. Only a woman can make the decision to commit herself to something for life, and you have done that. So now all you can do is deal with it as a woman. You live and you learn.
The next time you have a strong desire to do something, you will know the repercussions of "settling for less". Maybe this will give you more motivation to remain focused on what you really want.
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The Truth told you just that, the truth, and you need to hear it. You are an adult, and you made an adult CHOICE! Suck it up and move on. You're about to be 21 in a couple months, it's time to start growing up. You may think I'm harsh, but you need a serious reality check!
In post #5 you said, "I don't know how to put this any other way. I HAVE MATURED." Actions speaks louder than words. Can you honestly say that you have acted maturely on these message boards? Some of these men and women may be your elders, and I'm sure that you have been raised to respect your elders. But that's not the point that I'm trying to make. The point that I'm trying to make is that YOU made a CHOICE. No one made it for you and no one made you make it. A part of me is still skeptical. I cannot understand how someone can "knowingly" CHOOSE to devote their entire life to an organization and change their minds like they're changing clothes. Maybe it's not for me to understand. But I do know that it's not that simple. Nobody held a gun to your head and made you do it. It was your CHOICE. And then you CHOSE to come on a message board where people from all over the country and maybe even the world participate in, to ask for...what was that again...reassurance? Why? They don't even know you... You can't be serious. But just incase you are, here's a bit of advice; take some time, and the energy that you're using to bicker on a message board with people you don't know about something only you can help yourself with, and go soul searching so that you don't keep making CHOICES you don't want to make. Your time soul searching will be well spent.
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