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Originally Posted by Texasmom15
Let me state again that I am very new to Greek Life and have a lot to learn. I think you are correct that it would help for the PNM's to be reminded that they are "ranking" chapters rather than "cutting" them. PNM's are frequently reminded during the recruitment process that this is a "mutual selection" process, so that also lends to them believing they are "cutting" rather than "ranking". Some are surprised that a chapter they "ranked" toward the bottom of their list never actually leave their dance card.
This is a great forum for those of us that are learning......that said, I want to reiterate that my daughter did not find any chapters "repugnant", but rather out of 12 houses, she found one that she was not a good fit for. Why is this so surprising, are the PNM's expected to fit everywhere? I stated that she thought the girls were very nice and did a good job making her feel welcome, but they were involved in activities different than what my daughter was looking for.....from there one of the posters jumped to stating that she found this house "repugnant" and that as far as she knew "none of the chapters at TAMU were into torturing puppies or eating raw sheep eyeballs".....WOW that is a huge jump from "they were really nice but I didn't fit".
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Originally Posted by Texasmom15
Thanks DubaiSis
You are correct, I did take away the "ranking" versus "cutting" information which helps in understanding the process. My daughter is very happy - already attending chapter events with her new sisters and thrilled that she not only ended up on a house but that she met so many great friends during the recruitment process (from every house).
As a mom, I am glad to know that none of the chapters are torturing puppies or eating raw sheep eyeballs......kinda funny now that I read that line again. I won't sweat it and again, thanks for the info.
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When moms quote their pnms as making blanket statements about a chapter like "the activities they enjoyed were not the activities my daughter was hoping for" it id suspect. At big Greek schools like TAMU, even the smallest chapters have about 100 members. To really believe that someone has absolutely nothing in common with any of the women or other new members of a chapter is ridiculous. Basically, statements like yours, particularly when used in conjunction with phrases like "I kept cutting them but they kept reappearing on my list" are code words for "I'm not bottom tier material like these girls."
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