On the other message board where you posted this question, the following replies were given:
I mean..... seems to me like you're doing everything right. That's not to say you will definitely be chosen when the time comes -- we're not in that chapter, so we can't say for sure.
If this organization requires some sort of letter of recommendation or sponsorship, I would start using your networks to secure that. Through that process you will be able to meet more seasoned members who can answer your questions better than we can.
I must say though.... if
more than one member told me to look into other organizations, I might take that as a sign.
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1. Your interest is plain by your actions - don't speak on it.
2. If someone tells you this MAY NOT be for you - know this is a standard tactic we say to anyone. Why? Because if you really want it, what ONE or TWO people say won't sway your heart.
3. Just because no one is talking to you doesn't mean you're not being noticed. If you really have been to 12 or so events trust me you're noticed.
Need a letter? Seek a Grad member. Have you attended any of their events? I would make my next two to three theirs they are much more open-minded about these things after seeing your work ethic.
Need Reassurance? We can't give you that, only you can. If you KNOW what you KNOW then you don't have to ASK. Ask yourself have I done what I would expect an aspirant to do? [Attend events, carry yourself well, grades, service] Ask yourself have I attempted contact with members? Yes, if they are "assy" instead of "classy" that MAY BE a sign that someone of your obvious standard should take note of. If you say I know thats just par for the course then take it like that and keep it moving.
All in all I will say this; being chosen now, a year from now or ten still means you will be chosen, when its your time. If your heart says you've done all you can do then take advice from Fred Hammond and just STAND.
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It's Donnie McClurkin who made Stand. LOL!! Anyway, if they want you it won't make a difference what you do or not.
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Don't worry about the "it's not for everybody, look at other orgs" comment. First off it's true, and secondly, that's only her opinion. Sounds like you are on the right track. Good luck to you!
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aww i like how she asked this
i wouldnt stress out...it sounds like you are heading in the right direction
continue to be yourself and attend events...the worst thing u could do start to get fake for the sake of trying to "get to know people"...if that makes senses
i can tell the difference between a "hey girl" and someone who is generally interested in my life
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Faithful,
I know I got the cold shoulder....ALOT. I'd get numbers and let's say, I didnt have much luck. Over summer break I wrote to all of them. I wrote them each personal letters & sent card to the ones that had summer birthdays. Of course, none of them responded but when I got back to school, let's just say...the letters & cards didnt go unnoticed. It's about your effort. Use creative methods to get their attention. If you've been instructed to get to know them personally and you were instructed to look elsewhere, you are probably on the right track
Good Luck!!
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keep doing what you are doing and keep it on the low low
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AND you got compliments on how you posed the question. Now, can you please go back to that message board and say "thank you" for the generous responses?
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