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Disaffiliating?
Hi all,
I joined a sorority at very heavily greek school last semester (2nd semester of freshman year) with a pledge class of about 45 or so girls. I intentionally ignored what sororities my friends were joining and just went with my gut. However, it seems like the other girls in my pledge class didn't. Most girls knew several other girls in the PC, and I've found it very hard to make friends. To make things worse, a chronic illness I have flared up right after bid day, so I missed all the initial retreat/bonding activities. The house is very cliquey (as most are, to some extent, I'd imagine), but I think my house in particular is cliquey. On campus it's the ONE house that doesn't have a stereotype or reputation because SO many types of girls seem to join it. Unfortunately, I just don't seem to be fitting into any of them. Everyone is friendly on the surface and says "hi" if I go sit next to them at chapter dinner, for example, but they always seem to talk about inside jokes and personal things. My big (despite really liking her when she preffed me) really just only spends time with her boyfriend, and we really aren't close at all.
It's gotten to the point where it's so uncomfortable to be there that I just want to disaffiliate. Last semester, I tried REALLY hard to fit in, and I just feel so sad knowing I have all these events (chapter, socials, recruitment meetings) to go to and have no one to go with and just have to sit by myself until all the chairs fill up and someone has to sit with me. Now I'm just so frustrated that I skip a lot of events. I just can't seem to break into any of the circles or get more than a "hey."
I've talked to our Standards board about going inactive because of my illness, but it's unlikely I'll get it because of restrictions about numbers/seniority. They said they'll work with me if I start feeling sick during the semester about missing chapter, but it seems a little pointless to me to pay full dues (around $800 each semester) just to stay in the org and not go to any events.
I don't know what to do. Do people disaffiliate for reasons like that? I just don't feel like the situation will get better if I give it more time. People already have their groups, and I feel like they only become more set in stone as time goes on.
Any ideas/advice/has anyone experienced this?
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