Case of the Ex

[christiangirl]

Alright, this is my situation. Ever since a couple weeks ago, when my ex saw me at church, he's been blowing up my cell phone NONSTOP. This bothers me for 2 reasons: 1) I never gave him that number he got my best friend to give it to him and he's still using it even though she told him I got mad at her for giving out my number without my permission. 2) Although, we've maintained a distant e-mail friendship, we really aren't tight like that anymore. What we had was really special (we were friends first) but in my eyes, it's over now. I know he's lonely b/c he doesn't have that many friends, and since his grandmother died he's been going through a hard time. I don't want to be completely heartless, but our personalities just don't click together anymore and I get really annoyed to see him on my caller id so often. We broke up because he attached himself to me like a parasite (think "Bug-a-Boo" by Destiny's Child, that's how bad it got) and he's starting to do that again. I want to be there for him, but I know him--if you reach out just a little, he will wrap himself around you until you suffocate. How can I ease him off my back without coming off as cold?