Advise on RE-Joining the fraternity you were initiated in.

[imissmabros]

Hey, I need some advise on rejoining the fraternity I was initiated in (duh... that's the title of my thread).

So, this is my story. I liked my bros, pledging, the people, events, and all that stuff... I ended up being initiated, was having a good time and everything was good... until summer came along.

Anyway, when I came back from the summer everything changed.... Yeah I had a tough summer, was working hard, needed the bro bond, someone to give me a holla the whole drama story. When I came back everyone was giving everyone a hard time... like always... but since I just had a tough summer I came back overly emo... Yeah, I had the whole thing... you guys are getting me PO'ed mad and I just can't take it anymore... So, since the decisions they were making made me felt like I was being ignored or not taken into consideration... I got very emo and told them and our organization that I want to get the hell out of my fraternity.
(Yes, I know having a tough summer and being emo is a stupid excuse and I'd probably not do it right now cuz I figured that out)

Anywho... So I left my fraternity for a long ass time... Very long. And quite some times I was trying to convince myself into going back. And so... I tried doing that.

BTW I hope the long ass e-mail doesn't make you guys not want to read this.

Continuing... Yes, I told my bros and my org that I wanted to go back... I now know that I need 2/3 vote to get back in... but it seems like all the efforts I made assured them that I shouldn't be back in their organization, instead of making them give me another chance.

I.E. (made up example) I tell em:

me: "yeah dudes remember those good ass times we had streaking to the gym, mud wrestling, kidnapping us pledges and being thrown into a big ass car with the initiates wearing dark masks"

bros: "That's called hazing stupid dude... we don't do or like doing that anymore"

me: "oh... well this is awkward"


I.E. 2 (made up example 2) Using jelousy as an example:

me: "yeah dudes, I've been hanging out with this local fraternity ( which I was) and they totally want me to join (which they did).

My good bro buddy with a sad expression: "Yeah man... that's cool just don't tell em our secretes"

me (after rush week): [thinking this after getting a letter] "Oh crap... the director of greek life and orientation wants to talk to me".

director of greek life and orientation: "Uhm... you already joined a fraternity and according to our records you are still a member"

me: "hell yeah, I'm going back with my bros"

Bros (kinda pissed off): "Stupid ass... you got us in trouble again... we had people in our roster that shouldn't have been there...."

me: "oh... can I still go back"

bros: "we will vote on it" [meaning no]


Main questions

So anywho... I kinda want to go back because I miss them, but I kinda don't want to go back because I heared that the fraternity has changed (I used to like the fraternity I joined... alot). But since every effort that I make to go back gets my fraternity in trouble I was looking for some advise.

I also had another option... I'm going to grad school and there are chapters of my fraternity there... could I join those chapters instead.
(me thinking... eff you guys.... all the money I would have donated to your chapter now goes to the fraternity which I went to grad school for)

Here are the questions though:

Could it be possible for me to go back to my fraternity where I go to college currently somehow (without getting them in trouble)? And if so (which technically I could), what steps do you guys recommend for me to take?

Could I go to the fraternity during my grad school years?

Did you actually read the long ass thread post?


P.S. Yes I do look like a normal person even if my writing is weird... I don't have a hunchback, one eye, or creep out the girls at a party.