the average sorority girls

[ninjabunny]

can someone describe to me the average sorority gurls? from the way they dress to the way they walk, more descriptive the better. I told my boyf earlier that I was interested in joining a sorority. He said that my personality doesn't fit in a sorority, that I won't converge well with those girls. He said that those are the girls that I see on tv, they are glamorous, rich, and "mainstream". My bf is in a frat, so his words should be right. is the greek system for everyone? By the way, I will be a freshman at UC Berkeley, any Berkeley greeks' or general greeks' comment or advise will be helpful

thanx

[RUgreek]

Wow, your boyf sounds like a shmuck. Telling his woman she wouldn't fit into a sorority after saying that you wanted to join? Maybe he's the one that doesn't fit in to the greek system. Personally, I have met ANYONE that wouldn't fit into the greek system. There are chapters for any type of person in college, smart, social, business, service, big, small, dirty, and clean. Go to rush, don't ask what a typical greek is, there is no easy way to answer that.

RUgreek

[Eli]

Every sorority is different, I am sure you can find one to fit your lifestyle. You cant group all people into one catagory, just because they are in a greek organization. All greek organizations have a strong point.

Easy E

[ZChi4Life]

I agree with what has been said. I believe that there's a sorority out there for everyone. You just have to look for it. I say go to Rush and see for yourself if you fit in. Don't let your bf tell you whether or not you will. Rush is a fun time. If you decide that you don't fit in, at least Rush will have given you the chance to hopefully meet some great people and maybe even make a friend or two Good luck!

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A Radiant Lady of
Zeta Sigma Chi Multicultural Sorority, Inc.
http://www.umich.edu/~zchi

[theXgirl]

Considering I am in the CAL(Berkeley) area, I can tell you first hand, you will have MANY choices to pick from. NPC, NPHC, Asian Intrest, Latino Intrest, Multicultural, etc. I would really suggest waiting until spring before you jump into the sorority scene. The school alone has so much going on you'd really want to get settled before joining the mass hysteria of the CAL greek family. It would give you a chance to check out all the houses also.

This link is for the CAL student activities office sponsored greek page http://www.uga.berkeley.edu/sas/frats.shtml

There are 5 NPHC sororities:
Sigma Gamma Rho http://www.sgr1922.org

Alpha Kappa Alpha http://www.aka1908.com

Delta Sigma Theta http://www.dst1913.org

Zeta Phi Beta http://zpb1920.org

Gamma Phi Delta--this link is to their alpha omega chapter which is located at Eastern Michigan Univ.. It has general info about the sorority. Note: They are not part of the NPHC but are an African American interest org. http://www.angelfire.com/mi2/gphid19...ega/enter.html

There are 12 NPC sororities, ALL with houses.
($$$$--not for the weak of the wallet):
You can find individual links through this site: http://www.npcwomen.org/memorg.htm

Alpha Chi Omega
Alpha Delta Pi
Alpha Omicron Pi
Alpha Phi
Chi Omega
Delta Delta Delta
Delta Gamma
Gamma Phi Beta
Kappa Alpha Theta
Kappa Kappa Gamma
Pi Beta Phi
Sigma Kappa
***maybe Alpha Gamma Delta but I think they may have lost their charter.

If you are interested in a local, Alpha Delta Chi was the only one I came across. They are a christian based sorority:
http://www.geocities.com/CollegePark/Quad/5545/

Two other sororites:

alpha Kappa Delta Phi--Asian Intrest sorority
Alpha Chapter http://www.akdphi.org/berkeley/

Lambda Theta Nu--Latina intrest sorority
Delta chapter (national website) http://www.lambdathetanu.org/

I hope this helps you
The X Girl

OOps!I knew i would forget someone!
Sigma Omicron Pi--Asian Intrest sorority (their site is down)

[This message has been edited by theXgirl (edited September 20, 2000).]

[theXgirl]

Ninjabunny,
I see from your profile you are from the city. Why not hop on Bart one day and get off at the Berkeley station, walk up to the campus(parking is a nightmare) and cruise around the greek row? (The row map is on the CAL greekpage website) That way you can familiarize with the area. Also some of the greeks are comming back to town now since school will be starting soon. Maybe you can ask them some general questions....

The X Girl

[12dn94dst]

Great info Xgirl!! Just one correction, there are only 4 NPHC Sororities: Alpha Kappa Alpha, Delta Sigma Theta, Zeta Phi Beta and Sigma Gamma Rho Sororities Inc. Gamma Phi Delta is a BGLO, but she is not in the NPHC.

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Kelli
Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.
12-Delta Nu-94
MAL, Southern Region
Savannah State University c/o 1997

[This message has been edited by 12dn94dst (edited August 08, 2000).]

[Finer Woman10-A-91]

That was great looking out XGirl!


Now Dearie NinjaBunny...DUMP YOUR BOYFRIEND! He clearly does not value your uniqueness. Do not allow this person to validate your sense of self any longer!

I don't like to see women allow their men to define who they think they are. We are growing everyday. And if you are feeling a sorority might be for you. EXPLORE YOUR INTERESTS! ALL of the info you need from a preliminary standpoint has been provided. Meet the members and good luck!

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Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Incorporated...Every Finer Woman's Dream!

[Corbin Dallas]

Originally posted by ninjabunny:
can someone describe to me the average sorority gurls? from the way they dress to the way they walk, more descriptive the better.

The average sorority girl is fat, skinny, beautiful, ugly, tall, short, rich, poor, nice, bitchy, slutty, and highly moral. In other words, there is no average!

Does your bf go to UC-Berkley? It sounds like he's being pretty closed minded. Maybe from what he's seen though, all of the sor. girls he's met have been conformists that are totally unlike you. Who knows!

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Steve Corbin
Lambda Chi Alpha
Theta Kappa Chapter
Rose-Hulman Inst. of Tech.

[-sketchball-]

no, greek life is not for everyone, but most girls who really want to be a part of it can find a place. it is true, each campus has a few houses like the ones he described (rich, great clothes, perhaps elitist)..... but there are many more sororities at each school that are all about genuine-ness and individuality. the sisters don't necessarily change themselves to conform to one superficial ideal, but they do respect & enjoy each others' diversity. there is no reason why you wouldn't thrive in one of these types of sororities.

and i'd like to know exactly what about your personality makes you "not sorority material." as long as you're generally a pleasant, sweet person, there is no such thing as having a non-sorority personality. i, for example normally prefer male friends, and am pretty reserved. yet i fit in fine with my sisters. i admire and respect them, and i think that they feel the same about me.

------> is it possible that your boyfriend is maybe afraid of you getting too independent, and of eventually losing you? because if you pledge, you will without a doubt have a major social life that does not depend on him. if you stay independent, however, he knows you'll have to rely on him when you want to go out.

[theXgirl]

Thanks for the kudos ladies. I like to keep people informed as much as possible. Sorry about the NPHC slip.

[ninjabunny]

Thank you for all your replies. I will not dump my bf for what he said. Actually, he was the one who changed my view on the greeks. I used to think that fraternities and sororities are for people who didn't get enough popularity in high school. He showed me that there's a positive side to the group. I think in his eyes, I am an individual and not a conformist. I do not wear make-up, I do not spend my excess time coordinating outfits, and the past academic years, I went on a month of hardcore mountaineering, spent a semester volunteering in South America. I think he is right. I belong in a Red Cross org. more than a soro.

Once again, thank you all who read and replied to my mundane topic. I am sure this is not the first time you answer questions about the images of sorority girls.

[theXgirl]

Hey Ninjabunny,

"Once again, thank you all who read and replied to my mundane topic."

My pleasure..

"I am sure this is not the first time you answer questions about the images of sorority girls."

No, It's not the first and certainly won't be the last. But it's good to ask. How else will you find out the answer?

The only thing I ask of you Ninjabunny is, if and when you decide to rush/join:
1. Have fun
2. Look past the stereotypes and see the people.
3. Please make a EDUCATED decision. Know what you're getting into and most of all, be yourself, be yourself, BE YOURSELF!

X Girl

[RUgreek]

I wouldn't go as far as suggesting to dump the guy over making a comment like that. I just believe people have to make their own decisions in life, and have the support of another even if it doesn't seem right. I'm not looking for a debate here, so that's all I want to say on that. Seriously though, I just hope you don't decide not to even try to join just based on 1 fraternity brother's opinion. Go make your own opinions and decisions on what your personality fits into or not.

RUgreek

[theXgirl]

Ninjabunny,

So have you checked out the CAL greeks yet? Just curious...

X girl