When is the right time?

[Ideal08]

Well, yall know me, I'm full of questions. So here's a new one.

At what point do you feel comfortable leaving your lady friend at your apartment/house alone? Is this something that you don't think about (like, it doesn't really matter), or is it always a no-no, or what?

[AKA2D '91]

Now, Soror, you know I gotta flip the script...

When ladies, do you let ole boy (lol) stay at your abode when you are away, or do you allow this to happen at all?

TELL US ABOUT IT!

I trip myself out sometimes!

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:
Now, Soror, you know I gotta flip the script...

When ladies, do you let ole boy (lol) stay at your abode when you are away, or do you allow this to happen at all?

TELL US ABOUT IT!

I trip myself out sometimes!

Wait yo turn, 2D! You know how to do it!

[The Original Ape]

Originally posted by Ideal08:
Well, yall know me, I'm full of questions. So here's a new one.

At what point do you feel comfortable leaving your lady friend at your apartment/house alone? Is this something that you don't think about (like, it doesn't really matter), or is it always a no-no, or what?

The time is right ONLY after we've hidden all our valuables(and bruhs, I mean ALL!!!)



[This message has been edited by The Original Ape (edited June 05, 2001).]

[Chi_ZETABBW]

When I was younger, much younger, it would have been right away, because I'm sure I would have thought it was "CUTE". I would have cleared out a space in the closet, and gave him a dresser drawer too. But at this age, Never. When I leave everyone who don't live there leaves. And take all your belongings with you.
Zphi

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by The Original Ape:

Wait yo turn, 2D! You know how to do it!

Yeah, I know! I know!

[AlphaChiGirl]

Originally posted by Chi_ZETABBW:
When I was younger, much younger, it would have been right away, because I'm sure I would have thought it was "CUTE". I would have cleared out a space in the closet, and gave him a dresser drawer too.

Oh, I am young (very young--20)...and there's NO WAY IN HELL that I would do that. I guess it's because I've had bad experiences with friends and their boyfriends (ie, domestic violence issues that have affected and threatened my safety), and I'm naturally cautious. I do have friends who have done it after a week ('cause you know how INTENSE those one-week college lust things can be), and have deeply regretted it. So, I would say 3 months...but only in the case of an emergency (like, "my friend called me and needs money bad...I have to go to the ATM).

As much as I love my boyfriend, the thought of him laid back watching my DVDs and using my phone when I'm not around kinda weirds me out. But we're short-timers.

[Aspire]

When she gets to the point that Lark Vorhees was at in "How To Be A Player" you know where she comes in and straightens up a little and hits a brother with some breakfast or just when I feel like I can trust her not to get like Blu Cantrell and hit a brother up

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Looking For the Light

[This message has been edited by Aspire (edited June 06, 2001).]

[This message has been edited by Aspire (edited June 06, 2001).]

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by AlphaChiGirl:
using my phone when I'm not around kinda weirds me out.

Okay! Does he only USE the phone? Or do you let him ANSWER the phone, too?

[AKA2D '91]

Originally posted by Aspire:
or just when I feel like I can trust her not to get like Blu Cantrell and hit a brother up

HE HE HE! Just watch yourself (do the right thing) and you won't have to worry about all that!

[Professor]

I turn all ringers off when I'm entertaining

Originally posted by AKA2D '91:

Okay! Does he only USE the phone? Or do you let him ANSWER the phone, too?

[Professor]

Keep in mind that I am not 20 but 30+. At this age, I think it is a sign of a trusting relationship if I allow my girl to remain at my place - ALONE! And like my Brother stated, I make sure I've put up, taken out, etc. anything I don't want her to see.

[dirtymike1906]

"I turn all ringers off when I'm entertaining" - Professor

Hey frat, is that the real reason they call you "Professor?"

[Ideal08]

I just want to say, yall are funny, LOL!

I have never left any man alone in my apartment. Can't fathom doing it, either. I don't have anything to hide though, I just can't see someone being there when I'm not there. Ugh. Naw. lol

Professor, I think it's a good idea that you turn your ringer off. Unless you tryin' to run games, lol, but anyway. It's nice to hang out with a dude and not have to decipher (yeah, I'm nosy) whether or not he's talkin' to some chick.

And does it matter if you put up all the "valuables?" (yall are funny, lol) I AM NOSY!!! I'm searching high and low in that house, not looking for anything, just snooping. Just like I look in people's medicine cabinets when I visit and use the potty. But that's another thread, lol.

[Professor]

Brothers - See what I mean - lol

"Just like I look in people's medicine cabinets when I visit and use the potty"

Originally posted by Ideal08:
I just want to say, yall are funny, LOL!

I have never left any man alone in my apartment. Can't fathom doing it, either. I don't have anything to hide though, I just can't see someone being there when I'm not there. Ugh. Naw. lol

Professor, I think it's a good idea that you turn your ringer off. Unless you tryin' to run games, lol, but anyway. It's nice to hang out with a dude and not have to decipher (yeah, I'm nosy) whether or not he's talkin' to some chick.

And does it matter if you put up all the "valuables?" (yall are funny, lol) I AM NOSY!!! I'm searching high and low in that house, not looking for anything, just snooping. Just like I look in people's medicine cabinets when I visit and use the potty. But that's another thread, lol.