This fall I went through recruitment at a semi-competitive(most people don't have recs and GreekLife is not a large percentage of student pop.) large southern school. I was hopeful going into the process although I knew my gpa wasn't too great for a transfer student and I didn't have much involvement at my community college. There were 9 chapters on campus and day 3 of parties I was to only 1 house, eventually receiving a bid from them. My pi chis encouraged me to see it through to the end, even though I hadn't liked the chapter from the start but saw a glimpse of hope talking to one girl on day 3. So I ran 'home' and gave them a chance.
It's been about a month and I'm still not feeling like this is the place for me. The girls are nice but I don't have much in common with them besides 2-3 of them. Also overall as a chapter I don't feel like I belong here. I've been going to all the optional hangouts to try to meet the initiated sisters and my pledge class sisters but my feelings haven't changed much since the beginning. I've been told the instant 'home' feeling is a fantasy and it takes work which I understand but I've felt a feeling close to that 'now I can breathe easy' feeling at another house during recruitment. Considering they dropped me after 2nd parties, I'm not sure if I should trust my gut and depledge or wait until Big/Little reveal to see if that will help my feelings about my current chapter. I have been dreaming of being in a sorority for many years and don't want to throw away my chance. However, the thought of initiating and spending money on a chapter I'm not happy in doesn't sound far to me or my sisters.
Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
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