Overconfident Mothers?

[greekdee]

Hi All -- I saw the thread in this section about overconfident PNM's...but what about mothers who suffer from too much confidence?!

I was at a Christmas party a couple of weeks ago -- a few friends and I were left with our jaws hanging open when another woman told us her daughter was "pretty much guaranteed a bid to four sororities."

Her girl is a high school senior who has recently been accepted at, and confirmed her enrollment for Fall 2011, at an SEC school. I know all SEC recruitments are fiercely competitive; this girl's particular school is one of THE most competitive.

Mom says DD is a sure thing for four of the sororities, though. Her first cousin is a member of one of them; her guy cousin is good friends with a lot of girls in another. He's also in what Mom deems a top tier fraternity at this school. As for the other two sure things, according to mom, this girl has some friends who are members.

Maybe those factors will help, but we tried to tell her that nobody is guaranteed anything and that recs are a must. She just nodded and smiled politely as though we were speaking of something that did not apply to her.

Two of the women in the conversation were sorority members at this particular SEC school. They told her that over 1000 young women participate in recruitment and that, as great as her daughter is, everyone shows up with the full package these days. They tried to explain first round parties and how her daughter would only have a short amount of time to meet members -- and that not having recs could result in her getting released. Again, the nod and polite smile. She seems to think her daughter is safe with four sororities.

She was not in a sorority herself, but wants very much for her daughter to be Greek. Her daughter is a very sweet girl who would probably have much to offer a sorority -- but I'm afraid Mama is going to sabotage her with ill advice. This is her first child to go away to school.

I did tell her to come do some reading on Greek Chat!

How do you get it through the heads of these moms that their DD's do not enter recruitment with any promises?