Kappa Sweethearts

[determined one]

Hello ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Inc.I am still on my quest to become a member of such a wonderful organization.Last week a Delta told me that she had no respect for Kappa Sweethearts I was surprised since I will become a sweetheart also. I say this because my husband is a new member of Kappa Alpha Psi.As I am told by older kappa men sweethearts are respected and loved by Kappa men they play a big role in organizing events and they also do community service. I realize that they are not a sorority. My question is why are they looked down on. Most people think of them as sluts but I think they are confused with undergrads who just whant to be down.The Kappa Sweethearts that I am around are 30 and up and they are married to Kappa men they arent just girlfriends. I just wanted some of your ideas. If I do some day become a member of your beloved sorority I would not have a problem with being a Kappa Sweetheart also. Alpha Kappa Alpha is what is in my heart. The title of Kappa Sweetheart will never take precedence.Your replys are appreciated.

[tickledpink]

I think some people do relate Kappa Sweethearts with the undergraduate organization. I recently went to a Kappa ball and clearly saw the difference. I was a Kappa Sweetheart in undergrad (we were called Diamonds back then)and I never had a conflict with sororities. It's all in how you carry yourself. There were undergraduate sweethearts who took it upon themselves to "step" and do other things(such as signs and calls...). Those things can be an insult because it can be percieved as disrespectful and mimicking. To me, the key was to have an "air" that I was there for assistance only, and that Kappa Diamond was not a sorority and it was never placed on a pedestal above AKA. I think everyone at school knew where my heart was. As long as you maintain that frame of mind, you should be ok.

[AKAtude]

I was a Kappa Diamond also. Instead of repeating what I said before, you can find out what I and the other sorors had to say in a previos topic. I think Creek brought up this subject a few weeks ago. But everyone has their own opinions. As a matter of fact, one of my cousins is married to a Kappa and was a Kappa Sweetheart for a few years before she pledged Delta through a grad chapter. Like my soror said, it should be ok.

[Diarra]

Well I have to admit that becoming an auxiliary gave me the opportunity to understand better what the greek system was all about. It is true that a lot of things change from one school to another and definitely from one organization to another ( duh!! ) but really it helped me determine whether or not this was really for me because I could see the interaction between the members and what being in an organization entailed as far as responsibilities to the chapter... and all the work that non greeks do not get the chance to really see.
Anyway that was a good thing for me and although some sororities on campus hated us at one point (and I am choosing my words carefully) and although I have heard stories about people going so far as having to renounce their little sister past when on line for sororities. I know this is something that I am actually happy to have done because at the end of the day, I came out strong of what I had learned from this experience. For all of you that are in a sorority I have to admit that I cannot even understand why you would get offended when little sisters step, partywalk or even throw signs. All these things don' t mean anything when done by them. They don't do any community service, they don' t put together programs, there is barely any selection process, they don' t do any of those things that make a great sorority. Why bother really. True you work hard to get the privilege to step, to partywalk, to make your signs and calls but guess what? Nobody will mistake a little sister for a sorority member. Bottom line: this is not the same thing and definitely not the same level. Anyway that was my two cents. I would suggest nonetheless that if you are close to your brothers, then when they have an auxiliary line get involved because you will have the opportunity to get the real deal about these girls. Many of them will want to pledge later. Take this opportunity to get the real information about them and get past that image the prospects put together to be accepted in your sorority. Take care and have a blessed day. (PS I do hope there are no typos here!)

[Crooklyn08]

Good morning Sorors and Sisterfriends!!

I think there's another term that needs to be introduced (if it has not already been) - Kappa Silohettes (oooh PLEASE excuse my spelling, I'm TIRED as heck this morning). I was told that these are the WIVES of Kappas. They are very much in attendance at Kappa conclaves and province meetings and they do a great deal of planning and community service in the name of Kappa (you know, like along side them).

That's a wonderful concept as I believe that all fraternities have similar spousal "auxiliaries" so to speak. However, the undergraduate auxiliaries are the ones that seem to have a lot of the sororities (incl. my sorors) so riled up. A great deal of these ladies become members of these UNSANCTIONED organization and swear they are the best thing since sliced bread. Nine times out of ten, the frat are the ones who are blowing up these girls' heads. I would go on, but I think that I'm going to stop pontificating at this point.

Skee everyone later!

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AKATUDE - Don't Leave Home Without It!

[pretty3grl]

In response, I too was a Kappa Sweetheart for a minute while I was in college. Soror Crocklyn is correct. The term for the wife of a Kappa is "Silhouette". We learned this when we joined the auxillary, and my fiance' is a Kappa, and he already calls me a Silhouette (smile)

[pretty3grl]

Soror Crooklyn, sorry for the typo on your name. Charge it to my brain and not my heart (Smile)!

[pretty3grl]

Soror Crooklyn, sorry for the typo on your name. Charge it to my brain and not my heart (Smile)!

[determined one]

Thanx so much for responding to my question.

[MsBigEZ]

Kappa Sweethearts generally are those young ladies who are in the college scene. With you being married to a Kappa brother a graduation of sorts from being a Sweetheart is to become a member of the Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc Silhouettes. This ladies auxiliary too assists the Kappas with events, community service projects etc...Unfortunatley, the stigma that the Sweethearts has garnered comes from many years of inproprieties that yes, Kappa brothers and thier prospective Sweethearts placed on themselves. This is not to say that current behavior may still be on going or that all Sweethearts be placed with those labels. Check in your area that there might be a chapter of Silhouettes and look into joining. You won't be disappointed

[Senusret I]

The original post was from over eight years ago.

[Little32]

Uhhh....hunh? lol.

[tld2016@aol.com]

On my college campus there were greek and non-greek organizations.....on my campus the non-greek organizations there were Kappa Sweets and Omega Perals.....I pledged Kappa Sweets because thats the organization that i liked....and i didnt have a boyfriend that was a Kappa...I pledged non-greek to see if i can pledge greek....but i left school before i could pledge greek....but i can say that it was a good experience because i met people i didnt know and i gain lifetime friends...Being in Sweethearts are not about being with a Kappa....it's about assisting Kappa's with community service and events....But we still need to remember that before alot of the these ladies became greek a lot of them pledged non-greek....they just don't like to own up to up because they feel as though the non-greek organizations are beneath them....but for me it was a great experience......

[rhoyaltempest]

Originally Posted by tld2016@aol.com

On my college campus there were greek and non-greek organizations.....on my campus the non-greek organizations there were Kappa Sweets and Omega Perals.....I pledged Kappa Sweets because thats the organization that i liked....and i didnt have a boyfriend that was a Kappa...I pledged non-greek to see if i can pledge greek....but i left school before i could pledge greek....but i can say that it was a good experience because i met people i didnt know and i gain lifetime friends...Being in Sweethearts are not about being with a Kappa....it's about assisting Kappa's with community service and events....But we still need to remember that before alot of the these ladies became greek a lot of them pledged non-greek....they just don't like to own up to up because they feel as though the non-greek organizations are beneath them....but for me it was a great experience......

These groups (not organizations) do not officially exist today (and not since 1990; with the exception of the Iota sweets) so there is no issue and definitely no comparison to sororities (organizations/sisterhoods/businesses independently run by women). The end.

[jojapeach]

What is this thing with ellipsis abuse??? Are we just neglecting a plain ol' period in favor of dot-dot-dot? This isn't the only post I've seen like the one above, but I had to speak right here. *sighhhh*