UF Recruitment

hopelessromance · #1 04-27-2010, 08:38 PM

I am planning to go through the fall recruitment as a Freshman. There are sixteen sororities and I have a connection to five. I have been told by others that the ones I don't have family in will cut me right away because I am suppose to keep my interest to the legacy chapters? How will the four chapters I have a connection at treat me then? I am not a legacy to all but the one my mother was in she transferred schools after two. My mom's sister was also in a sorority there but did not become alumnae, she was very known as she married a dean but I am still worried about her quitting and how it might affect me. I also have two cousins who are in different sororities. The last my cousins fiance just graduated and was president of her sorority. I don't know how to approach each sorority because I am afraid they will cut me if they learn I have a connection to another. I know having a cousin in one doesn't make me a legacy but they are currently involved in it and the fear is how do I pick between the different aspects of my family. They fit their sororities to a tee but I second guess myself alot.

KSUViolet06 · #2 04-27-2010, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by hopelessromance

I am planning to go through the fall recruitment as a Freshman. There are sixteen sororities and I have a connection to five. I have been told by others that the ones I don't have family in will cut me right away because I am suppose to keep my interest to the legacy chapters? How will the four chapters I have a connection at treat me then? I am not a legacy to all but the one my mother was in she transferred schools after two. My mom's sister was also in a sorority there but did not become alumnae, she was very known as she married a dean but I am still worried about her quitting and how it might affect me. I also have two cousins who are in different sororities. The last my cousins fiance just graduated and was president of her sorority. I don't know how to approach each sorority because I am afraid they will cut me if they learn I have a connection to another. I know having a cousin in one doesn't make me a legacy but they are currently involved in it and the fear is how do I pick between the different aspects of my family. They fit their sororities to a tee but I second guess myself alot.

We can't predict whether a chapter will cut you because you're a legacy to another.

Just get your recs, prepare well, and present yourself well at every chapter you visit.

As far as chooing between your family members and such, just try to keep an open mind. Family should recognize that you have to make decisions based on your own experiences during recruitment (not on how they feel).

baci · #3 04-28-2010, 09:37 AM

Wow...that was a a lot to take in.

First, take a deep breath! This is your recruitment and you should enjoy it to the fullest. UF is a superb university with a wonderful greek life. Congratulations on your acceptance!!! Do not worry your pretty self with so many what-ifs and unknowns. You should also not stress so much about family situations either. Remember, this is for you and your life. I would like to think your family understands this.

I went to UF back in the day and I know things have changed through time, but from what I know there is no 100% across board rule that you will be cut from orgs because you have ties to others. That is silly. If an org is looking for a reason to cut you over another PNM "MAYBE" they might use this as a reason. I would not worry about it myself. You have no control over what they do and decide. You have control over how you prepare yourself, present yourself, and the decisions you make each round.

What you need to worry about is PREPARATION on a whole. Get all those recs together and be spot on just like KSUViolet06 stated. This is your only worry right now. The rest is out of your control as to what goes on in membership selection.

You are a legacy to one and IMHO this is the one org in which you truly have the connection. I would not stress about the other connections.

Everything will fall into place. So much can happen during recruitment. It always does. Enjoy it. You have one amazing recruitment, so make the most of it.

hopelessromance · #4 04-28-2010, 08:24 PM

Thanks for your advise girls! I talked to one of my cousins when she came over for Sunday dinner and she said that her sorority would give me more attention since she is an active member but since our cousin is also in another and it is her brother's fiance who just graduated and was president her senior year in another that I have to decide which one I like best. It is stressing me out but I just have to take a deep breath and focus on the fun experience of going through recruitment! She was basically like girl this just gives you knowledge of the organizations and can help you pick your favorite and not feel so shy in meeting a ton of new girls. I just hope now that if I pick between my mom's and my cousin's or even my aunts that someone doesn't feel I betrayed them. I can only pick one after all!

agzg · #5 04-28-2010, 08:27 PM

I can't read the first post so I'm going to say that your chances are between snowball's and sure deal.

hopelessromance · #6 04-28-2010, 08:32 PM

Isn't that what anyone's chances are? LOL

33girl · #7 04-28-2010, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by hopelessromance

She was basically like girl this just gives you knowledge of the organizations and can help you pick your favorite and not feel so shy in meeting a ton of new girls. I just hope now that if I pick between my mom's and my cousin's or even my aunts that someone doesn't feel I betrayed them. I can only pick one after all!

Well, they have to pick you too.

The chapters there are huge and a lot of sisters will be making decisions on which rushees they want to ask back.

Just don't go on about your cousin or other family members being in this or that sorority. You never know, the perfect fit for you might be a sorority that no one in your family has anything to do with. Good luck!

KSUViolet06 · #8 04-28-2010, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by hopelessromance

Thanks for your advise girls! I talked to one of my cousins when she came over for Sunday dinner and she said that her sorority would give me more attention since she is an active member but since our cousin is also in another and it is her brother's fiance who just graduated and was president her senior year in another that I have to decide which one I like best. It is stressing me out but I just have to take a deep breath and focus on the fun experience of going through recruitment! She was basically like girl this just gives you knowledge of the organizations and can help you pick your favorite and not feel so shy in meeting a ton of new girls. I just hope now that if I pick between my mom's and my cousin's or even my aunts that someone doesn't feel I betrayed them. I can only pick one after all!

Well, recruitment is also a mutual selection process. So just as you are attempting to discern which chapters fit you best, the CHAPTERS are doing the same. So while you will be making decisions, so will they.

atoheadlines · #9 04-29-2010, 04:27 PM

I am not being a dick but instead of this girl needing advise she needs to stop bragging and be so thankful that she can go through a competative rush and have active family members. The honest truth is with her being so connected she will get more bids than the average girl. Even if she doesn't pick her moms the other sororities are going like that she has previous Greek females in her family. What looks better to sororities in the initial review than getting a active member to write your recs. Girl you need to just be so thankful you have all this because there are so many girls on here freaking out because they don't have anyone to ask for recs. I am sure you won't have a problem picking the right sorority for yourself.

AOII Angel · #10 04-29-2010, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by hopelessromance

I am planning to go through the fall recruitment as a Freshman. There are sixteen sororities and I have a connection to five. I have been told by others that the ones I don't have family in will cut me right away because I am suppose to keep my interest to the legacy chapters? How will the four chapters I have a connection at treat me then? I am not a legacy to all but the one my mother was in she transferred schools after two. My mom's sister was also in a sorority there but did not become alumnae, she was very known as she married a dean but I am still worried about her quitting and how it might affect me. I also have two cousins who are in different sororities. The last my cousins fiance just graduated and was president of her sorority. I don't know how to approach each sorority because I am afraid they will cut me if they learn I have a connection to another. I know having a cousin in one doesn't make me a legacy but they are currently involved in it and the fear is how do I pick between the different aspects of my family. They fit their sororities to a tee but I second guess myself alot.

Okay, let me see if I can get this straight. You are a legacy to one sorority through your mother. You have three cousins in different sororities and a cousin's fiance who just graduated that was a member of a fifth sorority. Is this correct? This should not get you cut from the other chapters. How would they know that the girls in all the other sororities are your cousins? Did it get them cut when they went through? Did it get the last one cut? No. Just don't go to chapter XYZ and talk nonstop about cousin in ABC, cousin in DEF and love of mom's chapter, QRS. I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Like everyone else said, go in with an open mind and see where you feel comfortable. Don't worry about it. What happens happens.

sydney bristow · #11 04-29-2010, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by atoheadlines

I am not being a dick but instead of this girl needing advise she needs to stop bragging and be so thankful that she can go through a competative rush and have active family members. The honest truth is with her being so connected she will get more bids than the average girl. Even if she doesn't pick her moms the other sororities are going like that she has previous Greek females in her family. What looks better to sororities in the initial review than getting a active member to write your recs. Girl you need to just be so thankful you have all this because there are so many girls on here freaking out because they don't have anyone to ask for recs. I am sure you won't have a problem picking the right sorority for yourself.

This is a lovely example of the incorrect advice theme around GC!

1. She isn't really "well-connected". She's only a legacy to one chapter. Honestly, we as actives (unless we personally know them) don't really care or give more consideration to a girl just because her cousin, aunt, etc is a member. Yes, it looks great to have a greek family, but it's not going to make her invincible.
2. What are you talking about "getting an active to write you recs"? There are many orgs that do not allow recs to be written by actives, they have to be written by alumnae.
3. SHE WON'T BE GIVEN MULTIPLE BIDS. This is not fraternity recruitment. That one always irks me. You get ONE bid (if you're lucky)!
4. She won't be "picking a sorority" for herself. PNM's too often think that it's basically just picking which one they want...we have to pick you too!

OP, none of this is directed at you, I wish you the best! Just be wary of incorrect (and frankly, unintelligible) advice.

Another thing, don't go through the houses where you have "connections" and talk about them. I find it a little off-putting when a PNM is like "well yeah my cousin was an XYZ sooo..." in a strange context...chances are if your cousin or whomever wrote you a rec we know about it!

Anyway, good luck and hoping to hear that you found your home come fall!

atoheadlines · #12 04-29-2010, 04:46 PM

Still Syndey all I am saying is if you are lucky to have members still in the sorority you have a greater chance of joining because you have a bond already and can learn more about it easier. She can join already have been mentored about the organization by having family in it already.

atoheadlines · #13 04-29-2010, 04:49 PM

Don't act like you girls don't talk. You are gonna be like my cousin Sally is going through rush and are gonna point her out and everyone is gonna know she is so and sos family member. More than likely if the sorority doesn't give her a bid then it is gonna be drama with the member because her family didn't get in. Greek life is never as blind and fair as we pretend. There are always those who get by in life by who they know not what they achieve.

AOII Angel · #14 04-29-2010, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by atoheadlines

Still Syndey all I am saying is if you are lucky to have members still in the sorority you have a greater chance of joining because you have a bond already and can learn more about it easier. She can join already have been mentored about the organization by having family in it already.

You are wrong. We'd appreciate it if you stopped giving advice to girls when you clearly know nothing about sorority recruitment. Legacy status itself guarantees you nothing with regard to membership selection so having family members in a particular organization wouldn't be a guarantee either. Legacies ROUTINELY get cut from their legacy chapters all over the country! Do you know how large these chapters are at UF? Do you know this girl's cousins? Do you really know that they can get her in? Don't tell her that she's going to get a bid if you don't know. Our process is not the same as your's so butt out.

sydney bristow · #15 04-29-2010, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by atoheadlines

Still Syndey all I am saying is if you are lucky to have members still in the sorority you have a greater chance of joining because you have a bond already and can learn more about it easier. She can join already have been mentored about the organization by having family in it already.

Maybe, maybe not. Also, this isn't even the case with the OP. Another thing, at schools like UF chapter size if often upwards of 200. Having a cousin or two in a chapter doesn't gurantee a thing. I really think you need to stay in your lane. You aren't a member of an NPC sorority and therefore are (perhaps unknowingly) giving misleading advice.