Your Ideal Man

The Original Ape · #1 07-05-2001, 09:20 AM

Bruhs, this one's for the ladies.

Ladies list the dimensions of your ideal man. His height, weight, and whatever you care to list!

CelestialBlu1 · #2 07-05-2001, 01:32 PM

about 5'11...brown...muscular...fit...not too muscular...healthy and verile...intelligent...well groomed...spiritual...not religious...educated...fun loving...but not so much so that he can't be serious and tend to business when need be...adventurous...respectful...inquisitive...goal oriented...orderly...but not a neat freak...freaky but not too freaky like call the cops freaky...

balanced basically...

http://www.angelfire.com/ny5/celestialblues/index.html

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Chi_ZETABBW · #3 07-05-2001, 01:59 PM

Been here before, but WTF:
Bernie Mac's size and height is perfect. I like to know a man can handle all of this. Definitely over 6 feet, but did date a cop who was 5'7 talking about a Napoleon complex, wow.
Dark complexion, but my exhubby and current guy are medium.
Well grommed a must, good sense of humor a must, employed a must, no wacked-out, crazed ex's a must, but did get caught up once.
A christian a must. Overall a man who treats me like the queen I am.

Ideal08 · #4 07-05-2001, 02:27 PM

Well, my list is pretty long, but here goes...

My IDEAL man . . .

- believes in God, wants to grow nearer to Him, and wants to live life right, in the footsteps of Christ
- will love me unconditionally,
- is my intellectual equal (and this does not necessarily mean college educated. College does not make you more intelligent, it just makes you more knowledgeable about some topics.)
- has a sense of humor (VERY improtant)
- is concerned with the state of his race
- respects me
- has dreams and is working towards them
- is interested in my dreams and helping me achieve them
- isn`t afraid to say he`s afraid
- isn`t afraid to ask for my help
- isn`t afraid to accept my help
- isn`t afraid to cry
- isn`t intimidated by what I already have, and what I still want to achieve
- will pamper me the way I pamper myself, because after all, I deserve it!
- is in tune with his emotions as well as my own.
-IS ABLE TO TELL THE TRUTH!!!!! I can`t STAND a liar.

Physical stuff isn't TOO important, but there are certain things that I'm a little picky about:

1) Teeth. Must be well kept and maintained. No unnecessary gold fronts, no discoloration, no halitosis, no teeth sleeping on top of one another. You get the picture.

2) Height. I'm 5'8". I would like for him to be at least 6'. Though I'm partial to men that are 6'2" and taller.

3) Weight. I'm a big girl, so I'm not too comfortable with a SKINNY man. Not thin, SKINNY. There's a difference, lol. I feel you Chi_ZETABBW, I need to know he can handle ALL of this, LOL!

Oh, I guess there is ONE physical aspect that he must have: he must be of AFRICAN descent. I prefer Black American, but I'm flexible, lol.

BlueReign · #5 07-05-2001, 05:09 PM

Ideal,

You sure have a lot of "ideals"!

I don't have an ideal man as far as looks. The only thing is that he has to be clean, intelligent, and something else that I can't list.

Ideal08 · #6 07-06-2001, 01:01 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by BlueReign:
Ideal,

You sure have a lot of "ideals"!

I don't have an ideal man as far as looks. The only thing is that he has to be clean, intelligent, and something else that I can't list.

Girl, after my pastor told us to be specific in our prayers, I figured I needed to be specific about what I wanted in a man. That way I don't end up in no mess I don't want to be in. That's why the physical stuff is the least important on my list. I think you learn a little more about what you want each time you leave a relationship.

Oh, and I feel you, he gotta have skillz, too!

BlueReign · #7 07-06-2001, 02:31 PM

I have learned to take the good with the bad. He can have some of my "ideals" and be lacking elsewhere on my list so I stopped making the list. If he's good to me and makes me feel good and I smile when I think about him then he is my ideal. I think I am about to patch it up with my, well he was my soon to be ex but I'm not sure now

AKA2D '91 · #8 07-06-2001, 02:42 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by BlueReign:
I have learned to take the good with the bad. He can have some of my "ideals" and be lacking elsewhere on my list so I stopped making the list. If he's good to me and makes me feel good and I smile when I think about him then he is my ideal. I think I am about to patch it up with my, well he was my soon to be ex but I'm not sure now

RIGHT, RIGHT!

Conskeeted19 · #9 07-06-2001, 09:50 PM

I really don't have a list; however, he better not pronounce men as "mens" or people as "peoples". I would like for him to be gainfully employed and gainfully ENDOWED

. I would like for him to have God as his head so that he can effectively lead his family. I would like for him to be gentle but firm. I would like for him to be intellectually stimulating. He must be clean ( drug free, disease free, men free, etc...) I would like for him to be patient. Oh, did I mention FREAKY!

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Ok guys I guess I do have a list! I am getting sleepy again. This is all for now!

ZChi4Life · #10 07-06-2001, 10:48 PM

Ok here's my list:

Physically:
He should overall look good to me. If so, I can be flexible w/ some of these characteristics.

-Height: at least 6 ft. (I have dated shorter though)
-Weight: should be proportionate to height (I don't really like skinny tall men...for example Tek from the Real World. EW! I like meat ok?!

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-NICE teeth! No gold teeth (unless WAY in the back of the mouth). They should all be as close to straight as possible. I have very nice teeth (never had braces!). I'm just looking out for my future children w/ this.

-Should be fit. I don't need huge muscles or anything, just a nice build will do. I need to SEE that I can be protected if something goes down, feel me?

Ok, other things:
-MUST be able to communicate! Shouldn't be scared or whatever, to talk to me about problems/issues he's dealing with.
-Should be spiritual
-Willing to learn new things (take that how you will..lol!)
-Should have goals/dreams and should be actively pursuing them
-Should have a steady job and preferably a car (I stress preferably)
-Caring, romantic and generous
-Sensitive (but not TOO sensitive)
-Should care about himself (health and appearance wise). But shouldn't be obsessive w/ his looks.
-Should know what "give and take" means

I think this is the gist of what I consider my ideal man. There's probably some other stuff. But as long as he's good looking and treats me well, I'm straight.

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ClassyLady · #11 07-08-2001, 11:22 AM

Physically:

My ideal man is:
-six feet or taller
-built like a basketball player (muscular, but not too muscular)
-any complexion as long as his skin is clear
-keeps a fresh haircut

Mentally:

My ideal man:
-Believes in God and has a relationship with him, first and foremost
-Respects me

Those are the only two things that I need. I believe that with respect come a lot of other things that help a relationship, but without it that relationship is doomed to failure.

lil_sunshine · #12 10-23-2001, 05:14 PM

I remember reading "The Coldest Winter Ever" and one lesson Winter's father instills in her when she's young is, "Only a hard-working man, a sharp thinker who doesn't hesitate to do what he gotta do, to get you what you need to have, deserves you." I also think that my ideal man should:

1. be honest
2. have a sense of humor
3. be knowledgeable of current world events (not just the world of sports)
4. be able to hold an intellectual conversation without it drifting to the subject of sex, unless it's brought up somehow
5. if he has a child/ children, he had better be responsible for him/her/them (if he's unable to pay child support, he should be spending as much time with him/her/them as possible)

Other than that, that's my ideal man. People always say that a person should marry their best friend, and I think they're right.