Big/Little Opinion Please?

Hey yall!

I know that this is the internet and it's a little ridiculous for me to seek out total strangers for help...but I seriously do not know what to do!

I am a first-year student, and so I got my Big in about October. I was so excited because she was my top choice, and we had so much fun together. Unfortunately, around the same time we Big/Little-d, I had a boatload of problems happen with my boyfriend, my family, my grades, my HS friends, etc., and the stress made me a total mess- I stayed pretty much on the down low until I finally got myself together a little while later.

Ever since then, I've been trying to reconnect with my Big, but it hasn't been working. Talking, Facebook, and texting is uncomfortable for both of us, no matter how hard I try to connect to what made us Big/Little in the first place- and I can promise you that I have been trying very very VERY hard-nothing seems to work. It makes me feel like an awful Little that we never talk or hang out, but I'm not sure how to fix it anymore. Her boyfriend lived in town, and mine doesn't; she goes out constantly, and I don't; we're both taking very intense course loads for the semester and are pushed to the limit to get things done. It seems like everything that made us want to hang out together has been worn down by our busy lives. I have been trying really hard- I try to talk to her or text her, I try to meet up and hang out with her, I go to dinner and sit with her to chat- but nothing has come of it but more awkwardness, and she rarely talks to me. It has gotten to the point that we say hello, hug, and then go on to hang out with our friends. Separately.

Today she told me that she's taking a second Little. I'm not upset because she likes a COB girl enough to make them her Little-I really love all of our new girls and having any of them as a twin would be awesome- I'm upset because I feel like she is replacing me with someone she prefers over me, and who she wishes were her only Little. The new girl that she will obviously take as her second Little is more similar to her and spends more time with her...and my Big obviously likes her more. They are so similar it is ridiculous- and while I'm so happy that both my Big and my new sister found each other, I can't help feeling like an outcast in our 'family'.

So what I'm asking is...does anyone have any advice to help improve our relationship? Any comfort or condemnation? Any stories to tell? Or at least any opinion on this? I feel like the world's worst Little- especially because in my chapter Bigs and Littles are best-friend-soulmate-close. So any kind of advice would be extremely appreciated.

Sorry to bug yall with my problems.
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Thanks yall.