I have been lurking these forums and reading stories into the wee hours for the past week because my sister was going through recruitment at her school. I'm going to tell you the story of her journey through recruitment because I'm a little confused (as well as she) by the outcome!
We can call her Liza
There are four sororities at her school:
A
B
C
D
First Night:
Liza visited all 4 houses.
At
A she already knew some girls from high school and really liked this house. She had also heard alot about them from other people and thought their sorority was on she would want to be apart of.
When she visited
B she didn't know anything about the girls or their sisterhood and immediately felt comfortable and made good conversation with her assigned active. this one just jumped to the top of her list for now.
When she visited
C, the active she was placed with was colder than ica and she had to make all the conversation while the active kept looking at her watch because she "had others places to be". She was more than displeased with the girls at this house and could not see herself here.
Before she went into
D she had already heard many negative things about the girls but went in with a clear and open mind. These girls were the most welcoming by far! She really clicked with them and thy were sweet to her as she was with them. While she didn't really fit with them, she did enjoy their company. (The other PNM's were being snoody and holding up their noses at this party.... This is NOT how my sister would ever act)
That night she had to rank her top 3 and drop 1.
1. A
2. B
3. C
Drop D
Day 2
Liza could be invited back to 3 and got
A, B, D. She was fine with that.
C was no place for her.
She thoroughly enjoyed all 3 houses this night but didn't really care for D's philanthropy. She once again was nice to the girls of
D, but knew this was not a place for her. Many of her friends who were invited back to D the 2nd night were upset and went to all their party's except that one. Liza was a little confused by this because she didn't dislike them that MUCH, she just could never see herself there.
A and
B were pretty even after this night because she enjoyed both skits and philanthropy (as well as the girls) .
Ranking
1. A
2. B
Drop D
Day 3
Out of 12 girls in Liza's Gamma Chi group it's down to 7. For pref night she was invited back to
A and
D. Her favorite and least favorite.
She was ok with this because she knew A was right for her.
For pref night, she teared up at
A because they threw pearls into a fountain with their paired active and were told it represented their purity and would get it back tomorrow at Bid day! She couldn't wait!!
At
D, she was with only a handful of girls and was very uncomfortable. She told her Gamma Chi the situation she was in with D and her Gamma Chi told her to be honest with D and tell them she has interest elsewhere. So Liza told the active she was with that while she thought they were sweet, she had her heart elsewhere. The girls were sad but made sure they had each others phone numbers and parted ways.
She ranked
1. A
2. D
On bid day she was very happy they way things went last night because she knew that if she got a bid it would only be from
A....
lo and behold she got the envelope and it was
D! She was pretty upset and left the student center. All in all out of 12 girls in her Gamma Chi group, she was one of 4 to get a bid.
I understand it's a mutual process... but she knew the first night D was wrong for her and ranked it lowest every night. Something just doesn't make sense to me. She's fine with the way things unfolded and has moved on while I cannot.
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