Daughter Going Through Rush at UT Knoxville

[Morton]

New to the community... I am a Chi Omega from Austin Peay State University. My daughter is heading to UT Knoxville, which will be a MUCH bigger rush experience.

I have managed to secure RIF's for most of the sorority's which she is interested.

I have looked at all of their websites, but really cannot garner much about the groups. Are any of you UT graduates that can give me some insight into what her rush experience will be like?

She is a 4.0 from a private prep school in Nashville, 31 ACT, varsity athletics, leadership in school, etc... Will she just be another number at UT?

Thanks for any insight. Just trying to prepare myself on how to support her through the process.

[FSUZeta]

just be there for her and listen to what she has to say should she have the opportunity to phone you during her rush week. Be excited for her should she receive a bid and send flowers and/or buy some cute sorority gifts-even if it is a different group than your own. be supportive no matter what, and should the unthinkable happen and she does not receive her first choice, or even worse, does not receive a bid, let her cry on your shoulder-even if it is over the phone, then point out some other opportunities available to her on campus. best wishes that she does get her first choice!!

it is tough on the pnms, but it is certainly tough on us mom's too. be sure to use a support system for yourself. and please let us know how everything goes.

[Gusteau]

You might be interested in this thread (http://www.greekchat.com/gcforums/sh...d.php?t=97152&) about UT Knoxville recruitment. This was the first thread I found in a quick search so you might be able to find more. From the looks of that thread recs are very important so you might want to try to get them for all of the sororities and not the just the one's she's interested in. Hope this helps!

[ComradesTrue]

Originally Posted by Morton

I have managed to secure RIF's for most of the sorority's which she is interested.

Secure recs for *all* groups. Every single one of them.

First, her mind could change during the recruitment process.

Second, the groups that she is interested may not be interested in her. That may sound harsh, but better to be prepared and have options to fall back on.

Finally, I concur with FSUZeta. She has given some great advice.

[OleMissGlitter]

Yes she will be just another number at Tennessee. I hate to say that but TN has a very competitive Greek system. I would tell her to go through with a smile on her face and to not have her heart set on one group. If she goes through with an open mind she'll end up having a better experience. I'm sure she'll be fine but she needs to go with the flow. I would tell her not to rely on her legacy status either. In the SEC that doesn't always mean you have an automatic bid. TN has very strong chapters so I'm sure she'll find her home!

[violetpretty]

I believe Chi Omega is a very competitive chapter at an already competitive school, and I imagine she may be one of MANY legacies at Tennessee. Mentally prepare yourselves for the possibility that she may be released, because there are no guarantees with legacy status.

[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by Morton

New to the community... I am a Chi Omega from Austin Peay State University. My daughter is heading to UT Knoxville, which will be a MUCH bigger rush experience.

I have managed to secure RIF's for most of the sorority's which she is interested.

I have looked at all of their websites, but really cannot garner much about the groups. Are any of you UT graduates that can give me some insight into what her rush experience will be like?

She is a 4.0 from a private prep school in Nashville, 31 ACT, varsity athletics, leadership in school, etc... Will she just be another number at UT?

Thanks for any insight. Just trying to prepare myself on how to support her through the process.

UT has a pretty competitive recruitment.

Yes, your daughter seems to have some pretty impressive stats.

However, at Tennessee, you can expect that there will be MANY GIRLS JUST LIKE HER. That makes for a pretty competitive environment.

Keep in mind that the chapters that she is most interested in may choose not to invite her back for whatever reason (because there are alot of great women going through and they really can't keep everyone).

Because of that, it's important for her to remain open minded about all chapters, and not get her heart set on just a few.

Also very important: Yes, she is a Chi O legacy, but keep in mind that she is probably not the ONLY one in recruitment. So do not assume that she has an automatic bid to Chi O. That's not always the case at larger schools. Legacies can and do get released.

No one can really say what her rush will end up like, but I can tell you that there are many impressive women at UT. So there are no guarantees that everything will go perfectly.

As a parent, the best thing for you to do is be supportive. If she does get a bid, be happy for her (whether it is your sorority, her 1st choice, her 2nd choice, whatever). If she doesn't, just be there for her and encourage her to get involved in other stuff and enjoy her time at school.

[ASTalumna06]

Originally Posted by Morton

New to the community... I am a Chi Omega from Austin Peay State University. My daughter is heading to UT Knoxville, which will be a MUCH bigger rush experience.

I have managed to secure RIF's for most of the sorority's which she is interested.

I have looked at all of their websites, but really cannot garner much about the groups. Are any of you UT graduates that can give me some insight into what her rush experience will be like?

She is a 4.0 from a private prep school in Nashville, 31 ACT, varsity athletics, leadership in school, etc... Will she just be another number at UT?

Thanks for any insight. Just trying to prepare myself on how to support her through the process.

Websites aren't TRULY going to give you an idea of what each sorority is like at UT. They're all going to give you pretty much the same information... the basics. They're not going to tell you the personality of the chapter or what the members are like. That's something that your daughter is going to have to figure out for herself during recruitment.

No one here can really map out her experience. Everyone's is different. All we can say is that it will be competitive and she should be aware of that. Having her heart set on just a few groups before she gets to school won't help her in the long run.

This hasn't been said yet, and I don't want you to take this the wrong way, but... Once your daughter leaves for school, take a giant step back. You've helped her, and that's great. But she's going to college and once she's there, you can't watch over her shoulder.

The only advice you can and should give her is to keep an open mind, be herself, put her best foot forward, and enjoy the experience. And if she has questions/concerns/tears of sorrow/tears of joy, and she feels like she needs to share her experience with you, she will.

Good luck to your daughter and hopefully she finds exactly where she's meant to be... whether that be in a sorority or elsewhere

[sassygal]

Originally Posted by Morton

New to the community... I am a Chi Omega from Austin Peay State University. My daughter is heading to UT Knoxville, which will be a MUCH bigger rush experience.

I have managed to secure RIF's for most of the sorority's which she is interested.

I have looked at all of their websites, but really cannot garner much about the groups. Are any of you UT graduates that can give me some insight into what her rush experience will be like?

She is a 4.0 from a private prep school in Nashville, 31 ACT, varsity athletics, leadership in school, etc... Will she just be another number at UT?

Thanks for any insight. Just trying to prepare myself on how to support her through the process.

You have gotten some good advice on this forum. The only thing I wanted to add was that it appears that the first round of parties are short rounds 15 minutes. Unfortunately, this means first impressions will go a LONG way. The ones going through recruitment that really get noticed this day are the ones who "light up a room" when they walk in. The girls who are shy have a much harder time.

Good luck to your daughter and you should also keep an open mind. Hopefully, she will have a perfect recruitment, but keep in mind that I have seen a lot of really great girls get released through the process. You just never know and there are no guarantees.

[BlueCarnation]

Does she know any other girls who have been through the process there she can talk to? That might help both of you. And definitely do get recs for every house--she may think she's only interested in certain ones, but may come to find that she really likes some others. Just tell her to be herself, be positive, and not try too hard. Good luck to her!

[NutBrnHair]

Originally Posted by violetpretty

I believe Chi Omega is a very competitive chapter at an already competitive school, and I imagine she may be one of MANY legacies at Tennessee. Mentally prepare yourselves for the possibility that she may be released, because there are no guarantees with legacy status.

You are correct.

[PJS]

Yes, yes and yes to all of the above posters.

I was in your shoes a couple years ago. My daughter had a similar HS resume. She is also an exceptionally positive, optimistic person. I was outwardly not assuming anything, but inwardly wasn't worried at all. As another alum told me, "You can't possibly believe that [our] house could cut her, do you?"

Sure enough, my own chapter cut her. I was stunned. The other greek alums in our community were stunned. She pledged somewhere else, ended up loving her greek experience, and life goes on.

What you have to remember is this: chapter recruitment decisions are made by 19-21 year old young women. It is an imperfect process. When my daughter called absolutely devastated after being let go by my house, she said, "Mom, they didn't like me!!" To which I replied, "Honey, they didn't KNOW you." She felt very personally rejected because it obviously wasn't due to a lack in her activities/grades/references etc.

One of my favorite threads is the Recruitment sticky on "You'll end up where you were meant to. . . " Sometimes the system works the way you think it should, and sometimes, frankly, it is very capricious and arbitrary.

To this I would also add: legacies are often not given the same deference that they were 25+ years ago when I was in school. As many on these boards will tell you, often enough legacies go through these days to fill a pledge class. Chapters cannot possibly take them all. Legacies often get an automatic invite to the second party, and that is the extent of the additional consideration.

You are right to be mentally prepared for any possibility before recruitment. Now, after giving you the worst case scenarios, you are to be congratulated on raising an accomplished daughter that has an excellent resume. Yes, many others at UT will also have strong credentials, but hers will be among the best. There is no reason to think that she won't have a very successful recruitment, whether that ends in her affiliation with Chi O, another chapter, or the decision not to affiliate at all. Good luck to both of you. (It is a much more intense week as a mom than I ever thought it would be!!) I hope you follow up and let us know how it turns out for both of you!

[gee_ess]

Kudos to PJS. Very good comments and advice!


(although I do take exception to your TJ quote! I would probably argue that federal regulations put on banks are the evils TJ would be speaking of today )

[33girl]

Originally Posted by PJS

it is very capricious and arbitrary.

Thanks Cosmo Kramer. LOL

Also, UT and APSU are two very different institutions. Just as you should be prepared for your sorority to possibly not bid her, be prepared that she may not like your sorority, or may decide Greek life isn't for her at all. If this is her decision, take it with good grace. (I know you know all this on an intellectual level, but I think it bears repeating.)

[Fleur de Lis]

There are plenty of Nashville girls at UT, so have her contact active sorority women she knows who go to UT. This may give her some tips on UT recruitment and hopefully people in the houses to pull for her!