Boyfriends

HotPinkRose · #1 01-11-2007, 08:32 PM

Just a quick question...

What do you all think of girls who do not come to chapter meetings because they want to spend time with their boyfriends....or girls who give you an availability that goes around the days or nights they may spend (or want to spend) with their boyfriend?

tunatartare · #2 01-11-2007, 08:39 PM

I don't like them.

Seriously though, the sorority is a big responsibility and they should know that they have a commitment to it, but sometimes, there's only so much that you can do in a situation like this. I have a bigger problem with girls who leave the sorority because their current boyfriends don't want them to be in one.

cheerfulgreek · #3 01-20-2007, 04:30 AM

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Originally Posted by tunatartare

I don't like them.

Seriously though, the sorority is a big responsibility and they should know that they have a commitment to it, but sometimes, there's only so much that you can do in a situation like this. I have a bigger problem with girls who leave the sorority because their current boyfriends don't want them to be in one.

I agree. If these so called "boyfriends" can't understand then these girls don't need to be with them. I ditched a guy for the same thing.

PiRhoPres · #4 04-05-2007, 04:47 AM

I think it's sad because these are usually the type of girls who always have to have a boyfriend in order to feel validated. Anyone in college should have some good time management skills and if meetings as they should be with advance notice that's not really a good excuse. Most of my sisters have boyfriends and they all know how to plan their schedules so that this problem doesn't occur. I don't usually have this problem because I don't have an on campus boyfriend, but if he calls me I let him know I have to call him back. I think guys like it when they know that we are involved in more productive things, it's a turn on. When a girl lives and breathes for a guy it can scare the hell out of them.

Yami_Cassie · #5 04-10-2007, 07:24 AM

I think girls with boyfriends need to prioritize. Most boyfriends worry about their girlfriends joining sororities because they feel that the sorority will take up all of the girlfriends time and separate them, and unfortunately, often this is the case. Missing pinning or initiation, some things are unacceptable. However, not going to your sororities fingerpainting committee's meeting to see your boyfriend instead is okay. I would be rather upset if my boyfriend told me that he was spending each day with his fraternity and he could only squeeze me in once a month. There needs to be a balance on both sides.

Afishsticks · #6 06-23-2007, 04:30 AM

It appears I am probably one of the 'sisters' type that would be sacked. I didn't miss much, not the big ceremonies... but I ducked out of the social gatherings early, and wouldn't be one to go out with the girls after the meeting.

I started dating my boyfriend when I was still in the process of pledging to SAI, and he really didn't understand... But with him not in college, it was hard trying to balance it and explain why I wanted to do it. Eventually, it got too hard to be able to spend time with him, continuing school, being a fulltime SAI member, and working fulltime... something had to give... I am now in the 'inactive' list of members, saddly...

And yes, I do regret it sometimes, because I don't have all that many friends in school or anywhere, and I seemingly gave up on some that I shouldn't have...

#7 01-11-2007, 08:46 PM

When I was a collegian, members were allowed to miss a total of one meeting for personal reasons. Each time she missed a meeting thereafter, she'd have to write a letter stating why she missed a meeting. EC would then vote on whether to accept or reject the letter -- and then take any action necessary, usually a fine. Missing recruitment events/Ritual incurred the heaviest fine. Exceptions were usually made if missing the meeting was school-related.

Seriously though, if a member's dumb enough to say "I'm not coming to a meeting/event because I'd rather spend time with my BF..." then do you really want them as a member? Why bother even being in a sorority?

PhoenixAzul · #8 01-11-2007, 09:55 PM

^^ What she said.

Ritual and meetings have the largest fines because, well, they're most important. We give girls 2 meetings for personal reasons. Work is not an excuse. Meetings are always on the same day at the same time...schedule around. If something desperate happens, let us know. We have a 24 hr rule w/ personal days.

Fines+ standards committee/ exec council.

KSUViolet06 · #9 01-12-2007, 01:46 PM

The only things that were valid excuses for missing any required event like chapter meeting were class, school related events, things like doctor's appointments (with signed note on letterhead from Dr.), and if you were in a wedding (since those are planned so far in advance). Spending time with your bf was not included in the list.

Girls need to manage their time better to be able to fit in things like "bf time". If they keep missing meeting for it, follow your bylaws or whatever attendance rules you have in place and discipline them appropriately.

33girl · #10 01-12-2007, 01:58 PM

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Originally Posted by HotPinkRose

Just a quick question...

What do you all think of girls who do not come to chapter meetings because they want to spend time with their boyfriends....or girls who give you an availability that goes around the days or nights they may spend (or want to spend) with their boyfriend?

I think they are getting very terminated from the sorority very soon.

CutiePie2000 · #11 01-12-2007, 04:02 PM

I don't feel like going to work b/c I want to spend time with my b/f. I wonder if my employer would go for that?

Munchkin03 · #12 01-12-2007, 11:14 PM

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Originally Posted by HotPinkRose

Just a quick question...

What do you all think of girls who do not come to chapter meetings because they want to spend time with their boyfriends....or girls who give you an availability that goes around the days or nights they may spend (or want to spend) with their boyfriend?

They tend to be single by the next semester. Oh, and stupid too.

delirio39 · #13 01-19-2007, 03:38 PM

Here is the deal. I don't like the fact that a girl would choose her sisters over her boyfriend. That shows that she would rather spend time with her sisters then with you. But at the same time if she makes it clear that her sorority is part of her life, her boyfriend should be understanding. If you miss a ritual or a mandatory event that is one thing, but if its just to hang out with your sisters that would bug a bf...