Informal Recruitment Problem/Question

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I am beginning the process to go through informal recruitment at my school. There are several ways of doing this at my school, including giving my information to head of the informal recruitment and being invited to random events to get to know the chapters, which is what I would like to do. The problem is that I do not want my information to be given to one particular chapter. Without out getting too dramatic or detailed, my abusive (including physically) ex-boyfriend is the boyfriend of an active at one of our chapters. I am scared of him and do not want to be near him and do not want him to know that I am going through recruitment. First of all, it is a safety concern. Secondly, I do not want either him or the active to spread lies about me and our relationship to the different sororities as he has done to our mutual friends, acquaintances, etc. I am not as worried about him learning about it after the fact, regardless of whether or not I am invited to join a sorority. If I am initiated into one, I would feel more safe running into him, etc. having girls with me that I know and feel comfortable with, etc. than I would with a bunch of girls who do not really know much about me and if I do not get initiated, then there would be no need to worry about run into him at Greek events and if he feels the need to say things, they have already decided not to initiate me anyway.


My question is, should I tell the head of informal recruitment very briefly about my concern for my safety if my information were to be given to this chapter and ask that it be given to every one but that chapter or should I just follow the other informal recruitment choices instead of doing all of them. I feel like my chances would be better if I were to do all of them because I would get to meet more of the women and they would get to know me better and see how committed I am. I do not want to cause problems but I also want to be able to do what I would like to do (which is do all of the informal recruitment choices and hopefully get initiated into a sorority after) and not have him completely running my life still and I would obviously like to be and feel safe as well.


Sorry this post is so long! Thanks for your help!