TCM's rush/semester thoughts

[TCMJuiceVA]

Hi, this is going to be a hell of a first post, but I felt it was important enough that I share my thoughts.

I'm a rising second year at UVA, and we do rush in the spring semester. I did rush at the beginning of the semester, but some might say I had a bad experience. I really went into rush not knowing much or what exactly I wanted out of it. The thought of being greek didn't really cross my mind until late my fall semester when I realized all the benefits of pledging a fraternity. I was at a disadvantage during rush, as I didn't even know where to begin where to rush. I followed my logic, my dad is at an alum at UVA and an active alum of a fraternity here, so I figured that would be the obvious choice to begin rushing. He even wrote the president telling that I was a student here and will probably be rushing, much to my discovery only a few weeks before spring semester began. While also important, one of cousins is an active brother, my uncle and one of my cousins in an alumi of this fraternity as well. Additionally, another fraternity here seemed like another obvious choice because many people from my hometown pledge there. Strong connections from the hometown can't hurt right?

Through this I had my top two. As you may have assumed already, neither of these choices worked out for me. The other fraternity with people from my hometown cut close to final hours was simply because the senior members didn't know me that well. I accepted this, as it takes a whole house to give you a bid. However, the fact that my dad's fraternity cut me after the very first round surprised and concerned me to say the least. I had met a substantial number of the brothers, some of which I really got to know well. Also, with my alumni support, especially from my father, it confused me why they made this decision. Also, much to my dismay, last week I was asked to leave one of their parties for an unspecified reason. To my knowlege, I did absolutely nothing to warrent this kind of action at this party or even during rush; the possiblilty that I got blackballed is highly unlikely. No dancing with potential girlfriends/current one's of brothers, no breaking of items in the house, and no hate of any kind toward the actives. I really wanted to like these guys, I met some really fine gentlemen with my experience. Its a shame it was cut so short, and also apparently not welcome at their open social events.

From inside the greek community, is this a behavior that happens frequently? Does any of this make sense? Everyone who is on my side in the greek system can't make much sense of my situation. What are your thoughts? Should I give rush, my dad's fraternity in particular, another shot?